Day 2 and I want to quit already

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  • Marilyn0924
    Marilyn0924 Posts: 797 Member
    Maybe drop your goal to 1 pound/week loss to start and up your calories!! It will be less of a shock to your system until you get used to the changes. Don't worry so much about the exercise, maybe just try to get a walk in when your knees are up to it and then move forward from there.
  • alska
    alska Posts: 300 Member
    try to eat stuff that is filling, but less calories. Like a slice of pizza is 300-400 calories ... n i know i don't get full off of one lol Instead try a turkey sandwich (trukey, romaine n mayo) on 35 calorie bread with a cup of fruit salad ... which is around 358 calories.

    Feel free to add me ... I have an open dairy :)
  • bairborne
    bairborne Posts: 23 Member
    Marilyn,

    Hang in there, no it's not easy, but you can do it! I lost 40, and I starting running a little bit at a time. Lost of fruit, apples, peaches, pears help with the hunger. Stay with it, you can do it!!!
  • mrron2u
    mrron2u Posts: 919 Member
    also...

    even though you've done MFP before, you haven't made sustainable changes... or you wouldn't be back here again.

    while you aren't "new" to this, these might help.

    1. don't trust the initial setup that MFP provides. If you put in the wrong/inaccurate information, it'll tell you to eat an amount that may not be applicable.
    2. Make sure you eat enough.
    3. Figure out what works for you and is sustainable/healthy/long term.
    4. avoid fads. don't buy in to any "Hey, try the twinkie and vodka diet"
    5. Don't cut out anything now that you don't plan on literally giving up forever.
    6. GET A FOOD SCALE. Weigh everything. No, seriously.
    7. Get an HRM with a chest strap. You'll at least have a better idea of what you're burning. It'll be more accurate than the generic info in the exercise database.. and even more than the cardio machines. This is great for steady state cardio (run/walk/etc)
    8. Don't go balls out. You'll burn out. I see 300 lb people show up here, instantly start working out and cutting their intake SEVERELY... trying to cut out all of their carbs at once.. whatever. Take it slow. Figure out how much you need to eat FIRST in order to lose.. then incorporate exercise.
    9. Don't cardio yourself to death.
    10. Take the information on the forums with a grain of salt. A lot of people that have been here for a while.. and have been successful, may seem jaded. They give out GREAT advice day after day, only to be met with people that refuse to listen.
    11. Eat real food. Not diet food. Not "low fat, sugar free, now without X." It's easier to get/find/count.
    12. don't set time restrictions.
    13. measure yourself weekly. Don't just weigh. Measure and take pictures.
    14 BE PATIENT.
    15. Avoid forum topics that have "1200" in the title. It's just full of butthurt. Lots of it.
    16. If you ask a question on the forum, give as much information as you can ("yes, I have a food scale and weigh my food" is worlds better than "I eat a palm full of miscellaneous boiled chicken parts..sometimes.")
    17. Be honest with yourself and honest with us.
    18. This isn't a game, it's about changing your lifestyle. Do that.

    pretty much that.

    ...and don't fall into the "1200 calorie" vertigo of suck because of:

    the typical MFP users does this:
    1. I wanna lose weight, let's try MFP.
    2. OH! Wow, it tells me I can lose 2 lbs a WEEK? AWESOME!
    3. I just sit at a desk when I'm not working out, I guess I'm sedentary.
    4. MFP tells them 1200 calories, and they don't even eat that.. then they work out on top of it.. creating an even bigger deficit.
    5. Lose a lot, fast, brag about 1200 calorie success.
    6. Come back in a few months trying to figure out why they're dizzy, tired, not losing weight.
    7. Get on the forums, ask why they aren't losing.
    8. Get two responses (I eat 1200 and lose) (I eat 2200 and lose)
    9. Argument ensues about who is right.

    Now. That being said. These threads happen hundreds of times per day. Most times, and I mean really.. seriously.. 95% of the time.. people get the 1200 number because they don't put the right information in when they set up the account. There are a great number of people that are trying to help. I'm one of 'em.

