Fed up with the whole weight loss thing

Can I please point out to a lot of people that ONE bad day, ONE day of lacking motivation and feeling down doesn't mean that someone isn't ready to have a surgery like this or is clinically depressed- it means they're having a bad day! How about showing some support instead of being so judgmental! Usually on boards on this site, I've seen nothing but support for the OP, but I feel like some people are being really rude to Shanny! One day of wanting to say "Forget it, I'm eating the crap burger" isn't the end of the world. She's not saying she went out and ate the 1900 calorie sandwich and cheesecake; she's saying she's tempted! How about offer some motivation rather than chastise someone when they're already having a hard time staying motviated!!!

If you're talking to me I thought I was pretty supportive! I'm asking smart questions about before and after counseling! And offered some motivation. I fail to see what is so negative about what I wrote.

It's okay to have those bad days, those days you just want to stay in your PJ's and eat everything in sight, and it's even okay to feel like you want to give up...but it's what you do with those thoughts that can really make an impact. I had a TERRIBLE day the other day, gained back the 3 lbs i lost my first week, and said screw it, i'm eating what i want...this mental block ruined my day..But thankfully, I had MFP. I know it sounds dumb, but there are so many *strangers* here ready to support you, who have/had experiences JUST LIKE YOU, that it really did save my week. Normally i probably would have tumbled and had an awful time pulling myself back up, but my new found support system was here. I got up the next day and got back on track. You CAN do it, and you WILL do it. Someone else mentioned, you must want the success if you posted, and i know we dont know eachother, but i have felt your same pain for years. It's a daily struggle,and will continue to be. I have lost 113 lbs over the last 5 years, and it has been a tough, rewarding, lesson learned, crying fest of emotions...I am not at my goal yet, but i see in YOU, what i see in myself. YOU CAN DO THIS!!! You have an unlimited resource of support right here on MFP....

Get you that sandwhich...take a few bites, and put it in the fridge, you need to live your life while "dieting" or changing your lifestyle as you would normally...if you deprive yourself, your going to end up binging, and mentally (possibly physically) feeling worse than you started.

~ YOU GOT THIS!

I agree with O-malley. I have a very good friend that had the gastric bypass. She had to lose quite a bit of weight, even before she could have it done. She had that surgery and a gallbladder surgery done at the same time. She is doing wonderful, and with learning everything she has learned, she is now going to school to learn extra to help others out in the weight loss area. Don't get yourself down. Remember why you are doing this, and that all you are doing, will definitely pay off in the end. You are doing this, so you like how you feel and how you look. Keep your chin up. There are so many people here to support you. It is tough, but you shouldn't give up. Good luck to you.

Jennifer, no it wasn't directed at you. Well, the clinically depressed thing- I think that's a very big snap judgment based on this post, but you did continue on with good, helpful questions/comments. There are a handful of posts that don't really offer motivation or help, but just seem harsh towards the OP, IMO.

Thanks. I only wrote that about being depressed because it was an overall feeling I got reading the entire post. I didn't mean to make a judgment. I just hope the poster is emotionally ready for surgery. I can only imagine how trying that journey will be. And of course satisfying at the end.

I would never intentionally write anything negative without good intent.

Shanny - if you live in a cold climate like me, I bet this freezing weather is also not helping!!!!!

Jennifer, no it wasn't directed at you. Well, the clinically depressed thing- I think that's a very big snap judgment based on this post, but you did continue on with good, helpful questions/comments. There are a handful of posts that don't really offer motivation or help, but just seem harsh towards the OP, IMO.

Thanks. I only wrote that about being depressed because it was an overall feeling I got reading the entire post. I didn't mean to make a judgment. I just hope the poster is emotionally ready for surgery. I can only imagine how trying that journey will be. And of course satisfying at the end.

I would never intentionally write anything negative without good intent.

Shanny - if you live in a cold climate like me, I bet this freezing weather is also not helping!!!!!

