17lbs and no one notices?

SLHysell
SLHysell Posts: 247 Member
in Motivation and Support
Okay, this might seem shallow, but I've lost 17 pounds. I can see it and feel it, but not a soul has said to me, "have you lost weight?" Maybe I'm more invisible than I thought. I don't HAVE TO have that affirmation, but it sure would be nice.
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  • pander101
    pander101 Posts: 677 Member
    Yeah, it can suck. It took about 40lbs for people to notice for me. It's different for everyone.
  • ParamoreAddict
    ParamoreAddict Posts: 839 Member
    I know how that is. Chances are they did notice a bit but didn't say anything. How many times do people actually talk about a guy's weight? Only people that say things to me about my weight are my family and the people on here. Don't let it get you down. Just keep on keeping on!
  • setaylor86080
    setaylor86080 Posts: 210 Member
    I know this is stereotypical but I never talk to the men I work with about their weight. I have 2 females I work with and only 1 of them will I talk to. Now muscle gain I'm more incline to notice....maybe I'm just like muscle so I notice lol. I'm sure people have notice though but have not said anything.
  • TX_Rhon
    TX_Rhon Posts: 1,549 Member
    Have you lost weight??? WTG!!! :drinker:

    I lost weight for myself, not the approval of others. Agreed it feels good when someone notices but don't let it stop your progress! :flowerforyou:
  • independant2406
    independant2406 Posts: 447 Member
    I know the feeling. It takes a lot of weight loss for people to notice. Also friends/family who haven't seen you in a while will be more likely to notice than people who see you every day.

    Keep working at it and cheering yourself on. Your doing great!
  • Tingababoo
    Tingababoo Posts: 51 Member
    Many people feel it is inappropriate to say something. I went from a size 8 to a 4, 27 lb loss and many people never said a thing. But once someone else mentioned it then everyone chimed in and was like Yeah I noticed but was afraid to say anything! They felt it was rude because it may indicate they thought you were heavy to begin with. It doesn't make sense but that's how some people feel!

    Congrats and Keep Going!
  • MscGray
    MscGray Posts: 304 Member
    I think people notice but dont know how to compliment....or are afraid that an intended compliment may come off as a slam. I also saw a meme somewhere and I really wish I could find it that says it takes like 4 weeks for you to see the change, 8 for family and 12 for friends...so just bear that in mind...and keep doing what your doing!! Soon enough people will notice, even if they dont always comment :flowerforyou:
  • emdeesea
    emdeesea Posts: 1,823 Member
    It took about 30 pounds before anyone around me noticed. Don't worry about it. People see you every day so the little changes aren't really noticeable until it's a lot.
  • j4nash
    j4nash Posts: 1,719 Member
    People that see you every day don't usually notice unless it's a lot, like 40-50lbs. People that haven't seen you in a while will notice.
  • tracie999
    tracie999 Posts: 84 Member
    Took me about 30lbs until anyone noticed it. Keep at it as it feels great when people do notice.
  • fluffycamel
    fluffycamel Posts: 2 Member
    They say it can take 12 weeks for someone to notice any weight loss - if its people you see all the time they just get use to it until you're probably half the size lol.

    Keep going!!!

    You're doing this for you.
  • jill604
    jill604 Posts: 21 Member
    Lost 30 before people noticed
  • Bslim04
    Bslim04 Posts: 1
    Dont worry about it. You will be so fit and trim everyone has to take notice. Keep up the great work.
  • atac9806
    atac9806 Posts: 9 Member
    I feel the same way! Would be nice if people started noticing all my hard work! :)

    Good job and keep it up!
  • opalsqueak007
    opalsqueak007 Posts: 433 Member
    HI. The only people who have noticed my weight loss are people I see only occasionally. My husband has noticed. No-one else has commented, although that might be good manners, as it is rather personal to comment on someone's bodyweight.
  • Elsie_Brownraisin
    Elsie_Brownraisin Posts: 786 Member
    I do notice when people gain or lose weight, but tend not to say anything.

    I once bumped into an ex-colleague and commented on how slender and well she was looking and she then huffily informed me that she'd been suffering from undiagnosed coeliacs for years - she'd been in pain and vomited herself thin. No longer she looked better, she complained, she was no longer malnourished.

    So yeah, unless someone has actively told me they're trying to lose weight, I daren't comment on it anymore.
  • Adw7677
    Adw7677 Posts: 201 Member
    I've had people get offended when I've asked if they lost weight. I guess it's like asking a strange woman when the baby is due. I'll only say something if I know they've been trying to lose weight.
  • DisneyBecca
    DisneyBecca Posts: 49
    No one noticed until I had lost 35 pounds. My mother in law (that I see about once a week or every other week) didn't even notice when I had lost 55 pounds until someone pointed it out to her. But the look on her face when she did a double take was well worth the wait. :)

    I try to be understanding because I am admittedly the worst at recognizing weight loss on other people (as well as myself). A few years back, my parents lost about 50 pounds each and I honestly couldn't tell despite knowing that they were trying until I looked at old pictures. The difference was dramatic, but I had adjusted to all the little changes along the way and didn't notice without that direct comparison.
  • Solar_Cat
    Solar_Cat Posts: 188 Member
    I just hit the 17-lb mark too, which is halfway to my goal weight of 164. (Very similar numbers to yours. See my ticker.) My body is not that different from when I started. Maybe one inch smaller around the waist.

