Guys - girls who are "normal" sized or have a belly?

summer92008
summer92008 Posts: 202
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So I've been dieting for 2 months now and have dropped 10 lbs. I'm 139 lbs now and 5'6'' tall.
I have skinny legs and arms, but I tend to carry my weight in my belly. I don't have a huge stomach by any means, but it isn't flat. A little soft, I would say lol.

What do guys think of girls with stomachs that aren't so flat. It is the only part of me that I am insecure about. My boyfriend says he loves the way I look, but I can't get past my stomach. I think I look fine in clothes, but not so great without them.

Thoughts, opinions, experiences, or stories anyone?
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  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    If he says he loves the way you look... let it go.

    I struggle with my legs- but the reality is- there is little to be done with them_ I am working as hard as I can at all times on all things- getting hung up on one thing won't help.

    So keep working out- keep doing the things you're doing- and move on. He clearly doesn't care- so don't worry about him- just worry about you doing what you gotta do.
  • NotRailMeat
    NotRailMeat Posts: 509 Member
    My boyfriend says he loves the way I look
    End of Thread
  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    this sounds like one of those people who wants to lift weights and doesn't realize it...
  • BrillFit
    BrillFit Posts: 368
    So I've been dieting for 2 months now and have dropped 10 lbs. I'm 139 lbs now and 5'6'' tall.
    I have skinny legs and arms, but I tend to carry my weight in my belly. I don't have a huge stomach by any means, but it isn't flat. A little soft, I would say lol.

    What do guys think of girls with stomachs that aren't so flat. It is the only part of me that I am insecure about. My boyfriend says he loves the way I look, but I can't get past my stomach. I think I look fine in clothes, but not so great without them.

    Thoughts, opinions, experiences, or stories anyone?


    Have you ever seen pulp fiction? If you have, you will know how men feel haha.

    But for the most part - the belly is the last place for fat to leave and it takes a lottttttt of hard work to tone it down.

    Personally, I like em both ways. Toned, or even just "almost" flat or whatever you wanna call them.

    Fitness is for yourself, so if you don't like it, change up your eating habits and get it to a stage where you're happy with it =) My suggestion.. Start lifting if you don't already!
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Eryone is diffrint
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    Can't answer for everyone. I can answer for myself. It would be nowhere near the top of my list. My items are face/personality/hair/legs/arms/chest/stomach. So it's pretty much at the bottom of my list meaning I don't care unless it's more than "a little bit". That said a really toned stomach is more attractive than a soft squishy one.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    Everyone is different and your boyfriend loves you. Yup. That about sums it up.
  • summer92008
    summer92008 Posts: 202
    These are a few photos of me. I have lost weight since the pics, so I've shrunk a little bit. But not a whole lot of difference. Sorry about the quality, too, uploaded from my phone. And excuse the makeup in the dress pic, it was a couple years back and embarrassing to look at now lol.

    http://s1268.photobucket.com/user/summer92008/library/?sort=3&page=1

    And I am so happy and glad that my boyfriend finds me attractive and loves me just the way I am, but unfortunately, it doesn't take away my own insecurities.
  • summer92008
    summer92008 Posts: 202
    Also...a lot of people have suggested that I lift. I have no experience or knowledge on the subject, so I have no where to start with that, but I will definitely consider it.
  • bjg2993
    bjg2993 Posts: 107
    Congratulations on losing 10lbs :)

    Now ask yourself why you have done that? Is it for yourself or for your boyfriend and future boyfriends?

    It should be the former, and therefore not matter what guys think of how you look. Anyone worth going out with won't care what your stomach looks like, and as your current boyfriend doesn't you shouldn't even need to ask this question. You're fine :)

    And if you're not satisfied with yourself because of your stomach you need to accept it's something beyond your control and work out to firm it up the best you can. It's not the end of the world if it's never flat or perfect.
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    These are a few photos of me. I have lost weight since the pics, so I've shrunk a little bit. But not a whole lot of difference. Sorry about the quality, too, uploaded from my phone. And excuse the makeup in the dress pic, it was a couple years back and embarrassing to look at now lol.

    http://s1268.photobucket.com/user/summer92008/library/?sort=3&page=1

    And I am so happy and glad that my boyfriend finds me attractive and loves me just the way I am, but unfortunately, it doesn't take away my own insecurities.

    I can't get to your pictures from work. What were you rated on hotornot?
  • fivethreeone
    fivethreeone Posts: 8,196 Member
    A short lesson in English grammar: "Guys," has an S at the end of the word, which indicates plural usage, ie, more than one guy (slang: male human).

    A single guy (sl: male human) may indeed prefer more or less belly, depending on the guy (male human), however, when speaking of a GROUP, as is indicated by the plural, no such singular opinion can be given. A plurality will always have a plurality of opinion.

    Thus, I contend that the question is flawed and award you no points. May God have mercy on your soul.
  • valkaree
    valkaree Posts: 519
    If you are insecure about it, lose it.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    You care more about what strangers on the net think than your own boyfriend....?
  • Daiako
    Daiako Posts: 12,545 Member
    Some guys like women who are 4'10 and 80 pounds. Some like women who are 6'0 and 150 pounds. Some like women who are 5'4 and 255 pounds. My man likes women with skinny waists and big behinds.