    I'm a hardcore advocate of actually finding out what works for the individual.. by means of other calculators, averages, time, practice, and patience.

    Blanket prescriptions of 1200 calories "because it worked for me" is more harmful to the generic new user than the "figure out what you need to eat." Unfortunately, one is a LOT easier to type.

    Find out what you need: http://scoobysworkshop.com/accurate-calorie-calculator/

    and make sure to read: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    ...and here's another approach.

    Block off 6 weeks. log EXACTLY what you eat for those six weeks, weigh at the beginning, weight at the end. If you've lost, you're eating under your TDEE. If you haven't lost, congrats.. you found your TDEE, if you've gained... then you're above TDEE.

    From there, look at how much you lost or gained and you have a rough estimate of how to shift your intake to balance it out.

    Online calculators are great, but they're just estimates. They give you decent ideas for starting points. From there, it's on you to fine tune it.
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    This - exactly this!!!!!
  • ginz
    ginz Posts: 4 Member
    Thank you for all the replies!

    I am 5'4 230lb 40 yo. I set my goal to be 1.5 and my calories are at 1370.

    Set smaller goals... a smaller goal is more realistic, more attainable. To maintain your current weight, you should consume around 2000. BUT since you want to lose, keep your caloric intake around 1800. again, focus on consuming more protein. don't try to tackle the big picture... break up the journey... aim for losing 10lbs, then another 10lbs, and so on. each time you reach your goal, try to step it up... for example: this next goal i will also cut out eating doughnuts... or i will go for a 30 min walk around the block every day.

    it's takes 21 days to break or form a new habit. you can do it! =)
  • shayleac
    shayleac Posts: 76 Member
    Drink lots of water, and eat quality food.
    Fill up on vegetables, and have them accompany every meal, they are extremely low cal.
  • eat sweet fruits and salted penuts
  • trogalicious
    trogalicious Posts: 4,584 Member
    eat sweet fruits and salted penuts
    ...... I j..

    nah, not even gonna.
  • lorib642
    lorib642 Posts: 1,942 Member
    I have not been successful with weight loss attempts in the past because I would restrict too much and get really hungry and give up. I had to change my weight loss goal from 2 lbs/week to 1 lb/week to make it more reasonable for me. Don't quit, just adjust your target.
  • VelveteenArabian
    VelveteenArabian Posts: 758 Member
    It's been two days. It didn't take two days to get where you are, why should it to get to where you're going?
  • hastingsmassage
    hastingsmassage Posts: 162 Member
    That's my 3rd profile since Feb 2013..lost all together 128 lbs..It took my 6 months to figure out how to make a post on MFP so you are pretty impressive already lol You need to motivate yourself but it has to come from yourself. One million people can tell you.. you are fat and you will still think they are insulting you...when you ready, you are ready :) Of course you are hungry at the start but you have to train your will power..dont give up..greetings from UK size 12...use to be 26 :)
  • mlyn627
    mlyn627 Posts: 104 Member
    Gaww...all the support!! Thank you Thank you! I will reevaluate my calories and make some changes. I know I couldn't possibly keep this up!
    How do I make my diary available to view?
    Thanks again for the support!
  • Thank you for all the replies!

    I am 5'4 230lb 40 yo. I set my goal to be 1.5 and my calories are at 1370. I have been trying to get protein in but I'm probably blowing it! I guess I am so used to eating whatever, whenever I want that it's a shock to my system. I haven't exercised yet, last time I tried my knees hurt and I just honestly haven't wanted to again...yet.

    our stats are almost exactly the same! (5'5" 231lb 37yr old)- I set my goal to .5 to start and it's been pretty easy so far. My calories are at 1930 and I am not having trouble staying in there, I still eat the usual foods I used to but I eat less of them and a lot more veggies with them. I am not exercising either and by keeping to the 1930 ish calories I am losing even faster than the .5 so far. I figure it's a good way to ease in then I can up my goal later if it goes too slow and feels like I can still stick to it.