    I know from prior experience that changes in body shape will lag behind weight loss on the scale -- possibly by as much as two or three months. Also, the first 10 - 15 lbs have a lot to do with water retention and not so much with actual fat loss.

    Combining those factors, it means it will be a while longer before your losses (and mine) will be very noticeable. Just keep going!
  • JoseCastaneda
    JoseCastaneda Posts: 245 Member
    I heard this once, and found it's true with my own experience. When you start losing weight, you will notice it the first week. Your spouse (or partner) will notice it after 4 weeks. Your friends and people out of your intimate circle may start to notice it after 12 weeks...
  • dfranch
    dfranch Posts: 207 Member
    You were not obese to start, so people might not be so quick to comment. That doesn't necessarily mean they didn't notice. People can be really cautious when commenting on somebody's weight. I remember when it became quite apparent I was losing weight, about 30% or people would ask "are you trying to lose weight?". You know just in case I had cancer or something.
  • Ang108
    Ang108 Posts: 1,706 Member
    Okay, this might seem shallow, but I've lost 17 pounds. I can see it and feel it, but not a soul has said to me, "have you lost weight?" Maybe I'm more invisible than I thought. I don't HAVE TO have that affirmation, but it sure would be nice.

    I once made a comment on how wonderful it was for a former neighbor to have lost weight. A couple of month later I found out she had cancer. I will never make a remark about weight loss to anyone again.
    Also depending on how much weight you need to lose, 17 pounds really might not be all that visible to the casual observer, which most people are.
  • rivka_m
    rivka_m Posts: 1,007 Member
    If I see someone every day, it takes a LOT of weight for me to notice, I'm just not observant (and being too observant about a coworker's body is a one way ticket to HR!).

    Do people know that you're dieting/losing weight on purpose? There's always the chance it'll be due to some illness after all, or that the person is one of those offended by talk of "you look great now!" (it does sort of imply that someone didn't look great when they weighed more, after all).

    Just went to dinner with 10 other family members that I don't see often, only one noticed my 20+ lb loss. My coworkers, though, knowing that I'm working hard at this, have said nice things a couple of times.
  • Prilla04
    Prilla04 Posts: 174 Member
    People won't notice until you lose around 50lbs. 17lbs is a lot and you should be proud but don't look for it in the headlines. :) Keep up the good work!!!
  • caitconquersweight
    caitconquersweight Posts: 316 Member
    Nobody said anything to me at all until I'd lost 25-30 pounds.
  • bwogilvie
    bwogilvie Posts: 2,130 Member
    It was 25-30 lb. before the people who see me regularly noticed anything. People who don't see me so often were quicker to notice (after about 15 lb.), because they didn't have a gradual change to mislead them into thinking nothing had happened.
  • GBrady43068
    GBrady43068 Posts: 1,256 Member
    Okay, this might seem shallow, but I've lost 17 pounds. I can see it and feel it, but not a soul has said to me, "have you lost weight?" Maybe I'm more invisible than I thought. I don't HAVE TO have that affirmation, but it sure would be nice.
    I started to have a handful of people notice at 30 lbs..more at 40, I'm now over 50 pounds down and that's when the larger number of people have started to notice.
  • burlingtongrl
    burlingtongrl Posts: 327 Member
    I usually don't say anything even if I haven't seen the person in a while for fear that they are ill. This started after mentioning it and being told that "cancer is really helping my waistline, but it's not good for much else". People are hesitant unless they know you're trying to lose weight. Best of luck snd keep up the good work.
  • apm88
    apm88 Posts: 21 Member
    Well done! I've heard that it takes 4 weeks for yourself to notice weightloss in yourself, 8 weeks for friends and family, and 12 weeks for the rest of the world! While the time obviously differentiates from person to person to notice progress, stick with it, and everyone else will catch on soon enough:)
  • 4wesome
    4wesome Posts: 4 Member
    In just 6 weeks I've lost 30 pounds, 3 dress sizes at least, 5 inches off my belly, 4 inches off each thigh, and so on. I don't work so the only people I see regularly are at church every week. Not one of them has mentioned the weight loss to me. I have, however, overheard someone mention it in conversation. Also, a couple of people have asked my husband if I had lost weight.

    I agree with the others that people are afraid of offending you by either being wrong (like asking when your "baby" is due) or insinuating that you were fat before. If they say you look great now then its like saying you did not look good before. I, as I assume most people losing weight, already know we looked and felt bad before which is why we lost the weight. You're not going to hurt my feelings by complimenting me. The overly sensitive crybabies have caused folks to back off their compliments. They definitely notice though.

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