Do you ever feel it is too late to be that "hot" tamale?

No. I truly feel that I have never, ever been as hot as I am in my 40s. :drinker:

^QFT

Sadly, one of my motivations is to look awesome. I want to feel sexy! But after my birthday, this last year I felt discouraged and really did not put any effort into dieting, feeling like (for me) this age is the last time I will be able to look good, and with so much weight to lose (150 lbs) I will never get there.

Let's say it takes you three years to lose all the weight you want at a conservative rate of 1lb a week on average (I think it would take less time actually but bear with me.)

That would make you 43.

Most of the women in my social circle or who I meet socially are in their late 30s - 40s. I can tell you this now. Many of them are insanely hot.

Yeah, I know I know. We get bombarded with images everyday that only youth is associated with beauty. Open your eyes and get out into the real world and you realise that is a crock of *kitten*. It always surprises me when people express their own surprise when they meet a woman in her 40s and say "actually she was really good looking!!. Well, yeah, that's how it works sometimes.

Many women are like fine wine. They get better with age...

I am a 36 yr old single mom. I went through a particularly terrible divorce 10 yrs ago and haven't felt "hot" in a long time. I have tried and failed and tried and failed over and over because I couldn't believe that I could achieve my dream or hold onto the idea that it was important enough. My mom is in her early 60s and has struggled with weight all my life. She now has chronic leg pain from nerve damage due to spinal stenosis. I can't help but believe that her pain would be more bearable if she was carrying less weight. For the first time in my life, I am not motivated by wanting to be a hot tamale. I want to be a healthy tamale. If I have surgeries, I don't want my caretakers to have to deal with the 140 extra lbs of weight that I was carrying at my heaviest. I went to a funeral and saw pallbearers struggling under the weight of the deceased. I had never really thought about that before. I suddenly had a new motivator. I've only been on here 15 days and lost about 6 lbs, but I've lost 40 lbs in the last few years. There are much worse things than not being the hot tamale you once were. Choose health and the hot will follow

When I turned 40 I quickly learnt how hard it had become to shift stubborn weight. Got myself into a rut and promised myself tomorrow would be the day I'd get to grips with myself. It never happened and the wieght piled on for fun. I recently joined a cycling club where they organise routes for all ages and fitness levels. Its always hard getting your foot out of the door but boy am I glad I did. I'm only weeks into this and already I am feeling extremely motivated, determined and happier. I'm feeling tighter in my muscles, although it's not showing so much yet as I still need to shift some fat. However, I'm determined the muscle will shine through. Not stopping now. You just need to get the cogs moving and the momentum will follow. Enjoy the feeling and the results of your hard work.

I'm a hot tamale and I'm 60

I'm 52 and that motivates me more, not less, to try and look the best I can. I didn't have to make an effort when I was in my 20's but I don't want to to be a frumpy old woman so I now dress better than I used to, try to keep in shape, etc.

Never too late.

Lemme see...

Salma Hayak
Vanessa Williams
Janet Jackson
Halle Berry
Jennifer Lopez
Cameron Diaz
Sofía Vergara...OMG Sofia Vergara...not just her looks, her whole attitude is so hot it sizzles!!! Shes gonna be a hot tamale even when shes 90 LoL yes, Im a fan

...I'd name off women I know personally, but you woudln't have a clue who I'm talking about LoL!

But suffice it to say, I double dare ya to tell any of those women its too late for them to be hot! Seriously, I turn 40 in 2 years, and so not going to throw in the towel anytime soon! Like others said, its all a state of mind and putting into action what you want to achieve. And it is so not even about the weight, its about you...if you adjust how you feel about yourself, that will reflect out to the world.

Which reminds me of another favorite of mine..Queen Latifah... Ive seen her in person (we happened to be going to see the same movie and she was super casual in sweats and no makeup) and she looks *exactly* the same in person as she does in pictures...absolutely beautiful and confident. And that right there is I think the key...

I can add a really hot "over 50" woman, please check her out on the web, you will be amazed, her name is Solange Frazao. She is hot, hot, hot!

I think you've already gotten enough feedback on the whole age is not the problem idea but just to add one more - I'm 40 as are my best friends and we are three hot babes!! Sure I feel a bit self conscious now and then but so do some of the fittest, most slender women I know - we all have our moments. It's all about mindset, as someone else pointed out.

On that note, consider making this more about just trying to achieve a certain physcial appearance. That's part of it, of course but also consider your health, your mobility, your energy level, etc. Looking back on how I felt a few years ago, I am so much better off now. And while, like you, I wish I started 10-20 years ago, I'm just really happy that I figured it out when I did. I don't wheeze coming up the stairs or just walking around. I don't get sore arms while changing out the shower curtain liner or feel like I'm going to pass out when tying my sneakers or painting my toenails. And most importantly, I avoided having to take meds for high blood pressure and cholesterol.

The loose skin and flatter boobs are a bit of a bummer but I'm saving up for plastic surgery and in the meantime I still look pretty hot in clothes.