I can't do it...I dont have it in me

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AidensMommy051789
AidensMommy051789 Posts: 3
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I have tried so hard. I tried to cut out soda and snacks...and it only gets worse/...I crave it and want it... I am almost 30 pounds higher than when I started a year ago....do..Do I just accept the fact that I am going to be fat... that I am not going to be attractive to people... that I am going to feel like this forever.
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  • kristin0715
    kristin0715 Posts: 10
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    You CAN do it! I know that it is hard. I have major sugar cravings myself. One thing that has really worked for me is Advocare. It helps with my cravings and I get results Crazy fast!! I quit using it for 2 years (went through my drinking phase) and gained almost all of it back. I have been doing this for two days and the results are encouraging me to quit eating the junk! :) Other thing that helps (IDK if you do this already) preparing food for the week and making sure there is no junk food in the house!!
  • amusedmonkey
    amusedmonkey Posts: 10,330 Member
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    Replace soda with sparkling water or diet soda, and increase your calories a little bit to fit in snacks if they're absolutely necessary. Losing more slowly is better than not losing at all.
  • 365andstillalive
    365andstillalive Posts: 663 Member
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    No -- instead, accept the fact that this is going to take effort and time.

    What you're going to do, is make a commitment to yourself and those important to you to get healthy.

    You're going to calculate your BMR and your TDEE, and create a weight loss plan that has you eating at least to your BMR if not slightly higher.

    You're going to weigh/measure your food as accurately as you can (for most, this means a scale) and record it every single day, and work hard to stay within your calories/macros, while allowing yourself to eat foods you love. This literally means anything, including the odd soda.

    Weight loss really, barring a significant medical condition, is about calories in and calories out. If you've put on weight, it's because you've been eating/drinking more calories that your body needs. It's time to be conscious of that.

    Want to eat more? Then you'll have to exercise.


    You can do this and will do this if you want to. The onus is on you. You can continue to eat more than you need, or you can develop a healthy relationship with food. It's your choice.
  • Cheekies_
    Cheekies_ Posts: 319 Member
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    No -- instead, accept the fact that this is going to take effort and time.

    What you're going to do, is make a commitment to yourself and those important to you to get healthy.

    You're going to calculate your BMR and your TDEE, and create a weight loss plan that has you eating at least to your BMR if not slightly higher.

    You're going to weigh/measure your food as accurately as you can (for most, this means a scale) and record it every single day, and work hard to stay within your calories/macros, while allowing yourself to eat foods you love. This literally means anything, including the odd soda.

    Weight loss really, barring a significant medical condition, is about calories in and calories out. If you've put on weight, it's because you've been eating/drinking more calories that your body needs. It's time to be conscious of that.

    Want to eat more? Then you'll have to exercise.


    You can do this and will do this if you want to. The onus is on you. You can continue to eat more than you need, or you can develop a healthy relationship with food. It's your choice.


    Love! :flowerforyou:
  • jimmmer
    jimmmer Posts: 3,515 Member
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    No -- instead, accept the fact that this is going to take effort and time.

    What you're going to do, is make a commitment to yourself and those important to you to get healthy.

    You're going to calculate your BMR and your TDEE, and create a weight loss plan that has you eating at least to your BMR if not slightly higher.

    You're going to weigh/measure your food as accurately as you can (for most, this means a scale) and record it every single day, and work hard to stay within your calories/macros, while allowing yourself to eat foods you love. This literally means anything, including the odd soda.

    Weight loss really, barring a significant medical condition, is about calories in and calories out. If you've put on weight, it's because you've been eating/drinking more calories that your body needs. It's time to be conscious of that.

    Want to eat more? Then you'll have to exercise.


    You can do this and will do this if you want to. The onus is on you. You can continue to eat more than you need, or you can develop a healthy relationship with food. It's your choice.

    OP. Please read and re-read the above.

    Then put it to work.

    Too massive a calorie restriction will lead to a lack of self-control and binging.

    A moderate calorie deficit, varied diet (yes, you can have soda, or whatever, if it fits your calorie budget) and plenty of protein will keep you satiated whilst you consistently lose weight and avoid counter productive snack-attacks.
  • Azurite27
    Azurite27 Posts: 554 Member
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    In addition to the other posts (which have some great advice)....

    There's no need to cut out snacking all together. Learn to incorporate healthy snacks with the occasional unhealthy one in moderation.

    I personally cut out soda because I would rather use the calories on solid food and it was nothing but a caffeine delivery system to me, I replaced it with black coffee and zero calorie water enhancers. But I didn't do it over night, it was a gradual process. If you like soda because it's soda, maybe you can replace it with carbonated flavored water. Or just learn to fit it in your calories in moderation.
  • sentaruu
    sentaruu Posts: 2,206 Member
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    No -- instead, accept the fact that this is going to take effort and time.

    What you're going to do, is make a commitment to yourself and those important to you to get healthy.

    You're going to calculate your BMR and your TDEE, and create a weight loss plan that has you eating at least to your BMR if not slightly higher.

    You're going to weigh/measure your food as accurately as you can (for most, this means a scale) and record it every single day, and work hard to stay within your calories/macros, while allowing yourself to eat foods you love. This literally means anything, including the odd soda.

