Not drinking and dating

You should never have to explain why you aren't drinking on a date. So you don't order a drink, big deal? Find an activity to do where there isn't an option to order a drink if you feel it will be a problem. A museum or a physical activity maybe? As for any alternatives to getting drunk... enjoy life sober?

Drugs are a pretty good alternative to drinking and on top of it calories / guilt free!

I've not drank any alcohol for over two years, I just made a conscious decision to cut it out as I got no enjoyment from it. You shouldn't need to justify not drinking to anyone. If you feel you have to, you're probably with the wrong person. Anyone who feels alcohol is necessary should probably seek professional help. Drink water, diet coke, soft drinks when in a bar - if that's not acceptable to the person you're with, move on. If being on a date with an attractive woman isn't enough for someone, then they're just stupid anyway.

Remember: You live in London - anything goes!

(I'm writing this from the point of view of having lived in London for ten years or so during my twenties/thirties and also from the point of never having had drinks when going out because I just never liked the taste of alcohol).

If you don't make an issue out of it, there is a good chance nobody else will.

When ordering a drink just say "Mine's a diet coke/coke/orange juice/fruit cocktail/hot chocolate" - don't give an explanation, don't apologise. That's what you want if somebody has a problem with it or finds it odd then they have to bring it up which chances are they might not.

Also - do you really want to date somebody who is trying to pressurise you into drinking or makes you feel awkward for not drinking?

In terms of doing things which aren't centred too much around social drinking for a date maybe the following might work for you:

* Going ice skating in Alexandra Palace
* Take a walk around Primrose Hill/Regents Park/Hampstead Heath and bring a picnic basket
* Go for a film & then go for sushi
* Take a salsa/merengue/lambada class (Bar Salsa on Charing Cross is pretty good for that) and then just do a lot of dancing for the rest of the night
* Do a "Learn of Snowboard/Ski" in a day class at the Snowdome in Hemel Hempstead (about half an hour on the train from Euston Station and then maybe a fiver or so for a taxi unless you fancy a half hour walk) (or any other course really - freestyle, bumps training, focused improvers/coaching classes - InsideOut Skiing is pretty good).
*Go to the theatre or musical
*Go for coffee dates in the afternoon

Most of all just chillax, enjoy yourself and have fun!

I know exactly what you mean babes! When I am trying to be good - The girls always want me to go on big nights out, to get drunk. But I don't want too!!!

But if its the calories your worried about hun - I would make them fit into your allowance. I drink vodka & diet coke which is about 60 calories I think.

If you just don't want to drink alcohol at all for 90 days, either just say your doing a 'no drinking' challenge & order lime and soda or something. So what, who cares what others think.

I know what you mean though

Why not date someone who is also health-conscious?

Right this post my seem a little pathetic. I'm doing a 90 day health challenge and I know that not drinking is going to be the thing I struggle with most.

Also I hate the idea of going on a date and saying "I'm not drinking" especially living in London where there is such a large pressure.

Does anyone have any good date ideas? Or any alternatives to just getting drunk???

Thanks. X x

looks like you'll just have to bang random men while sober for 90 days! :laugh:

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looks like you'll just have to bang random men while sober for 90 days! :laugh:

LMFAO!

shows how sad our society has become where it''s considered 'weird' and people give you funny looks for not wanting to put what is essentially poison down your throat just to have a good time