Do you ever feel it is too late to be that "hot" tamale?

Stop whining. Get to work. Put the negative thoughts out of your mind. Babishness is right around the corner.

I agree with roanoke, I'm 47 and honestly, with hard work you can achieve that feeling of awesomeness, hang in there.

Hey ! Knock it off ! I felt that way at age 51!
Take a look at my ticker.
End of story.
All you have to do is "try".
And results will follow.
Warning. Will not happen fast. Patience.
Add me as a friend if you want.

Thank you for the feedback, roanokejoe. I agree with you about getting negative thoughts out of my mind. I was, however, being serious in my post, as silly as it may have sounded.

I believe you were serious. I also believe your attitude needs adjusting. How do I know? Because you admittedly keep starting and falling back. This is an attitude problem. A desire problem. Look at your issue squarely. You have over 100 lbs to lose, right? OK, so that's a year's worth of work. A year's work and you'll be healthy, fit, and sexy for the next 40 years! Isn't that a fair trade?

So, instead of whining about how daunting the journey is, just...wait for it...ENJOY THE JOURNEY. Small goals. 2 lbs a week. Body fat percentage dropping. Relax. Sexy will come, but you have to commit to wanting it.

Disregard the harshness above. I TOTALLY get you. I'm 47. I've been hot in my head, but my body hasn't matched in decades. I also have a lot to lose (130 lbs total). My goal is to get back to the body I had at 20, or better, by the time I'm 50. I do not think it's too late. My mom is 73 and she looks great. We have plenty of time. Add me! Let's do this together.

Honestly...you just have to make up your mind and do it...sounds cliche, but it's the truth...make small goals that you KNOW you can hit.....that will make it seem possible!

Join some support groups for people who have a large amount of weight to lose. You may feel like no one knows what you feel or what your fears are, so joining a group where you can meet people who feel like you do is a major step!

It's never too late to be a hot tamale physically.....age is JUST a number

I just want to also say....disregard those snarky comments about "stop whining" or little comments about take a walk and stuff.....i GUARANTEE you that most people here have tried and failed more than once while trying to make a change in their life...regardless of the kind of change they are seeking!

It's never too late...unless you're dead.

You don't plan on dying at 40, right??

Then again, there are necrophiliacs....

Me at 40



Me at 42


Me at almost 43

@Cranquistador... ROCK ON!!!

I needed to see that!!!

Yep. I totally fly like this in my late twenties. 20 years later I just think I was so silly.

.... I am not sure what is wrong with me, as I am always a go-getter and really despise sympathy card. Not sure what is up with me, so just excuse my post Again, thank you for all the comments, I am going to sincerely read them all over a few times and work on things.

Not even close to being an expert but i would imagine that this task is probably on of the hardest and most intimidating of anything you have taken on. It can seem so completely unreachable when looking in the mirror and it is clear that it not a short term fix. These things all combine to very challenging. The trick, IMO, is to not look at it from the big picture perspective. Try to look at it as 10 smaller goals that will all add up to your big goal.

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I don't think it's too late at 40. Be hot!

For some perspective: I was starting to feel really old until I ended up with a medical condition that had me daily at the local hospital for a 6 week period. I would use my age as an excuse as to why I would accept even a 50% improvement in my energy levels and all the staff kept fluffing off every concern I had telling me I was "still young" so to basically suck it up buttercup and focus on getting my strength back instead of talking about being 42! lol

I *felt* about 80 at the time and could barely get out of bed but it taught me something, age really IS relative. To a 20 year old I am pretty freaking old. To an 80 year old, I am still pretty young. Compared to someone really fit? I no longer am. But I have a goal to FEEL and look sexier at 45 than I did at 25. And I may just do that if I get my act together and want to get there more than I want to eat. I was so insecure and shy at 25, it is totally doable despite the fact I will have 20 years on that old me. And I look back at pictures and I looked not too bad, way thinner than now!! I think, what was I thinking?! Why did I think I was so gross??? But I wouldn't trade that younger body for everything I know now and the confidence I gained through getting older. I can get the body back, but I don't want that level of insecurity and shame any more!!

Sexy isn't sexy if you don't *feel* it. I will give you the same advice I am giving to myself and trying to take to heart: Spend less time worrying you will never get there and work your butt off making it happen. Believe 100% in your ability to get there, because you *totally can*.

Unleash the sexy, one day at a time.