Am I destined to be fat or what?

Take a look at her diary. It's far to high in carbs for her daily caloric intake she's trying to hit.

Many days you're not even hitting 50g of protein, while over 200g of carbs. I'd bet you'd start to see significant weight loss within weeks if daily caloric intake is what you're claiming to log and you were closer to <150g carbs and 100g+ protein.

There are tons and tons of articles and peer reviewed essays that talk about high protein diets being a contributing factor to fat burn. http://www.bing.com/search?q=diet+high+in+protein+weight+loss&src=ie9tr

AGREED too many carbs

Actually "clean" eating means cutting out processed, fast-food, and convenience foods. Clean eating means not choosing hamburgers, and ramen, candy bars, and soda. I'm all for cheat days because if I didn't allow for cravings sometimes, I'd go overboard all the time. I don't know how you feel about chemicals and additives, but I don't consider that clean eating.

Actually "clean" eating means cutting out processed, fast-food, and convenience foods.

Depends who you ask. A shocking number of people claim to be "clean eaters" and eat lots of processed foods, and plenty of others claim that "clean" means no white foods or grains or sugar or any number of other self-defined rules.

Given this, I think we should all just acknowledge that "clean" means nothing in particular and is mostly just a way of claiming that the way you eat is superior to the way someone else eats.

Personally, I think about what I eat, but some of it--like yogurt, cottage cheese, smoked salmon, probably frozen veggies and canned tomatoes in the winter, steel cut oats, whole wheat pasta, quinoa, protein powder, etc.--is processed. Rather than thinking of these things as "cheats" or "unclean" (weird), I consider them to be foods I have chosen to eat because they meet some nutritional or taste consideration that I find important. Along with that, I'd include ice cream (homemade or otherwise), the pie I will make on Thanksgiving from fabulous ingredients, and the meals I get from restaurants, whether lunch places that meet my nutritional requirements and quality concerns or the various local restaurants I like for the occasional dinner.

Clean eating means not choosing hamburgers, and ramen, candy bars, and soda.

What the heck is wrong with burgers inherently? I get ground beef (along with other meat) from a local farm. It's even from cows that are grass fed and raised humanely, etc. I sometimes use it for pasta sauce or eat it on its own or, yes, make a burger. Don't see why that's "unclean." Similarly, if I go to a local restaurant with good ingredients, why is the burger more unclean than, say, the chicken? Or is restaurant food inherently "unclean"? See the confusion? Why not just aim for an overall nutritious, balanced diet and forget about the clean/unclean dichotomy? It really seems to serve no good purpose, and just asks to have someone go through your diet to see how "clean" it really is.

I'm all for cheat days because if I didn't allow for cravings sometimes, I'd go overboard all the time. I don't know how you feel about chemicals and additives, but I don't consider that clean eating.

I don't cheat. I am concerned about overall balance and nutrition. I don't see why my diet is less healthy if I eat a 45 calorie Café Tasse Noir (my current favorite bit of chocolate to have after lunch on occasion) or even 200 calories of ice cream if I have lots of calories and have had my protein, fiber, and veggies. Re chemicals and additives, there are various things I choose not to eat (I don't personally choose to have HFCS or added transfats, and I simply don't like most packaged foods when compared to what I can cook myself), but I think a blanket prohibition on "processed" foods is too broad. There are many processed foods (the ones listed above, legumes, which I should eat more of) that are nutritionally positive. A focus on simply excluding allegedly bad foods and not creating a sensible balanced diet that meets nutritional needs and tastes good seems to me the wrong focus.

IME, if you focus on the sensible balanced diet, you aren't even going to want to or have room to be immoderate wrt high calorie sweets or chips or whatever it is that you are concerned about, other than rarely. I have a weakness for French fries, personally, and yet I did not need to cut them out or some foolish thing that would cause me to think about them more, and certainly not to declare them "unclean" (which makes no sense, especially since I can make them myself out of nice, clean potatoes). But because I'm focusing on other things I don't eat them often at all. And when I do I enjoy them and do not feel guilty or beat myself up or think I've polluted my body or fallen off the wagon or whatever. Ugh.

I struggle. 3 months ago I was down 80lbs now you see I'm back up. Every friggin day is a literal battle with food and myself. It's exhausting there are times when I'm like F" it I'm going to be fat, eat what I want, when I want, and not worry because it's easier. Then I look down at my son. He is the result of that struggle that battle. If I had not kept pushing I'd never have lost enough weight to balance my hormones. I thought I was destined to never have a child, but luckily there is that little glimmer of hope in all of us that keeps making us push despite how many times we fall and trip ourselves up.

No, you are not destined to be fat. There is no preordained fate looking down on you saying that women will always be fat. You know that it's possible, but it's a g-d damn f'en hard struggle every day. Some days we get tired, and we feel hopeless. You can do it though, you can make it happen. Never stop fighting it's all we have.

One thing I am noticing though, using MFP, they show a "mixed green salad with no dressing" at 170 calories! LOL! Some of the calculations on here are incorrect, if I have to keep going to other resources for calorie counts I may bail on this tracker. I think SparkPeople has one that is a little more reliable.

That's because you have no idea what the person who originally created that entry for "mixed green salad with no dressing" put into their salad. Entries with asterisks are user-created. It's always better and more accurate for you to create your own recipes or enter each individual component of a dish as a separate item.

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