I am not gonna have a pitty party.... but have to vent

I am in the same situation as you! I haven't logged my food accurately for about 4 weeks now because I stopped weighing my food so I don't know how much I am eating. I am too scared to step on the scale and thank goodness the battery is dead:) so it doesn't work and I eat anything and everything I feel like.

It is my first time trying to lose gradually over a long period, I usually crash diet, lose a lot in a short time and then gain it all back so it is my first time trying to do it right. It just feels sooooooo sloooooow for me and though I am determined to do it right, I get bored of weighing and logging every single thing. It is really difficult to develop a new habbit after all these years but I will keep on keeping on.

My suggestion:
I choose not to consider myself 'off the wagon' as is popularly said here because then it would mean that I stopped or gave up and would have to restart. I feel it is much easier for me to 'continue from where I left off' as though I just hit a little bump in the road than to actually feel like I failed and now have to start over. The little losses here and there will add up and one day when you add them up you realise you have lost so much since you started, which is very encouraging. Otherwise, you only see the little you lose before you fell off the wagon each time that you start over.

Anyway, the way to success is not to give up on the journey so I hope we meet at the finish line one day soon!

Here's my blog about why I don't think "motivation" is the way to go:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/Alatariel75/view/a-slowly-changing-mindset-or-why-motivation-is-not-what-i-need-668330

Life happens and, sometimes, for whatever reason, we let it get the best of us.
It might last a day, a few weeks. The point is to not let it last for a lifetime.

Those last 3 weeks don't define you. They are what they are. Focus on today and move on.

One "bad" decision, even a streak of "bad" decisions, doesn't have to be followed by yet another "bad" decision. Make one choice at a time. "Is this meal getting me closer to my goal or not?", "Is the laziness I feel before working out stronger than the regret I'll feel in two hours for not working out?"...

Sometimes, not working out and eat treats will actually be the right thing to do because we want to enjoy life. And, most of the time, eating right and move our body will be the right thing to do because we want to enjoy life for the longest time possible.

You've got this. Here for you, if needed.

Hey lovely, ugh, I've been there, a couple years ago when trying to lose weight I'd last a week or two at a time. This time I'm really dedicated, and don't see it as a diet but a way of life. Nothing has changed, except my mindset.

I have not worked out for three weeks - That's OK, just put your gym clothes on and go today. I've had to force myself into a habit of doing *something* active every day, but the way I feel when I've done it - it's so worth the sweat and the effort. There's a reason they call it a natural high

I have been eating every thing and anything I've wanted, with no self control theses past three wks - Are you really restrictive with your diet when you're counting cals? Try to eat what you want but in moderation. Self control is an issue for me too, so I buy single portions of things like sweets, chocolate and crisps. I found after a few weeks of eating really well, a single portion was enough (before I'd binge and eat a whole packet of oreos in one sitting), I think it's a matter of re-training.

I have not been taking care of myself the way I should be these past three weeks - You deserve to take care of yourself, think how good it feels when you've given your body the nutrients it needs and put it through an awesome workout.

You can do this. Now is a great time to get back on track! Good luck

My tips are:

1. Don't worry about the last 3 weeks, sometimes life happens. There are all sorts of thing which can throw a spanner in the works, it's making it through, picking yourself up and carrying on which is important.

2. Make sure that when you are logging that you aren't cutting your calories too hard. If you try and make up for over eating by cutting harder then you are more likely to set your body up for a binge/starve cycle. You need ENOUGH calories to survive on long term (think 6 months plus), just a little under what you need to maintain your weight. That's why as your get nearer and nearer goal weight that calorie deficit should ideally drop and drop. It is also easier to work in small/occasional amounts of the things you really like with a smaller deficit and that is usually enough to stop most people from going crazy and eating everything in sight for weeks on end.

3. With regards exercise, firstly pick something you enjoy doing, that really makes all the difference, try a different gym or drop the actual gym but just do classes etc. That's often why mixing up what exercise you do works, it's nothing to do with "confusing your muscles" but it's all about keeping you challenged, interested and invested, for some people this is more relevant than others. Also we all hit blocks and walls. I LOVE lifting, I LOVE how it makes me feel both during and after, but even with all that love I have the odd day I just feel like I'd rather collapse on the sofa and watch TV. You have to push through those days because as soon as you've done it you feel doubly great, great for the workout, and great for being firm with yourself and pushing through.

When that first day comes when you don't want to exercise you have to push thru it. Just get up and go. I find that exercise comes first, then food follows. If I have worked by butt off at the gym I'm not going to throw it away by overeating. For that reason I make my gym routine like it's my job, I have to go. Unless it's something I would call in sick for I get up and go. There hasn't been one day at the gym that I regret going but some that I didn't feel like making it in. Just do it!

OP,yes you could do it this way

..is your goal to lose weight?

Because if it is, you could also take the view that you don't want to do gym and don't do it - just do walking or whatever.
And of course, adjust your calorie intake down accordingly.

If this is more sustainable for you, do it this way instead.