    I've tried lower calorie amounts before and it DID. NOT. WORK.- 1200/1300 was WAY too restrictive for me! There is a HUGE difference for me between 1300 and 1900 and I am still losing! (also I am SUPER sedentary so on top of not exercising I am a huge couch potato. Washing dishes or going to the grocery store is "activity" for me)
  • opalsqueak007
    opalsqueak007 Posts: 433 Member
    Don't give up. Yes, it gets easier as you log your food and find out what days have worked for you and which ones have not. You learn what's good to eat for you. For example, for me, I like to eat supper, so I save calories for that.

    What people have said here- it is all about patience and logging your food accurately. I had 4 weeks of no weight loss, then a sudden big drop. Of-course it isn't easy, but we didn't get overweight overnight, so it stands to reason that we can't shift the weight instantly either. Good luck.
  • CariJean64
    CariJean64 Posts: 297 Member
    From your profile: "This time is it, this time I won't quit!"

    Quitting is the only way you can fail. As others have said, adjust your calories so you're eating enough.

    Exercise is good! But if you don't exercise, all is not lost. I had to lose 60 pounds before I could tackle the idea of exercise, too.



    Make good on that promise to yourself. Hunger is temporary, and can be fixed without going over calories. Losing weight is a gift to yourself that could last you the rest of your LONGER, HEALTHIER life.
  • Kate7294
    Kate7294 Posts: 783 Member
    My guess is you're at a larger deficit than is realistic for you. Did you choose a 2 pound per week weight loss goal? If so, try cutting it to 1. You need to find a way that you can stick with it.

    This ^^^^
    It seems people who try to lose 2 or more lbs. a week eating 1200 calories have a harder time.
    My calories were set at 1590 starting...sedentary for 1 lb. a week loss ( I usually lose around 2 and 1/2 lbs. a week)
    I even upped my calories recently when MFP dropped them to 1420 My BMR is around 1520-1576
    I'm still losing at 1620
  • Akimajuktuq
    Akimajuktuq Posts: 3,037 Member
    You do not have to starve to lose weight. The only thing that finally worked for me was coming to the realization that the FOOD MATTERS. To be healthy I need to eat properly and a healthy body will lose excess fat stores. My idea of what it means to "eat properly" or what is "healthy food" had to change drastically from all the advice I'd heard most of my life. For instance, animal foods and fat are NOT "bad". Filling up on low calorie, high volume processed foods is not "good". But others here will tell you that anything and everything is JUST calories in and calories out.... and as long as I stuck to that advice, I failed and failed and failed.

    I hope you persevere and find what works for you. Quitting definitely won't work.
  • jkal1979
    jkal1979 Posts: 1,896 Member
    Just remember that this isn't an all or nothing deal. If you mess up one day don't use that as a reason to quit all together.

    There is a book called The Beck Diet Solution that might be of interest to you. It's not a diet plan, but it focuses on changing your mindset and building healthy habits while losing weight.
  • AliceDark
    AliceDark Posts: 3,886 Member
    So, you can set your goal at 1.5 pounds a week, burn yourself out after a month and have lost a grand total of 6 pounds. Or, you could drop it down to 1 pound, not make yourself miserable and stick with it for a year, after which you will have lost 52 pounds. Which one sounds better?
  • Your thinking too much... Relax... This is not an overnight project. It takes time and your body will adapt. It will adapt to less food, more exercise, your mind set will start changing. But, BUT.... You need to allow it to happen. Being frantic over being hungry is a state of mind. Get more control of that. I promise you, it will get better and easier and when you start losing more and more over time, you will feel and look Great!

    :smile:
  • binterla
    binterla Posts: 21 Member
    I agree with u plastics. I origyinally lost 160lbs. Over a two year period by eating about every two hours and including lots of protein. This is just my 6th day on MFP...and I have already lost 5lb.
  • Please let us see your diary.

    Don't give up it gets easier

    I'm over 300 pounds and it's super hard for me, but
    I've changed my mindset. That's where it begins.

    Make sure you're not giving up because of how little calories you're eating.
    Or because all you're eating is a carrot.

