is there anyone like me?

I don't want to do the work either. I don't want to. I hate working out, I hate eating smaller amounts.

But, you just do it - because - it's either work - or hating yourself - at least for me.

I still mess up - I think I was over my calories every day this week - but I still do it - I still log and go to the gym and just do it, and hate every single second of it.

It's just what you got to do if you want anything to change.

I also hate my job, its soul sucking, depressing, and horrible. But I do it, because I have to. i kind of think of logging food and losing weight the same way. Except at least the weight loss will pay off and make me happy in the end :-)

Honestly everyone would want a quick fix. Does not exist. Well lipo and surgery is the quick fix. Expensive BTW

Everyone I am sure would like to be able to out exercise a poor diet Does not exist. I wish I could for this one.

two negative point to elaborate more on.

I always start a plan and never finish it.

Do you not true see a imaginary new you at your weight goal? I know I need one and I need to hop in the bod pod to farther look into a goal.

I want to lose weight but I don't want to put in the work.

Losing weight is not easy. It takes a lot to figure out what works for you whether it is a diet, exercise, or both.

There have been times in my life where I was like you. I'm sure there will be more times like that in the future. Not just about weight loss but really about any aspect of my life. I wanted things to change, but I didn't want to do the work. So what happened? Nothing changed. Then I finally hit rock bottom, got tired enough of the excuses I was making to myself, and started working on it. I think you just have to come to that point where things are bad enough that you want to start doing the work. You're clearly not there yet. I know that for me, there is nothing anyone could have said to motivate me. I had to come to it on my own, even though it was painful.

I think it can be extremely overwhelming when you look at how far you have to go. It almost psyches you out before you start. My suggestion, would be like some others on here, to start with small goals. Instead of trying to climb a giant mountain, start small. Take a look at what your doing now, and identify one thing you can work on.

Exercise: . can you commit to physical activity for 10 min a day. There are so many great youtube videos that provide short bursts of exercise. My favorite is the fitnessblender channel.

For food goals, can you commit to replacing one meal with a salad each day, or maybe coming up with a healthy breakfast option?

Just find one thing to start. And once you have maintained that goal for a few weeks, add another small goal. You can do it. Don't let that mountain psyche you out! Good luck.

When you are ready, you will put in the work. Because you won't see any change unless and until you do.

I read something once that said .. Being fat is hard, being fit is hard .. pick your hard.

It honestly comes down to your frame of mind. If you aren't in the right mind frame, it isn't going to work for you. You can tell yourself you don't want to do it .. or you can tell yourself you do. It is allllll in your control.

I also tell myself .. you can't be upset with results you didn't get for work you didn't do.

I hope you've found some motivation in the responses. I applaud you for being honest. I can definitely relate to what you've said here. I've learned to now worry about how many times I start and stop something. Worrying is a meditation on *kitten* and I'm not going to be worried. Whatever I do I want to own it. There was a time I owned being fat, I owned my poor diet, I owned my poor health. I still didn't want to workout. But there would be a moment, an instance, where I'd make one better choice, even if that meant something as simple as not eating that last cookie or drinking that last soda. Slowly, slower than a snail going uphill in molasses in January, I wanted to own less of my unhealthy choices and more healthier ones. I've decided now that what's more important to me is to be healthy no matter the cost. I still wish I didn't have to work out, but now I see it as a means to an end. I can talk myself in and out of all kinds of situations. So now I'm choosing to be healthier. Again, I applaud you for being so candid. I think that speaks volumes to knowing yourself well. And I think that's the type of thinking that if you continue, you'll find yourself right where you want to be. Because if and when you "start again" you'll be doing it, not to finish some program you paid for, or to please someone else, you'll be doing it because you want to.

I spent 2 yrs of my life trying to find the easy way to lose weight. I tried every pills I read about. It doesn't work. I didn't want to work out, count calories or even eat healthy. Then in June, a friend of mine told me about Fitbit. My thoughts were I wasted how much money in the past trying to lose weight, I'll try this. It wasn't a work out, just counting my steps, sounded easy enough and at least I now had something to keep me accountable. Then I found MFP linked to my Fitbit. My first few weeks looked HORRIBLE for both. My calories were thru the roof & my steps, I was under 5000 steps for the day. (daily recommended steps is 10,000). Then I got sick with an upper respiratory infection (it didn't help I was a smoker also). I was able to finally get my calorie intake under control but my steps really dropped. Right then & there I wanted to quit everything. It was too hard, took to much effort, nothing was happening yet with my weight. I did try one more time to start again, that day while walking I thought I was going to have a heart attack. I stopped dead in my tracks & made up my mind right then & there I was going to change my life for the better. I quit smoking, monitor all my calorie intact (yes I still have some bad days where I go a little over) My step are now averaging about 13,000/day. I'm trying to add little things to my day that help to lose weight or tone up, nothing major. To date, I turned 51 on 9/24. I haven't smoked for over 6 wks, I lost 12 lbs so far but better then that I lost 6 inches off my waist & 6 3/4 inches off my hips & dropped 1 pants size. Are there days I don't want to count calories or walk, you better beleive it. Are there days I wish there was a miracle pill to make my healthier & skinnier, you bet. DoI enjoy being able to say, "look what I did so far!!" ? This is what makes it all worthwhile for me. Because "I" made the difference happen!!! It may only be a small step to some but for me it's a major leap!!

I want to lose weight but I don't want to put in the work. I know what you all are thinking after reading that first sentence but before you judge me at least give me credit for being honest. I mean whats the point in me lying about it? I gotta be honest with myself and you all if I want the help and trust me I do want help. I just don't know how to remain consistent. I always start a plan and never finish it. im not afraid of working out or sweating. im 31 years old and has no health issues other than some stomach problems. theres no reason why I cant do this. I just don't want to. well I do but I want more of a quick fix and I know that's not the route to go.

im open to whatever anyone has to say good or bad. I don't care what you say or how you say it.....JUST SAY IT! I really need the motivation. help me get this started again. im begging for any advice. my diary is open. its a mess, but im not embarrassed. please tell me what I need to change. share your stories, workout plans, eating plans, whatever. im open to anything at this point. thanks

My advice - learn the 80/20 rule. 80% Good healthy choices. 20% bad choices in which as time goes you can break that 20% to 10/10 10% bad choices and 10% working out. It takes time, pre planning your foods and take out all junk out of the house. Really is that simple.

Don't be upset by the results you didn't get from the work you didn't do.

If it's THAT much work for you and you don't want to do it, you have chosen exercise you don't like. And really, who wants to get up every day and do something they hate? You need to find something you like to do and do it.