Being on a diet when no one else is.

akillerqueen
akillerqueen Posts: 6
in Motivation and Support
I find that I am usually the person who is on a diet. I am on a diet every six months at least. Since I've reached my twenties my weight has mostly fluctuated between 125-130 pounds. I once got into the 40s but I honestly don't even know how that happened. I must not have been as active as I normally am. It was 4 years ago so I don't remember the specifics. I just know it didn't last long because I refused to be that heavy. Now 130 is pushing it for me. Once I get there I start watching what I eat. But I think I annoy people? I always feel like they get tired of my constant diets and as a result I tend to give up before I wanted to. I am really determined this time, though, and I don't think I ever want to go back to eating poorly. I LIKE eating healthy. I like not feeling run down and sick. I just wish other people would leave me be about it. I'd love to be 110 pounds again. I have a pair of jeans I've longed to fit into again. But I also just want to be healthier. I have terrible eating habits. I don't eat enough or I binge eat. I'm lazy and hate cooking. I'd rather open a bag of marshmallows and take one and consider it lunch. I just don't think i'm hurting anyone by changing my lifestyle and I don't understand the eye rolls or scoffs when I say I don't want greasy food or a slice of cake. My entire family tends to either be overweight and most couldn't care less. It makes me sad because I want them to be healthier but I can't make them change their eating habits. I am making my own foods or practicing portion control. It's not like anyone has to go out of their way to fit my diet. I'm an adult. Has anyone experienced this? Just a general lack of support? My mom has been pretty supportive this time around. In the past I have felt like she purposely tried to sabotage me by buying tons of junk food and eating it in front of me. I could be looking into it too much but it seemed suspicious as it would happen every time. But it could just be that my dieting made her crave sweets. Like I said though, she's been a lot more supportive this time around.

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  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    First of all, don't talk about your diet with people. It's just not interesting to people.

    Second, if you do it right you shouldn't need to go on a diet every six months. Instead, work on developing healthy habits so that you're not yo-yoing back and forth for your entire life.

    Third, a marshmallow is not a healthy lunch. There's nothing wrong with marshmallows, but one of them does not a meal make.

    Fourth, don't try to change other people's eating habits. You're an adult and you want to be free to make your own choices. So do the other adults in your life.
  • akillerqueen
    akillerqueen Posts: 6
    I responded but I am going to delete it. I don't like sounding as though I'm trying to defend myself.
  • SherryTeach
    SherryTeach Posts: 2,836 Member
    Change your relationship to food. Give up the word "diet" and plan your eating around a variety of food sources. I have completely overhauled my eating over the past two years but since I don't talk about it much with others (unless they ask about my missing 35 pounds), what I am eating rarely affects anyone else. And since I haven't cut any food groups out of my plan, no one really notices.

    If someone offers me a food, I don't want, I just say "no thank you" and move on. It sounds like you go through periods where you are depriving yourself unnecessarily and in cycles. Learn to cook and then eat moderately all the time.
  • SerenaFisher
    SerenaFisher Posts: 2,170 Member
    130-135 is not a diet, it's the usual fluctuation of a persons body. I can weigh 131lbs when I wake up, drink a coffee and weigh 133lbs. In truth numbers are irrelevant (though they do feel nice when we put them out there.). I have no idea how tall you are, but I am assuming this is a healthy weight for you and that 140 would likely still be within range. You were there briefly and now it's gone.

    You admit that you want to eat healthier, so concentrate on you. Make yourself cook, make yourself plan out meals, make yourself healthier. Your family will likely never support it, nor understand. Then eventually when they see how their health is failing due to certain habits that can all change.

    My mother has never been supportive of my eating habits, but she has come to accept them. She makes sure she buys foods I will eat because she loves me, I am sure your family ensures the foods you like are there too. My mother will never be under 200lbs, but she tries to work with my desires and wants. As far as people at work most scoff at my eating habits "You're already so thin" well you do not stay thin downing gobs of cake. I do not push my ideas and just smile when they say "It's only one piece of cake" and politely say "The answer is still no." There are a few fitness fanatics where I work though so we tend to hang around together. :)
  • love8383
    love8383 Posts: 169
    Change your relationship to food. Give up the word "diet" and plan your eating around a variety of food sources. I have completely overhauled my eating over the past two years but since I don't talk about it much with others (unless they ask about my missing 35 pounds), what I am eating rarely affects anyone else. And since I haven't cut any food groups out of my plan, no one really notices.

    If someone offers me a food, I don't want, I just say "no thank you" and move on. It sounds like you go through periods where you are depriving yourself unnecessarily and in cycles. Learn to cook and then eat moderately all the time.

    agree
  • ana3067
    ana3067 Posts: 5,623 Member
    If you're constantly "on a diet," then you're doing it wrong. I.e. likely doing fad diets. Lose weight slowly, eat foods you love while doing it, and it's no longer a diet but simply not over-eating.
  • michikade
    michikade Posts: 313 Member
    I don't know what kind of exercising you're doing but there's a good chance you'll be able to get into certain sizes and such with some strength training for body recomposition :)

    It's more balanced than just eating a marshmallow (which is dang near 100% sugar).

    ETA: 120-130lbs is within the healthy range for women between the heights of 5'1" and 5'8", and 115 is within the healthy range for women up to 5'6" in height. I don't know how tall you are, but if you're average height either place is probably ok to be depending on skeletal structure. But like I said before, regardless of the number on the scale, some lean muscle toning may give you the look you're after :)
  • LiftAllThePizzas
    LiftAllThePizzas Posts: 17,857 Member
    I just don't think i'm hurting anyone by changing my lifestyle and I don't understand the eye rolls or scoffs when I say I don't want greasy food or a slice of cake.
    I don't think they are hurting anyone by rolling their eyes or scoffing at your ridiculous comments.

    Do you see the hypocrisy in making nasty comments about their food choices and then being offended that they have an opinion about your food choices?
  • 115s
    115s Posts: 344 Member
    First step.. Stop looking at it as a diet and look at it as a lifestyle change.
    No one said you had to hit a certain weight by a certain amount of time. You can also choose to lose slower.

    If it was easy, everyone would be "fit". It is not.
    You have to want it.

    I'm sorry to be the bringer of tough love, but it sounds like you need it.
  • Liftng4Lis
    Liftng4Lis Posts: 15,151 Member
    First step.. Stop looking at it as a diet and look at it as a lifestyle change.
    No one said you had to hit a certain weight by a certain amount of time. You can also choose to lose slower.

    If it was easy, everyone would be "fit". It is not.
    You have to want it.

    I'm sorry to be the bringer of tough love, but it sounds like you need it.

    +1

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