Not drinking and dating

You should never have to explain why you aren't drinking on a date. So you don't order a drink, big deal? Find an activity to do where there isn't an option to order a drink if you feel it will be a problem. A museum or a physical activity maybe? As for any alternatives to getting drunk... enjoy life sober?

Drugs are a pretty good alternative to drinking and on top of it calories / guilt free!

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Right this post my seem a little pathetic. I'm doing a 90 day health challenge and I know that not drinking is going to be the thing I struggle with most.

Also I hate the idea of going on a date and saying "I'm not drinking" especially living in London where there is such a large pressure.

Does anyone have any good date ideas? Or any alternatives to just getting drunk???

Thanks. X x

looks like you'll just have to bang random men while sober for 90 days! :laugh:

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If they pressure you to drink, then you have a built in litmus test for whether they are a good fit or not.
You don't need to offer any explanation.
You live in London , so here are my date ideas:
1 Go to the Dr Who Museum.
2. Go to the theater when David Tennant is performing anything Shakespere
3. Go on the Dr Who tardis ride
4. Go on the Dr Who tour where you can see where the episodes were filmed.

Oh, sorry, that would be if you were dating ME.

that is a good question but yes perhaps try and find alternative activies
an amusement park, the beach, rollerrink
bowling, a movie, comedy club etc.

Just enjoy it in moderation. Allow yourself two drinks that night. Have a skinny margarita,or another low cal drink. Hey, a single glass of red wine is considered healthy! Keep a mineral water with a lime in your hand between the two drinks, and after you have finished your allotment.

I own a restaurant/bar. Go there often, sit at the bar and, this is a small town so everyone knows each other and people want to drink with me. So this is what I've done: I've created several "drinks". I have given then cocktail names but they are non-alcoholic. I order those and no one is the wiser. So I'm drinking stuff like ice tea, or passion fruit puree with club soda and people probably think I'm a lush :laugh:

Just plan ahead with bartenders and you'll be golden.

If a guy's idea of a date is to get drunk then he's a pathetic loser not worth your time or energy.

If you can't think of ways to have fun that don't involve drinking then you need serious help.

shows how sad our society has become where it''s considered 'weird' and people give you funny looks for not wanting to put what is essentially poison down your throat just to have a good time

Why would you WANT to get drunk? It certainly isn't fun, and the next day you'll feel like **** and wonder if you did or said anything to make a fool of yourself. Go to art galleries, museums, libraries, amusement parks, hikes in the country, bike rides, beaches, any number of things that are more fun than getting ****faced, and much healthier for you.

Run away from a man who cares if you are not drinking.



SERIOUSLY RUN AWAY!!!!!

I don't drink.

I simply either say "I don't drink" or I just say what it is I want to drink "I'll have a club soda thanks".

If the person asks why (which I think is perfectly reasonable) I just tell the truth, I don't like the taste of alcohol. I don't care at all if the other person drinks. Anyone who had a problem with that would be far too insecure for my liking.

Personally... I would never date a man who thinks that going to bars and getting drunk is "fun".

liannexxx: Right this post my seem a little pathetic. I'm doing a 90 day health challenge and I know that not drinking is going to be the thing I struggle with most.

Also I hate the idea of going on a date and saying "I'm not drinking" especially living in London where there is such a large pressure.

Does anyone have any good date ideas? Or any alternatives to just getting drunk???

Thanks. X x

My first immersion into the London social scenes and the heavy drinking youth culture was as a 17 year old student at Lucie Clayton, so I do understand the pressures you're highlighting. If you believe that your dates are going to sabotage your 90 days Health Challenge, insist upon choosing the venue. Every reputable establishment has a mocktail menu. Chances are, your dates will not know you're drinking a non-alcoholic beverage if you opt for a mocktail replacement; They'll simply mock you from having deviated from the standard choices, the wines or the beers.

^ Option one.

Your 2nd approach would be to walk up to the bar and order your very own drink, which shouldn't be a problem today, when a good number of the younger British (extended) set prefer to go Dutch. Ask the bartender to mix you a mocktail, serving it in a believable glass. That's a Lucie Clayton tip. Everyone else will be getting sloshed, just NOT you.

Recommended activities, you may opt for:

Cordon bleu cooking classes, designed for the health conscious including bargain tips and discount options.
Hunting and shooting trips
Take up the challenges; Run a half marathon for example and those military-esque Tough Mudder like challenges.
The Farmers Markets (Notting Hill or Marylebone); There are private shoppers who provide a service where you may choose an orientation of sorts, customised to your personal lifestyle needs.


What sorts of men are you dating? Even drinkers need to not drink sometimes. It's easier if it'll just be the 2 of you. It's different if you'll be dating amongst a group, where peer pressure would be likely. Having said that, you are 26. Peer pressure is a non-issue at your stage in life, unless of course you're attempting to conform, subduing you. Living a life of fitness is a life of selfishness; Be 26!