Watching what I eat has made me "less fun"

I have had this happen too. I think people are afraid that changing what you eat means you are changing who you are or your relationship with them, so they try to make things the way they always were. I just suggest activities that aren't centered around food when those people want to make plans.

I just started but I know I am going to feel like that shortly. My cowoerkers (and they are actually closer to friends than coworkers) go out to lunch once to twice a week and we have a blast doing it. For now I am going to have to cut out going out for lunch as it is just hard being on low carb diet and eating out. I mean they will understand completely and actually be happy for me but what is going to be difficult is just not being being in the conversation as that is when we always have so much fun.
I guess I could just go along anyways and not eat anything (hopefully the restaurant wouldn't be mad)

Still go, just don't eat or drink the same things they do. They are probably more concerned about your lack of participation than what you put in your body.

Is there a certain number of sushi rolls that makes a person more fun?!?!?! Hehe just teasing. But seriously. Don't call attention to it and just quietly do you and no one will say anything.

I don't get this. You're still the same person. Just because you don't stuff your face with sushi doesn't mean your personality has changed. I think that you eating healthy is making your friends rethink their food choices and they resent that. You're not fun because you're making them feel guilty.

Not your fault. That's their problem.

I think it's about how you define "fun." Is "fun" having a few more drinks, having a ton of sushi rolls? Or is "fun" just going out (whether you're drinking a margarita or a water, or having 1 sushi roll instead of 3 sushi rolls)?

I think if you simply point out to people that the amount of alcohol you drink or sushi rolls you eat has no direct impact on the amount of fun they are having, they might start to get it.

Easier said then done, I'm sure - but there should be no direct impact there (unless alcohol or sushi directly changes your personality, which for some folks, it might).

Hello. Yep,sounds familiar. I think I understand what you feel.

It happened me recently with a nice woman I have been seeing. She, kind of accidentally, blurted out that my dieting and MyFittnessPal recording was "so anti-social" because I didn't want to eat some pizza & chips she had bought for a group of friends who were painting her kitchen. It was fun day, but I found myself bothered by the comments.
Because she was, I suppose, a little inconvenienced that the treats/lunch she bought to say 'thank you' to everyone ware not OK with me. And she had tried to take me into account by buying some pre-prepared couscous salad which she thought was healthy. But it was chock-full of cheeses and oil and as bad as the pizza :-). I guess she was (in a small way) disappointed at not being able to be a good hostess or say thank you or whatever.... There wasn't a big embarrassing scene or anything like that. I just politely declined the stuff, made a joke about being anal obsessive compulsive and dug a banana out from somewhere. But I felt a little bad and wondered was I being a bit of an irritation.

However, I feel now that there's no point thinking I've inconvenienced her or anyone. It's my life and my body, right? Maybe the best thing to do is to kindly thank people for the offer of whatever it is (booze, pizza, chocs) and tell them something which helps them reconcile what you're doing i.e. "my running-friend/gym buddy is doing better than me this month.... so I'm trying to be good".... or "...I'm getting really close to my target(s) and don't want to flake now..." etc.
Then, celebrate when you hit your goal :-))). I still delighted after hitting my goal weight 70kg on Tuesday. So I had wine and chocs on Wed, sausages & pasta on Thurs and then set the bar a little lower.... so I can lose some more and put it back on as muscle. I'm MUCH happier doing than, than having 1/2 a pizza some day.
Good luck

I would hear similar things from friends and loved ones wanting me to indulge on days when I couldn't, or tear up a buffet or drink all night.

What happened was I changed my idea of "fun." Eating a bunch of food isn't really that much fun. At least not compared to this:

RANDOM GERMAN!!!

Never mind them. You're looking after your health and don't be ashamed in telling them so. I know it gets frustrating; I get that kind of attitude from my siblings and husband. I just ignore them all. You're just not wanting the old you anymore. At the end of the day, your friends / family / relatives etc will still be the way they are but you will have changed - for a healthier you.

People compliment me on how good I look but then mock the steps I've taken to get there. That's their reaction, not mine. I'm not doing this for them. Hang in there.

GRRRRRRR. Just because I don't down 3 sushi rolls anymore or not always willing to partake in a margarita happy hour doesn't mean I'm not fun anymore. I pick and choose my indulgences. If I want a margarita I will have one, but I don't want a pitcher once a week anymore. If I want sushi, I get ONE roll, and not as often. But I'm still me and more than willing to come along for a good time and maybe split something.

It's getting frustrating hearing this from friends, coworkers, etc. Those who have gone through this, how did you cope? I'm getting close to getting super sassy :grumble:

I'm not fun, so it's not an issue for me.