    Weight loss really, barring a significant medical condition, is about calories in and calories out. If you've put on weight, it's because you've been eating/drinking more calories that your body needs. It's time to be conscious of that.

    Want to eat more? Then you'll have to exercise.


    You can do this and will do this if you want to. The onus is on you. You can continue to eat more than you need, or you can develop a healthy relationship with food. It's your choice.

    :drinker:
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,771 Member
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    “Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.”

    ― Henry Ford
  • radimage
    radimage Posts: 99
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    You can lose many battles...but still win the war in the end.

    I know that sounds kind of goofy, but it's true. Just do the best you can everyday. That's all you can do.
  • swat1948
    swat1948 Posts: 302 Member
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    Reach down inside yourself and find the winner you can be! If I found it, anyone can! You can do it!
  • Jaywalker_7
    Jaywalker_7 Posts: 68 Member
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    You can lose many battles...but still win the war in the end.

    I know that sounds kind of goofy, but it's true. Just do the best you can everyday. That's all you can do.


    Love this. This mentality has gotten me through many, many days. I am learning but feel like I'm constantly screwing up. But, I'm still losing! Slowly, but that's better than gaining!
  • Will_Thrust_For_Candy
    Will_Thrust_For_Candy Posts: 6,109 Member
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    There is no need to eliminate anything from your diet.

    Weigh/measure it. Log it. And move on. You can fit most things into your calorie goals.

    When I first started I knew what my "triggers" were. One being that I LOVE to have a snack at night after my kid goes to bed and I'm relaxing. So I left calories for that snack. I have ate before bed pretty much every night for 3 years and I've been successful (71+lbs and over 40" sooooo.....).

    I drink Diet Coke daily.

    I have not eliminated any food from my diet. I do, however, make the best nutritional choices I can make, although to be honest that has more to do with my fitness goals and how it makes me feel vs weight loss.

    Being active also helps a great deal.

    "Do or do no, there is no try" - Yoda
  • brenn24179
    brenn24179 Posts: 2,144 Member
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    all of us feel that way but you can do it, it takes discipline and be willing to do the work. Log your calories. That is basically it.

    It is like spending too much money and you will be broke, same goes with food, eat too much and you get fat. Believe that you can learn to live a different way and treat yourself good, take care of yourself not do all the destructive overeating. I don't have it in me, who does? It is hard but worth it. Start now while you are young with good habits, say I have had enough and stop and fill up with some filling foods. People on here will help support you, that says a lot.
  • willdob3
    willdob3 Posts: 640 Member
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    You can lose many battles...but still win the war in the end.

    I know that sounds kind of goofy, but it's true. Just do the best you can everyday. That's all you can do.

    Very true. I remind myself of this often. I've lost many battles but I am winning the war. Over 125 lbs gone despite being human & thus not perfect or even close to it. I keep working toward my goals.
  • derrickyoung
    derrickyoung Posts: 136 Member
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    The only reason you can not do it is because you are choosing not to. It is a choice you make everyday as you reach for a soda or or sweets or over eat. When you decide you are willing to put in the effort you will be able to do it. The cravings for sweets or high calorie foods gets better and easier to manage. Start by figuring out what your triggers are. Stress, Sleep (lack of), Certain foods, emotions and then put in place plans to deal with the root cause of your over eating or not willingness to stick to it.
  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,089 Member
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    If you want it bad enough, you'll find a way. You don't have to cut out anything from your diet, just learn moderation
  • ylandra
    ylandra Posts: 5
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    It's tough. Our bodies get hard wired to crave sugars, sodas, and carbs. It can feel like an addiction when coming off those foods. I found that the Mio water additives help with the soda and sweets addiction. So did the 16 day liquid diet my doctor put me on preop that consisted entirely of protein shakes (I used chocolate flavor "premier protein") and sugar free jello. After 2 weeks of nothing but sweet stuff I was done with sweets and found that even chicken broth tasted divine.

    You can do it, you do have it in you, you just have to set realistic goals. Don't try to lose 2 pounds a week. Try to lose .5 pounds a week. You'll find it's a lot easier to stick with the daily caloric intake that MFP recommends, you won't feel as deprived, and you can see where your weak points are and devise a strategy to work around them.

    Best of luck!
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
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    You can do this and will do this if you want to. The onus is on you. You can continue to eat more than you need, or you can develop a healthy relationship with food. It's your choice.
  • Grammie4VT
    Grammie4VT Posts: 35 Member
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    “Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.”

    ― Henry Ford

    True statement! It isn't easy, but you have to have confidence in yourself.

    Another quote I like is: If it is to be, it is up to me!
  • samthepanda
    samthepanda Posts: 569 Member
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    Lots of very good advice on here. Please read, and re-read and then stick to your fridge!

    I felt like this for many years, but finally something clicked and I lost 70lbs and I have maintained for over 2 years. For me, in the beginning it was about working out what I could do without, and what I really wanted to have, but finding ways that weren't too bad, eg buying funsize chocolate bars (and just one pack of ones I liked - I bought coconut ones for the boys as I don't like it so there was never too much chocolate I would eat in the house). We used to have a lot of convenience food so I looked for healthier quick easy meals to make better use of those calories! I started exercising at home, behind curtains, with a Wii fit, and eventually discovered I quite liked it.

    Your are amazing, beautiful person whatever your size or shape, and you need to start to believe that before you expect others too xxx

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