Fat B*tch

You just have to learn to love yourself the way you arre, and never let a drunk idiot, or anyone for that matter, upset you or make you feel bad about yourself.

Oh my God, what a jerk. I am so incredibly sorry that happened to you. I know that you logically understand that the guy is just some loser whose opinion shouldn't matter, but that probably doesn't make it hurt less.

Hugs.

Welcome to the ***** club! I was called one yesterday! It is just a word, and it reflects more on the person saying it than it does on you.

^^^This!! When I was in school random girls would call me fat right to my face and laugh. I was 5'6" 135. I believed them. I know now the problem wasn't me; it was them. Whenever somebody says something nasty about someone else, it's always them and not the target that's the problem. If you can keep that in your heart you'll be okay. :flowerforyou:

It is NEVER what you are called but what you ANSWER to. My response "Are you mom and gma around?"

Jerks can be such jerks!

Really though...don't let someone like that get you down.

I've always remembered what I heard someone say:

"I may be fat, but you're ugly. And I can go on a diet"

Screw that drunk jerk!

He probably has a small d***

First of all *BIG HUGS* I am so sorry. I know things like that are hurtful to hear. It took me a VERY long time to understand, and realize that when people are just walking around, being generally ugly human beings (I don't mean looks- words/actions) it's usually because they're so miserable with themselves or their situation, that it's the only way they know how to process things- by being hurtful to others. Some use it as a defense mechanism, others use it to try to make them feel good about themselves, but at the end of the day, they're simply miserable because they don't deal with their pain. Then, you've got some people that are just horrible, mean spirited people, and it's such a shame that they're the way they are, but luckily, you don't have to live like that. Kindness doesn't cost a thing- sprinkle that **** everywhere. I feel sorry for mean people. I just can't imagine what kind of life they must live bringing misery to others.

You hold your head high, know you're doing your best. *BIG HUGS* Keep up the good work!

I just bought a bicycle last month. The first evening I took it for a ride, I wasn't even four blocks from my house when some stupid SOB yelled "Pedal faster you fat c**t!" from his passing truck.

Shock hit me first, then a little anger bubbled, but I quickly decided against screaming back at him, because the last thing I needed was him to pull a U-turn and physically assault me. I shook my head and told myself "I can lose weight and not be fat. But no matter how hard he tries, he'll always be a d**k." and I kept riding for 7 more miles.

Point being, the world is FULL of idiots that don't have a censor and claim it's just them being honest to cover up the honest fact that they're just cruel for some sort of superior feeling out of it.

You HAVE to be stronger, you have to, for you. You have to ignore things. You can't change people. You can't control things or people. And like others have said, what they say/scream at you, says more about themselves, than it will ever say about you.

I know words can hurt, but idiots like that aren't worthy of a second thought. Just brush it off...really, physically brush your shoulders and then never give them another thought.

That really sucks. Nasty people are one of the reasons I go everywhere with headphones on. Trickier to do that when you're with people though.

On the occasions the random abusive strangers were close enough to respond to, and I was feeling strong enough to do more than scuttle off, I'd try and respond with something like "I'm sorry no one loves you, but please don't take it out on me".

B*tch=
Babe
In
Total
Control of
Herself

OR

Beautiful
Intelligent
Talented
Charming
Hell of a woman

I know they are kinda cliche, but I always loved those two acronyms. I had a professor once (who taught us the top one) who said that anybody who calls a woman a b*tch it's because he (or she) can't handle a woman who has her *kitten* together. The person who yelled that at you obviously falls into that category.

As my Dad always said about people like that : "No Brain, No Pain".

I'm sorry that happened to you It's a terrible, terrible feeling that propagates self-loathing.
I know.
It happened to me once when I was at my heaviest, around 250lbs, and I was in a convenience store with friends. Another person in the store nudged his friend and pointed to me and said "look at that fat f---ing whale over there, hahahahaha" and the two of them laughed and laughed.
I hung my head in shame and walked out the door, and my one friend followed me, after not-so-politely telling them off. When he caught up to me he told me "If the worst problem you have in the world is that you are heavier than some other people... well I think you are lucky. And I think I'm even luckier to know you as my friend."
I recalled those words every other time I felt judged. It doesn't take away the hurt, or the feelings of self-loathing, but it does take away the sting and it definitely gave me perspective.

A love of frogs:

I would use that **** for motivation. Don't let some *kitten* make you feel bad. He probably has a tiny co#k and that made him feel better. Just keep going buddy.