Is it rude to ask a pregnant women when she's due

It wouldn't be rude to ask..... BUT you could still be wrong so it's generally best not to. Unless she is shopping baby items.

I would ask if they're pregnant, first.. Even if it's obvious lmaooooo

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If she's a close friend or family member and your are 110% sure she's pregnant no. If she's a coworker or a stranger and she doesn't bring it up keep your trap shut. In all cases, use your common sense and err on the side of minding your own business! :-)

I agree. It would be awful if you just thought she was pregnant, and she really wasn't. (Browse some of the "worst comments about being fat" threads, and you'll see how many women get asked if they're pregnant or when they're due when they aren't pregnant, and it generally makes them want to cry)

Um, yea, I don't touch that subject with strangers. Ever. The baby could be popping out and I'd be all "so, how's your day?"

Since I do look quite obviously pregnant, and don't mind sharing .... yes, I am expecting.

However, when people ask when I'm due, I just say "October." Sometimes I'll say "mid-late Oct" but if people press for more details, it does get annoying. Due dates are just an estimate, and since sometimes measurements and dates don't agree (like for mine this time - there's up to 2 weeks difference) it's sometimes hard, and useless to be more precise.

Octomber. Yes, definitely Octomber.

It's extremely rude. The woman you ask could be overweight rather than pregnant. If you're not friendly enough with her for her to tell you of her own accord when she's due, then what business is it of yours in the first place?

Extremely rude? What business is it? So, how far does this invasion of privacy by attempting polite conversation extend? Can i ask if she's having a good day or might that be extremely rude because her dog might have just died? Plus what business is it of mine how her day is going? Can i ask if she's enjoying the weather? No, because her aunt might have just died in a tornado in Kansas. Besides, what business is it of mine if she's having a good day.

it's just questions. ain't nobody dying cuz they got asked a question. and if they are, well, then they should talk to someone about being wound so tight.

"You look a little different... you have a certain shine about you that I just can't put my finger on"
If she's pregnant and she's telling, you'll get the answer, and you can go from there

"You look a little different... you have a certain shine about you that I just can't put my finger on"
If she's pregnant and she's telling, you'll get the answer, and you can go from there

Or they'll think you are insinuating they just had sex and are hitting on them. Win win, right?

If she's a close friend or family member and your are 110% sure she's pregnant no. If she's a coworker or a stranger and she doesn't bring it up keep your trap shut. In all cases, use your common sense and err on the side of minding your own business! :-)

I agree. It would be awful if you just thought she was pregnant, and she really wasn't. (Browse some of the "worst comments about being fat" threads, and you'll see how many women get asked if they're pregnant or when they're due when they aren't pregnant, and it generally makes them want to cry)

Not only that, it could be a medical condition that makes her look pregnant - I read this article about a woman who had a medical condition which made her abdomen swell up so she looked about 9 months pregnant, and she really didn't want to explain that to everyone who thought she was pregnant.

If it's a friend or family member they'll tell you the good news before they look that far gone. If you're not close enough to someone for them to tell you about of their own accord it then don't ask.

Plus the fact that even when you're actually pregnant you don't want to tell your due date to every tom, **** and harry and talk about the pregnancy or having babies with everyone that you come across. If you want people to know then you tell them. So if someone isn't telling you then probably they don't want to have a conversation about it.

A friend of mine I haven't seen for years but keep in touch with on Facebook kept on making allusions to a 'bump' (as did many of her regular visitor friends). I didn't ask (is it bad to say tbh didn't much care?)...found out that indeed she had been expecting when she posted a multitude of baby pictures on her Facebook feed. Some people don't post about it, and don't talk about it outside of their close knit group of friends, and I agree with others who say that unless you know for a fact that they are expecting don't ask, there may be a reason why they aren't saying anything.

I don't, once before I asked a co-worker. That was no fun, she grilled me, she had a tumor. Now I just keep my mouth shut.

It's extremely rude. The woman you ask could be overweight rather than pregnant. If you're not friendly enough with her for her to tell you of her own accord when she's due, then what business is it of yours in the first place?

Extremely rude? What business is it? So, how far does this invasion of privacy by attempting polite conversation extend? Can i ask if she's having a good day or might that be extremely rude because her dog might have just died? Plus what business is it of mine how her day is going? Can i ask if she's enjoying the weather? No, because her aunt might have just died in a tornado in Kansas. Besides, what business is it of mine if she's having a good day.

it's just questions. ain't nobody dying cuz they got asked a question. and if they are, well, then they should talk to someone about being wound so tight.

As someone who carried my weight in my belly when I was bigger, I'm going to go with don't ask, because it is insulting.

I was asked multiple times if I was pregnant or when I was due, and those were some of the most devastating moment of my life when it came to my self-esteem and body image. I understand that for the most part those comments weren't malicious, but it is rude.

I also have a good friend of mine who has a tumor in her abdomen that they haven't been able to surgically remove yet and who looks pregnant because of it. When people point that out, she's stuck with a really difficult decision and it's unfair to put someone in a position where they have to expose something personal to you, especially if you don't know them.

Another good friend of mine is pregnant, but has no intent on keeping the baby and has already found a couple for adoption, and when she's asked by strangers, it's a conversation that she just doesn't want to have and is a further reminder of what she's going through.

Being pregnant is very personal, even if you're 9 months, ready to pop type pregnant. Unless a stranger grabs you and goes "my water just broke" you should keep your mouth shut about her potential pregnancy.

I wouldn't.

But I'm an extremely private person, so I rarely ask anyone anything that I wouldn't want to share.

People keep asking my boss when she's due. She used to be very slim but over the past year she's put on about 30 lbs and it all went straight to her stomach. She does look a little pregnant, but she's still in tears every time someone asks.

Why would you want to ask? I personally would never ask, even if they are shopping for newborn baby clothes. It's none of my business, if they want to tell me, then they will.