I totally agree! If you find it hard to sustain a lifestyle that includes going to the gym, then quite frankly you don't desire going to the gym. That's TOTALLY okay, because there are SO many forms of exercise that exist outside of the gym! Find one that works your body while you also enjoy yourself. If you don't enjoy something, then you're not going to find yourself motivated to even work towards doing such.

Hell. I love working out, but a lot of machines in the gym make me just immediately groan with dread. I LOVE running, but something about running on a treadmill just doesn't tickle my fancy. So, i run when i'm in the mood, and otherwise rather stay active at work, or do things like yoga, hooping, etc., for my cardio and muscular training.

Self control is an issue for me too, so I buy single portions of things like sweets, chocolate and crisps. I found after a few weeks of eating really well, a single portion was enough (before I'd binge and eat a whole packet of oreos in one sitting), I think it's a matter of re-training.

Yep, self control at the grocery store. If you don't have it when the mood strikes, you can't eat it. If you really, really want it you have to decide if it's worth the effort of going out.. and if the grocery store is 1/2 mile away, walking to and from can offset not just the craving (true story) but at least lessens the blow of giving in.

I also agree that if your 'good' habit is too restrictive to foods you love the 'screw-it-all-I-am-not-doing-this-****-anymore' attitude comes hard and fast. I can wipe out two months of good steady loss in one long weekend. And have. Repeatedly. Sometimes the metric fails and you just need the damn chocolate bar.

Don't focus on trying to have, say, at least a month of good habit. Just do something good today. Log your food and go for a walk. And enjoy the process; enjoy knowing that what you're doing today is contributing to greatness for you in the future.

This exactly.

With regards exercise, firstly pick something you enjoy doing, that really makes all the difference, try a different gym or drop the actual gym but just do classes etc.

Ugh. I hate all exercise. There is literally nothing that I enjoy doing in the body that I have except sleep. So this approach doesn't do it for me. Like it or not, want to or not, you just have to do it. If you are a schedule oriented person just put it on there every day and when the time comes make the grownup choice. You can do that, I know it. If you aren't into personal schedules, try making some dates with lots of different friends to do something active. Just being a little more active will help you get back in the mindset.

Most of all the next time you hit this kind of setback, let it go. Don't fall into the "well I didn't exercise yesterday, I'm failing again, so why bother today" cycle. We've been there, easier said, blah blah.. Challenge yourself, reward small victories.

The next time I make it through a weekend (my tough binge time, with the hubs) on target I get a professional mani/pedi... I even have the gift card sitting in my purse. No matter what happens, I'm not getting it until I make it through a weekend on task. Two weeks ago I was like 1800 calories over for the weekend, last week I had it down to 1200.. and there was a birthday party. This weekend I might make it.

You CAN do this.

Ugh. I hate all exercise. There is literally nothing that I enjoy doing in the body that I have except sleep.

Have you tried ALL exercise? Every exercise out there? Do you keep trying new things?

Walking and other low impact options all count as exercise and are generally more acceptable than high impact stuff to those who aren't keen on exercise generically. There is loads you can do to keep moving. Walk the dog an extra block, walk the kids to school, go for a stroll in your lunch break rather than sitting etc. Keep trying new things though, you may well find something you fall in love with, if not now then in a few lb time. You never know, you might find something your amazingly good at.

Some people love the feeling of exercising, for others it's about finding something fun (roller blading, canoeing, dance classes, climbing) and the physical benefits just comes with it. If you are a social butterfly then pick something you can either do with friends, or join a class/group and make some more friends that way.

Here's my blog about why I don't think "motivation" is the way to go:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/Alatariel75/view/a-slowly-changing-mindset-or-why-motivation-is-not-what-i-need-668330

This was GREAT to read...thank you for sharing!! xx

It's like you're reading my mind. This is the exact thing I'm struggling with. I just try to make my "bad spells", as you call them, a little shorter each time. Even though it doesn't feel like it, this is progress because it's different from what you've always done. I also try to force myself to log, even if I can only manage one meal. It's better than not logging anything, soon enough I've picked the habit back up again.

You might want to look into therapy, OA, or some other type of formal external commitment that will hold you accountable and give you tools.

I agree with many of the above. Stress reducing might be key. Scheduling my time--homework, work, volunteering, exercise, TV---helps a bit and allows me to more clearly see what else I can take on or what I have to pass on, though it is also sometimes hard to stick to the schedule. It's about building your perseverance one day at a time and not falling into absolutism (i.e., if i don't eat right every day then I've failed.) Weight loss is not black and white. I often find my time off increases when I let guilt and shame sink in. It's easy to harp on the negative, but finding some positive in what you've accomplished can motivate you to want to do more.

I also try to always be reading a book or a weight loss magazine or get emails for blogs I'm following, this sometimes helps with keeping me focused, which can shorten the cycle.

For awhile, I had post-its for reminding to log around the house and weight loss affirmations. Sounds hokey, but it did work. I changed them regularly to keep them fresh and so they didn't fall to the wayside.

I've gone from not doing anything for six months at a time to maybe a couple of weeks to even a couple of days or just a couple of meals sometimes. It takes time.