    You see where I'm going with this? Yes?
  • _BearNecessities_
    _BearNecessities_ Posts: 432 Member
    A short lesson in English grammar: "Guys," has an S at the end of the word, which indicates plural usage, ie, more than one guy (slang: male human).

    A single guy (sl: male human) may indeed prefer more or less belly, depending on the guy (male human), however, when speaking of a GROUP, as is indicated by the plural, no such singular opinion can be given. A plurality will always have a plurality of opinion.

    Thus, I contend that the question is flawed and award you no points. May God have mercy on your soul.

    I so dig you.
  • fattymcrunnerpants
    fattymcrunnerpants Posts: 311 Member
    FWIW: my guy wouldn't be attracted to you whatsoever because your belly's too small :wink:


    Guys like women of all different shapes. If your boyfriend likes your shape that's all that matters.
  • summer92008
    summer92008 Posts: 202
    I just like to know the general opinion of what guys think about girls who are average - nothing special.

    I am losing weight because I want to. My boyfriend loves me the way I am, but I do not.
    And even though it MAY be frowned upon, I do care to an extent what other people think of how I look. I think everyone cares about others opinions, whether they admit it or not.

    The thing is, I feel okay about myself when I'm hanging around the house or something. Then I get dressed for college and think I look just fine, but when I go to class, and see all of these skinny girls my confidence goes from okay to not so great.
  • DamePiglet
    DamePiglet Posts: 3,730 Member
    Oh dear.
    Your profile says, "I don't want to feel inferior to my skinny friends." While it's admirable that you're admitting that, I really suggest that you stop basing how you feel about yourself on other people.

    Instead, I suggest setting fitness goals for yourself.
    I have ebooks of "You Can Be Your Own Gym" which uses your own body weight for strengthening and also "New Rules of Lifting for Women"

    The more I achieve the fitness goals that I set for myself, the more I like what I see in the mirror.
  • summer92008
    summer92008 Posts: 202
    I understand my confidence compared to other people has absolutely nothing to do with my weight - that is a psychological thing that needs to be fixed. But I feel like losing some weight would put my mind more at ease. But I know I'm all over the place with my feelings. Some days I feel good with myself and other days I feel like crap about myself.
  • Phoenix__Rising
    Phoenix__Rising Posts: 9,981 Member
    Make U happy first. Your guy sounds great but you
    need to be happy W/U. :)

    My belly is by no means taught, yet. Flat perhaps but I
    just started getting good obliques and bam had an
    operation so I'm on hold. I intend to carry on after I
    recover to look my best, flat&hopefully sculpted-
    .. until I'm happy with my tummy. With a cpl minor
    things. lol
  • chilly1470
    chilly1470 Posts: 178 Member
    I understand the problem, to a point. Your man is happy, be elated!! What do you care what a bunch of us bone head guys think? lol. I have personally always liked a bit of a roll on the tummy. Some pudge. If you want a general opinion of what guys think, it has nothing to do with a little belly roll, trust me.
  • emdeesea
    emdeesea Posts: 1,823 Member
    I don't know but I can tell you what a lot of men definitely do NOT like, and that is women who complain about their body all the time and need constant reassurance. It gets old.

    If he didn't like you he wouldn't be with you. So stop worrying. If it bothers you change it, not for him but for you.
  • DamePiglet
    DamePiglet Posts: 3,730 Member
    I understand my confidence compared to other people has absolutely nothing to do with my weight - that is a psychological thing that needs to be fixed. But I feel like losing some weight would put my mind more at ease. But I know I'm all over the place with my feelings. Some days I feel good with myself and other days I feel like crap about myself.

    I know You're 20. i don't mean to sound condescending, but I've been where you are. I wasted a whole lot of time feeling "not good enough," I won't get that time back, but I surely love not feeling that way anymore!

    Please consider our advice.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    You're human and you're 20. It's okay and normal to be insecure, but you've got to fight it instead of encouraging it. Don't base you self worth on weather "guys" find you attractive. Don't compare yourself to others. When you find yourself doing so, talk yourself out of it. Remember you are smart, fun, nice, responsible, generous, pretty, loved, or whatever you're good traits are. Learning to love oneself is one of the most important things a person can do, and yeah, it's hard when you are 20 but the sooner you accomplish this, the better.
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  • Organicgasm
    Organicgasm Posts: 592 Member
    Sweetie, you are beautiful. Workout to get healthy. Ignore other people. Your worth is not based on anyone else's opinion. And I mean anyone. Not your mother, boyfriend, best friend, banker... Nobody else defines you.

    If you want to get fit, then do it for you. Because you love you, and not because you don't love you. Kwim?
  • CoffeeNBooze
    CoffeeNBooze Posts: 966 Member
    I think you look good. You don't have a big stomach in my opinion. Just do cardio and weights, you will probably end up feeling better than before you started!
  • lisalsd1
    lisalsd1 Posts: 1,519 Member
    My husband likes "muffin tops." Not that I have one...anymore.
  • juliewatkin
    juliewatkin Posts: 764 Member
    I would suggest that your guy is pretty happy to just see you naked. Naked trumps just about everything else.

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