need to vent..

You are not trash. You are doing what you think is best for you, and your brother's friend is an insensitive ignoramous.

Remember you are intelligent, and willing to put forth the effort to better your life. This guy obviously has no intentions of ever becoming smarter, and he never will if no one tells him where to stick his delightfully devoid of rationality insights.

Honestly I'm trying to say as many nice big words as possible so that the sweary ones don't come out. I would have torn that guy a new one had I been at your table, and you know what, I'm at your table here.

I vow to never let you put yourself down, and to never put you down so long as you are here.

Also, punch your brother for bringing that d-bag to dinner.

He needs your pity not your anger. Don't let the losers of the world get in the way of you being a winner.

totally agree that your brother's friend is an insensitive ignoramous........but, the world is full of them.......

carry on with your plans and your goals, you are headed in the right direction and don't let some one like this pull you down

It may be best that no one said anything to him about his comments.......why give him more of a platform for his insensitive comments

Holy hell, I would have gone off on his *kitten*. I can't even believe know one did!

I'll tell you this right now, there are many different types of 'fat' that you can be. You can be 'my fat' type, which in my little world only really means I have a decent 10 pounds to lose before you can see my six pack. There's 'normal' fat, which means you sorta just eat what you want, don't really work out, but you don't stuff your face. 'Chubby' fat is if you know you like food and you definitely over eat here and there. 'Fat' fat when you should really start to think about changing your diet / exercise habits. Then 'Obese', which is truly not very pleasant or healthy at all. I don't mean the person is unpleasant, but being obese is not something to be proud of or joke about. A person who is obese is sadly obsessed about food, just like a drug addict with his / her drugs. (Before I catch flak for saying this, I'm not at all talking about every person who has ever been obese or fat ever in the world, I'm not that ignorant to not realize that some people may just be genetically wired differently and need doctors treatment)

Going back to your 200 pounds... Uhhh... Please... ;-) That's not discusting whatsoever. You are not obese, hell I wouldn't even call you fat. You may have pounds you want to shed and that's awesome! We'll be here to cheer you on! So please, don't let *kitten* like that one tonight even try to change your mind. Sounds to me like he's got self esteem issues or some ****, I don't know. You just worry about you. No one wants to be with a refined fat person?! That's probably the most dumbest mess I've read in a loooong time!

No one is gonna judge you for having a couple pounds. No one is gonna judge you after you lose those couple pounds. However you will be judged by your character, so make sure you have at least a decent one of those and I think you should be a-o-k. :-) Don't let some worthless *kitten* stop you from losing weight and feeling good about it. Keep your head held high. :-)

I actually love people like that.. oh yeah, they piss me off big time. But guess what else that does for me? It motivates me. I love to end up on top and make sure whomever slighted me know they effed up... big time. So, keep the jerk around (but not too closely - seeing the work in progress won't have the same effect as later when you're lookin' hotter than whatever hoe he's bangin' at the moment!). Then, go out and get yourself an equally hot date, bring HIM (or her) to dinner and just watch A**hole's jaw drop. Oh, and make sure the date is well educated; that will REALLY put dude in his place.

The best part about these situations (for me), is that I actually end up being a better person at the end of it all and ultimately, I have to thank the jerk(s) that got me to get my butt in gear. So, as the saying goes - don't get angry. Get even. But not in a purely vindictive way.... do it by succeeding at your goals and being better than him; then top it off with sugar sweetness when he's drooling and let him know in no uncertain terms that he's not got the slightest bit of a chance.

Yep.. LOVE people like that. ;-)

I can't believe he said that and no one at the table said anything. I would have lost it, but I have a really big mouth. Don't let someone like get you down.

I commend you for keeping your cool and class, I have been through a similar situation and ended up punching the person and regretted it later on after realizing that I behaved trashy and stooped down to the persons level. The main reason I say that I stooped down to their level is this.... the person who is insulting you is doing so out of their own insecurities and are probably trying to trigger a reaction, you have great strength in staying calm. I guarantee the rest of the crowd was not fully agreeing with him even though they did not confront him, I bet they thought he was a huge egotistical jerk..they probably were afraid of conflict. Anyone who makes statements like that about other human beings truly and honestly has issues and I do not respect that.

The guy sounds like he'd be lucky to get near anybody's junk & obviously has no frame of reference. I can totally understand why you're upset, and how this idiot was obviously being thoughtless and insensitive, perhaps he doesn't consider you 'fat'?
I think if I'd been round that table I may not have said anything (because that'd be shining a spotlight on you) but I'd have walked away with the impression that your brothers friend is a XXXX.