    Have a bite of dark chocolate.

    Look for some healthy recipes/replacements.

    You will be ok, hang in there it only gets easier
    and it feels fantastic!
  • alska
    alska Posts: 300 Member
    Click on food n in that tool bar click on settings ... then scroll down to the bottom where you see Diary Sharing n choose either public or friends only
    Gaww...all the support!! Thank you Thank you! I will reevaluate my calories and make some changes. I know I couldn't possibly keep this up!
    How do I make my diary available to view?
    Thanks again for the support!
  • mlyn627
    mlyn627 Posts: 104 Member
    Ok I made my diary public. Don't judge me too harshly, I don't have a ton of great options in the house.
  • MystifiedFluff
    MystifiedFluff Posts: 50 Member
    Thank you for all the replies!

    I am 5'4 230 lb 40 yo. I set my goal to be 1.5 and my calories are at 1370. I have been trying to get protein in but I'm probably blowing it! I guess I am so used to eating whatever, whenever I want that it's a shock to my system. I haven't exercised yet, last time I tried my knees hurt and I just honestly haven't wanted to again...yet.

    You may want to rethink your 1,370 calorie goal. I don't claim to be an expert at this, but if I use the same calculators/sites I am for myself, which are giving me results so far, you are trying to eat less than you probably should.

    Based on your stats and estimating a sedentary activity level, you need roughly 2,041 calories each day to stick to your current weight. If you go by a 'normal' weight for your stats (145 lbs), you would need 1,577 calories a day to maintain that weight. So, you can see why I think 1,370 is too low.

    I've given myself daily and weekly ranges to work with since some days are better than others and a high day can easily be offset by a string of great days. I have a range that is my ideal weight number (1,577 would be yours) up to my current weight's maintenance number (2,041 would be yours). I then try to hit within that range, the lower the better, but as long as my weekly intake is under the weekly number (yours would be 14,287) I know I'm going to lose, even if it's just 0.4 lbs.

    So, you may want to see how your intake stats match up to your daily range of 1,577 - 2,041. It may help you feel less deprived if you start near the high end of the range, then creep towards the lower end.
  • jnv7594
    jnv7594 Posts: 983 Member
    As others have said, you may need to increase your calories. I was about to quit not long ago. I was starving all the time, and I had hit a plateau. So, following some advice here, I reset my goals which subsequently raised my calories by about 500. Once I raised my calories, I actually started losing weight again. I've also been a lot less hungry. I'm not saying I'm not ever hungry, but it's not nearly the struggle it was before. I find more often than not I am satisfied after eating where before I wasn't. I also found that eating small frequent meals helped me. I usually eat 5 to 6 times a day. And keep drinking a lot of water. Sometimes your body can mistake thirst for hunger. Plus, try out different foods. I find that, for whatever reason, some foods keep me satisfied a lot longer than others even if they are similar in terms of calories and fat. One thing that has helped me is eating greek yogurt for breakfast. If you can handle dairy, you might want to try some. Find a good quality brand. I usually get Chobani. Get the plain rather than flavored as flavored often has quite a bit of sugar. I add some granola and fruit like blueberries. Keeps me satisfied for hours. I find that if I eat a filling breakfast like that, it makes things easier throughout the day.
  • _smartbroker
    _smartbroker Posts: 96 Member
    edit: wrong thread :ohwell:
  • Lasmartchika
    Lasmartchika Posts: 3,440 Member
    Don't quit!! I saw what you ate yesterday and you BARELY went over your calories. And I haven't had pork rinds in years (stupid heartburn). It's ok with what you ate. Just keep going. :smile:
  • briimariiie
    briimariiie Posts: 2 Member
    Hey girl!

    I bet you could do 1800 cals! 1300 is so low! I could never do that either lol. Don't give up, you'll look back in 2 months and be SO GLAD you didn't! Hang in there! :)
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,972 Member
    If you're exercising, then 1300 may be just too low for you. I have a female client close to your stats currently and I have her eating 1800. And she's losing just fine.

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