Not telling my loved ones I'm trying to lose ...

i didn't tell anyone either, except my husband, cause, well, its pretty hard to do a 180 with your eating habits and keep it a secret from someone you share every meal with.

I didn't make a huge declaration with him either, just that i wanted to try and make some better choices and see what happens. Don't be disappointed if people either don't notice or don't comment, it could be for many reasons.

Good for you!! There is always someone who tries to sabotage you when they know what you are working towards. Stay strong!

I think that's a GREAT idea. I have found it interesting that when people know I am trying to lose weight, they do things that stand in the way of my goal. If my mother-in-law knows I'm trying to lose weight, suddenly she has baked a cake "just because" and needs to drop half of it off at our house. If my husband knows I am trying to lose weight he will make my favorite thing for dinner and say, "Are you sure you don't want any? Are you sure? Just a little?" If I tell my acquaintances, they say, "Oh, it's so hard to lose weight."

Come to think of it, all of that is pretty *$&#-ed up. Why is no one supporting me? Who are these crazy people? Anyway, that is why I tell no one, except my husband because he can't help but notice what/how I'm eating. He is the main reason I have never been able to stay on a diet. This time around I have found MFP and love being able to talk to other people about weight loss. In the past I have had no support and always gave in to temptation. Hopefully being able to chat and meet people here will keep me on track.

So tell no one outside of MFP, because you will find support here.

Good idea, I wish I hadn't told anyone. I didn't look like I'd lost any until 20 pounds in, so I got the 'are you even trying' and 'why are you eating that on a diet'. Excuse you, but as long as it fits into my calorie goal it's fine. But now I think I may finally look slimmer, but I don't know for sure because at the same time some people are too nice! If they know I've been trying hard to lose weight I think maybe they exaggerate how different I look... so it's harder to get an objective opinion. Good luck with your loss!

I think in a weird way people like the way things are and any change they resist. Especially if you are trying to do something good for yourself. Maybe it's that misery loves company thing.

a few weeks ago i was at a kids b-day party and my friend's wife tells me that it looks like i lost weight. later,i was eating ice cream at and she goes, "well that wont help you..."

i wanted to b**** slap her across her head. she's always putting her husband down and how dare she think she can get away with it with me. she and her husband go on these idiotic diet fads every so often and end up gaining all the weight back within months. my wife stuck up for me and told her that my lifestyle change isnt a hocus pocus diet and that in order for me to live my life, he likes to eat what he wants to eat. no restriction but self control.

she didnt say anything, but she's the type that is probably waiting for me to fail. dont hold your breath.

a big thumbs up to my wife for the save. i showed her my appreciation afterwards

I`m mostly keeping it to myself for a variety of reasons - I think it is personal and I don`t expect everyone to find it fascinating conversation:laugh: I am on MFP because people here are on a similar journey.

However, my partner needed to know. The man gets up at 5:30 am. so he can drive me to the gym so I can do morning workouts, eventhough his schedule allows him to work out later in the day. We have a pact to stay fit, fab and grow old together but not everyone in my life is as supportive. Some comment that I shouldn`t bother fighting the family genes which is find of funny since some of my family isn`t overweight at all (perhaps they were adopted!).

I'm with you. Good luck!