Not drinking and dating

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  • jnv7594
    jnv7594 Posts: 983 Member
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    Dating? What's that? lol...Been single for over 10 years myself and planning on staying that way. Never have been a drinker either. I haven't had a drink in years. Anyway, I agree with what others have said. You shouldn't have to explain why you aren't drinking on a date, nor should you feel obligated to. You can have an enjoyable time without alcohol.
  • nomorebingesgirl2014
    nomorebingesgirl2014 Posts: 378 Member
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  • misskarne
    misskarne Posts: 1,765 Member
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    If a guy's idea of a date is to get drunk then he's a pathetic loser not worth your time or energy.

    If you can't think of ways to have fun that don't involve drinking then you need serious help.


    Oh dear there is always one isn't there?

    You mean you honestly can't see that there's a problem when someone is incapable of doing social activities that don't revolve around alcohol?
  • RunBenny
    RunBenny Posts: 30
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    Also I hate the idea of going on a date and saying "I'm not drinking" especially living in London where there is such a large pressure.

    +1... same deal living in Germany. A good beer is just too hard to pass up. I'm not saying to go out and get drunk, but a beer is better for you than a soda will ever be... so there's that.
  • ILoveGingerNut
    ILoveGingerNut Posts: 367 Member
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    gotta read this later ;)
  • liannexxx
    liannexxx Posts: 201 Member
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    Give your date Ruffies.. he wont notice you aren't drinking. That also opens up a lot of fun options: Like leave him on the tube :D


    Hahaha I am loving this idea =-) I will let you know how you get on.
  • liannexxx
    liannexxx Posts: 201 Member
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    Refusing to order a drink is no biggie. I am on medication that prevents me from having alcohol and I don't even bring it up. I just don't order a drink. I get lemonade, tea or soda and usually no one even asks. When I was a single man, I liked to go out for coffee for a first date- very little investment, you can actually "talk" to each other, if the other person is not a fit, you can usually figure it out pretty quick and all that you've lost is an hour and some change.

    From the look of you, I don't think a man is going to care one way or the other whether or not you drink- he's most likley going to feel incredibly fortunate that you're talking to him in the first place.

    If not, he's either BLIND or CRAZY.


    Awww thanks that cheered me up =-) have a lovely day x
  • liannexxx
    liannexxx Posts: 201 Member
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    Come on, seriously. Your not a teenager , it's silly to worry about people pressuring you about drinking. Your an adult so if you don't want to drink then that's your choice. If dates or friends are going to pressure you to drink then it sounds like they are pretty immature and you need to get New friends.

    Haha I take it you haven't been to London!
  • liannexxx
    liannexxx Posts: 201 Member
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    If a guy's idea of a date is to get drunk then he's a pathetic loser not worth your time or energy.

    If you can't think of ways to have fun that don't involve drinking then you need serious help.


    Oh dear there is always one isn't there?

    You mean you honestly can't see that there's a problem when someone is incapable of doing social activities that don't revolve around alcohol?

    Did I say I couldn't do any social activity without it? No....I just asked for some more ideas as it is a common date theme to say "lets go for a drink" especially in London.
  • liannexxx
    liannexxx Posts: 201 Member
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    I rarely drink. If I do, I just have one (two if they are small). My husband has never had a drink in his life, so drinking was never part of our dating.

    I go dancing
    Watch a dance performance
    Go hiking or do something outdoors/active/adventurous.
    Roller or ice skating
    Art event
    Live music
    Go look at stars
    Long walks down the beach (lol)
    Enjoy the city
    Food

    Sadly I dont have a beach anywhere near BUT loving the other ideas thanks =-)
  • Adw7677
    Adw7677 Posts: 201 Member
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    I didn't drink for the best part of a year when I was losing weight.

    IMO if you just explain why you are not drinking then most people are usually on board. If they aren't then they aren't for you.

    Don't compromise on your goals to accommodate other people.

    As for other ideas the zoo is probably my favourite!


    I only read 3 posts, not the whole 3 pages. But this is it right here. If you simply say you aren't drinking, they shouldn't argue. And if they do, that's a huge sign that they don't respect you. If you do say *why* you aren't drinking, that could turn into a good conversation starter.

    "Oh, no thank you. I'm on this health challenge right now, blah blah.."
    "Oh really? What kind of health challenge? Blah blah blah."
    "Well you see, blah blah blah."
    "Oh, that sounds great! I could stand to get healthier myself. Let's be healthy together!"

    Lame, I know. LOL
  • colleenstacey2
    colleenstacey2 Posts: 7 Member
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    Just order a non-alcoholic drink. If asked about it just say "I am taking a break from alcohol" - no explanation needed.
  • misskarne
    misskarne Posts: 1,765 Member
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    If a guy's idea of a date is to get drunk then he's a pathetic loser not worth your time or energy.

    If you can't think of ways to have fun that don't involve drinking then you need serious help.


    Oh dear there is always one isn't there?

    You mean you honestly can't see that there's a problem when someone is incapable of doing social activities that don't revolve around alcohol?

    Did I say I couldn't do any social activity without it? No....I just asked for some more ideas as it is a common date theme to say "lets go for a drink" especially in London.

    The fact that you couldn't even come up with any by yourself that didn't involve drinking suggests that you find it difficult to socialise without alcohol.
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    arunkumarbio Posts: 1
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  • BerryH
    BerryH Posts: 4,698 Member
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    I'm a Londoner and a journalist, and can't say I've ever been pressured or questioned when I don't fancy drinking and just have a Coke or something. But I agree that avoiding a bar-based date is your best option. If you're going for a meal, try no-alcohol restaurants so it's not even an option. Tayyab's in Whitechapel offers one of the best curries in London, for instance.

    http://londonist.com/2014/01/londons-booze-free-venues-for-a-no-alcohol-january.php
  • liannexxx
    liannexxx Posts: 201 Member
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    If a guy's idea of a date is to get drunk then he's a pathetic loser not worth your time or energy.

    If you can't think of ways to have fun that don't involve drinking then you need serious help.


    Oh dear there is always one isn't there?

    You mean you honestly can't see that there's a problem when someone is incapable of doing social activities that don't revolve around alcohol?

    Did I say I couldn't do any social activity without it? No....I just asked for some more ideas as it is a common date theme to say "lets go for a drink" especially in London.

    The fact that you couldn't even come up with any by yourself that didn't involve drinking suggests that you find it difficult to socialise without alcohol.

    I was just looking to see if any londoners had any new ideas that I didn't. Like dans Le noir. Or the markets. Or any of the really helpful comments other people commented.

    But thanks for your opinions on me anyway.

    Have a beautiful tuesday :)
  • liannexxx
    liannexxx Posts: 201 Member
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    Thanks for everyone's ideas guys :) I have quite a long list of fresh ideas now :):)

    Let's see how I get on!x
  • shoneybabes
    shoneybabes Posts: 199 Member
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    Ask them to make your drink look alcoholic. I have bought soda with fresh lime no one will know. I don't drink on nights out quite frequently. Its more fun when folk don't know. More mischief ensues...

    Just tell people you are buying your own drinks

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