will not cave. will not cave. will not cave...

You know, when I first got sober, friends often said "just one drink won't hurt you". I'm convinced if I had started drinking again, I would be dead today.

Yes, it DOES get easier. You'll build willpower, they'll see you're serious....and it'll get better. Hang in there!

That's funny. I know how that is going out with coworkers. When I do go out with them I do drink but I have one drink and baby it for a while, or I tell them I'll be the D&D. So I will take them home and I have an excuse not to drink. The best part is that they pay for my dinner (that's the cost for being the D&D for us). If I can I get a cal course off the menu. If there isn't then I just eat what ever looks good and try to eat half of the meal (most of the time it doesn't happen and I eat all of it).
Keep it up you are doing great. If I want ice cream I get skinny cow bars or sandwiches. I wish you the best. Take care.

You know, when I first got sober, friends often said "just one drink won't hurt you". I'm convinced if I had started drinking again, I would be dead today.

Yes, it DOES get easier. You'll build willpower, they'll see you're serious....and it'll get better. Hang in there!

Have a talk with your friends. The have to be supportive of you. How good of a friend are they of they want to see you fail? We are needing the support and encouragement to make positive life changes. If we are recovering drug or alcohol addicts fist thing we would do is to surround our selves with a support network. You can't jump back into the same set of friends, especially if they aren't on the same journey. Once you have the will power to resist the temptations then you can reintroduce your self to them.

Be open and upfront with your friends. Part of this journey is making hard choices. Some of the changes have to start at your emotional center. Look at your local community for any weight loss support groups or at your gym.

Good luck. I know it's hard but making life style changes is part of the overall package. Make positive boundaries for your friends and have them get on board to supporting your life or have then step back so better ppl can come forward. you have to do whats best for you. We are food addicts in recovery.

Enjoy your cup of coffee, then do something to relax, which doesnt involve eating- for me it would either be to have a nice hot shower, or to go to bed!!

I had a friend who would constantly pester and my husband finally told me he thought she was a bad influence, and that hurt her feelings. So, she stopped undermining me because she didn't want to be thought of as a bad friend...maybe have a person on your side stick up for you? It's hard when it's a group of girls, but honestly, how often does that kind of badgery come from a bad place? Um, always! I know it's hard, but be angry at them and it will steel your resolve. Maybe tell them you don't like it when they do that and start to pull away. They may not want to lose your friendship, but ultimately that's the cost of treating the people you love callously, so let them know what they are in for if they do not respect your health. I bet they don't want that! And I bet they don't care how hard it was for you to sit there alone at the end of a night out with a cup of coffee wishing for chocolate.

Some days its going to be really easy to say no, and some days its going to be really hard. I think you should be EXTREMELY proud of yourself for not caving last night!!! I found for myself the longer I go "without caving" the stronger my will power becomes. You know that their eating is only hurting their bodies and not providing any nutritional value, but sometimes you might slip up and have a drink or ice cream, but remember its not the end of the world. Just dont let it slide into the next day. Just gotta take it one day at a time! And if you do want those doritoes or chocolate then just make sure to work out to offset those calories and stay within your budget for the day .

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I would explain to your friends that you are trying to change your habits and lifestyle. That they need to respect that, or you can't hang out and do fun stuff like that together. Show them you are serious. They will change their tone if they are true friends.