Shany,
I have felt that a million times over. I had a lapband in 2008, lost 50 lbs. and then some trauma occurred and the slow backslide began. I empathize with how you feel. It sucks for all the reasons that you have listed and probably a hundred more. It is about you being healthy. I have no real words that may flip the switch for you. Just know that you matter enough to keep it up and take care of things right now in this moment. Not for the day, or the week or the month, just right now.
I am starting over again, but for me it has about getting things right in my head, more than what I eat. Food is only fuel, not for pleasure. It is still hard for me to seperate the two. I guess I just want you to know, you are not alone. I feel the same way and have felt the same way before. Feel it and let it go. I bet if you went and had that sandwich and cheesecake, you would feel no better than you do right now. At least, that is my experience. I wish you success and hope you are feeling better later today or tomorrow and able to move forward!

Just for the record. I did not have surgery I went to the info meeting about it and decided that I would rather choose what I'm going to eat each day not choose today what I'm going to eat everyday for the rest of my life. hahaha

please I beg you get a copy of 'The End of Overeating' by Kessler, well written, scientifically credible, he was head of gov dept,

he knows the food industry and how it has addicted us to the triangle of fat-salt-sugar, creating food addicts like us,

the brain has been flooded with the wrong hormonal freeways linking friends and food, shopping and food, happiness and food, love and food,

like the previous poster said--things are going to be worse after your surgery,

so what to do?

read the book, it at least makes you aware of cravings, where they come from and why,

then you can make a plan, not just log in each bite, but a plan of what you will eat tomorrow, maximize your nutrients, your portions, at least until your surgery,

make trades that you like,

I wanted a tuna sandwich for lunch each day, substituting rice cakes saved me calories, using more celery made my portion larger filling my stomach, finding water pack tuna with very low sodium, trying low salt cottage cheese then using Fage nonfat yogurt for tuna sandwich binder worked for me, each person needs to tweek what they like,

weigh everything, the apple I thought was one portion ended up being the weight of 2 portions so I at least 'knew' what I was eating,

yes it is boring, but Kessler as well as Dr. Oz recommends boring for breakfast and lunch, making dinner a little more interesting,

each breakfast the same, of course occasionally, like every month or so there will be the odd brunch, but work on your perfect breakfast, mine became FiberOne cereal, almond milk, a serving of fruit, boiled egg whites only and coffee, marvelous, but this is my breakfast,

then work on your perfect lunch, yes the same thing each day, easy to log with the short-cup-same as yesterday log-in,

I learned to add mushrooms and celery to add the feeling of lots of food, at my weight I wanted lots of food,

I searched for the foods with the max fiber and lowest calories, choosing the ones I like,

this is war, gird your loins, you are not alone, now give yourself a kiss and have another drink of water :flowerforyou:

I'm bumping this thread because i have so been feeling like giving in to temptation today and like i can't be bothered with this anymore. Reading these comments has made me remember why i decided to change my life and renew my fervour for a new me. We can all do it if we really want it, what's hard is remembering why we want it when the going gets tough. I'm glad i have all of you MFP'ers to remind me, THANKYOU :flowerforyou:

(((hugs))) I've been where you are! Not today, but maybe tomorrow! I'm here for you today, so get over this hump because i may need you tomorrow:flowerforyou:

You need to try and be positive. Exercise is the key as that way you can cheat now and again and not gain any weight. If you are on a strict diet without treating your self you will always go back to binge eating. Have you every considered Slimming World? You can eat what you want (healthy way of course) without counting any calories, points etc. check it out at www.slimmingworld.com.
I do slimming world, myfitnesspal and exercise and the weight is flying off
keep your chin up xx

I agre with the pp who sad u aren't ready. Does your surgical team know this is how you feel? I'm not trying to beat up on you, just saying i don't think now is the time for you to have that surgery.
a 1900 calorie sandwich is never going to fit into anyones lifestyle.

Again, I say thanks for sharing. We all have days like this even those who are being a little quick to judge that you aren't ready for your surgery. Obviously they aren't reading the same post. Everyone has an issue with their body image, from the smallest person to the largest person. And you will not feel like running through a field of flowers all the time. I love you for your honesty and I can't wait to hear about your success!

You can't do the same thing and expect results. You have to UNDO all what you have done.My favorite saying is, GET your MIND right and the rest will follow. Commit to yourself! F' that sandwich (sorry for the language). That sandwich is temporary gratification! Honey you are soooooo worth it,

borrowed this hope you don't mind! very well said, I hate shopping for clothes more than trying to eat right. good luck to ya!

You're more than welcome - i heard it a weight watchers meeting years ago and it sums up my struggles perfectly! Good luck and hopefully the hards will get a bit easier along the way