Anxiety

Well, here's my story.... I mean, why talk to one person (shrink) when I can talk to all the MFPers here!

I think the start of my anxiety started last year when my bf broke up with me for like a day and tried to get back with me and this was before I was to go up to CT for my cousins wedding. I had dizziness, headaches, shortness of breath, pains everywhere (under my left "girl" :blushing: ) I couldn't go anywhere without feeling like I was going to freak out. It was so hard and my parents were getting mad at me.

We get back from CT and I go visit my doc and I get tested for like everything, I took some acid reflux pills because they thought I might have had that (I'm pretty sure most of my pains at the time were gaseous :blushing: :blushing: ) and then I had an ultra sound and I had a chest xray. I was perfectly fine, but I didn't feel fine. I was put on lexapro which definitely contributed to my weight gain.

I was on that for a couple months and I felt so much better, just a few light headness here and there and some pains here and there, nothing like it was.

Now, it's that time again to go up to CT, but my bf is going with me :bigsmile: I'm super excited about that. I'm having pains again and headaches (which might be contributed to PMS) and only sometimes I feel dizzy. It also varies from day to day. I think that I'm trying to get a better hold of it this year. I still have stresses, my animals, being a bridesmaid and hope the dress fits and sometimes I stress about work. I know, I know! I am a worry wort :grumble:

How do you deal with your anxiety? I still have some lexapro left which will probably accompany me to CT, maybe like a security blanket, I probably will not take any tho.

Forums like this can be helpful but also overwhelming. You're going to get a ton of advise and none of it will be from a MD. I would advise that you continue to work through your doctor for the best treatment for your anxiety. There are several drugs out there to help deal with that and finding the one that fits your body best will take some time. Push your doctor to consider your weight,etc, when prescribing drugs.

The thing is, I don't need drugs, I have felt fine since Jan- Aug and just recently feel anxious again. I'm a nervous person, I can't help it, I worry about everything. I just think that having people listen helps a bunch, in stead of keeping it bottled in all the time, which I do...

Thanks for your advice:flowerforyou:

Okay call me crazy....what's so bad with CT that it's causing you to "freak"?

I have no idea! that's the problem, I went to CT two years before last year and I was fine and I even went to my Nana's funeral up there and you would think anytime to freak out would be then... lol... I get very nervous about something happening whether it is up there or down here...

I agree with Max. Also be careful with taking lexipro when ever you want. Side effects from lexipro last longer then just a few weeks. And they don't always happen all the time, they are time delay drugs.

I will recommend a book, and I am not all into those quick fix help books either. This book helped me with little things. It gave me something to think about on a daily basis, and how to focus on topics that were important in my life. It's called "The Language of Letting Go" by Melody Beattie.

Yeah, I know, and the thing is I don't want to have to go back on it or any other meds, the withdrawl effects weren't very pleasant and I would rather not experience them again....

Thanks for the book! :flowerforyou:

There are meds for anxiety that you only need to take when you are having the anxiety attack, if that is what you are having. Don't stray from your doctors suggestions but do what is good for you and your body.

Thanks! I didn't know they had some for that, luckily, I try to keep my anxiety on the inside so people don't know how I am feeling!

Is there anything else that I might be able to suggest? It seems like he isn't willing to try anything - no therapy, no meditation or relaxation techniques, and definitely not medication again - the main thing he does is try to control his environment so he doesn't get caught up in stressful things (not watching the news, talking about people with problems, etc.). But that doesn't seem to me like a very good long-term strategy, because you can't just ignore things that stress you out... can you?

Of course you can, if you want it to build-up so that you A:explode or B: have an emotional breakdown in an inappropriate location. (for me it was the grocery store because they were. . .wait for it. . .out of lowfat laughing cow cheese.) Thank God for sunglasses!

It sounds like he's very resistant to changing, so that's hard. . .there is a "just do it" thing to some of it. For me, I "just did" yoga for several weeks and then one day the dam broke. Literally. I started crying in yoga class (my wonderful teacher told me this is actually not an un-common thing). I find that really strenuous exercise (think interval sprints) helps tremendously, too. . .and if he's resistant to more "marketed as relaxation" exercise, that might be a good suggestion. I think controlling your environment is good, but at the end of the day. . .we do have to live in the world! "Controlling your environment" can lead to fear of the world you can't control (like the one outside your front door) and leads to isolation and depression.

Oh, my. . .I'm writing a book here. I just have a little bit of experience here. . .hope some of that is helpful.:flowerforyou:

WoW, I have felt anxious at wal mart! I don't know what it is, but it's like super hot in there and so many people, I rush around to get all the stuff that I need and get out of there! It doesn't happen everytime I go, but sometimes lol...

My daughter has OCD. She did some therapy sessions that basically trained her of what to do when she began to feel anxious. If you don't want to do that, a good book to check out is Managing Your Mind by Butler and Hope. My daughter has certain places she will refer to for reminders and encouragement. I feel for you...travel is an anxiety trigger.

Thanks!:flowerforyou: I have a little OCD just about certain things, but it's not overwhelming and when it was, I wasn't having anxiety...Hope your daughter gets better about her anxiety!

Traveling is, and I rememeber last year that bridge collapsed and we have to go over a big bridge to get where we are going, can't think of it, I always call it the speakansy bridge I don't think that is the name of it tho...

We always feel so alone and weird when going through something like this,but as soon as you tell someone, you find out there ARE others!

Could it be that you experienced these symptoms that one time because of bf and pressure from family and reflux, and now the trip triggers it all over again?

I have an issue with bridges, but it stems from an event where I was feeling nervous about my husband's "business party" right after he got a promotion. We were driving along and I kept thinking of how I didn't know anyone there and what kind of expectations there would be. Then, I felt like I had no choice...ie, no control. Telling myself I was being silly made it that much worse. Pretty soon, I was in a full-blown crying jag with shortness of breath. :sad: DH (dear husband) looked at me like I was crazy. :huh: (He's much more understanding now).

There was a time when the prospect of traveling over a bridge (only certain types) would send me off into an anxiety attack and coming across one unexpectadly was always horrible. Things are better now simply because I've worked through a lot of the "what I'm supposed to be/do" type issues.

I agree with whoever said to check into some anxiety meds from doc if this continues, but trying yoga and such would be a better long term solution.

If you try it, I will!:flowerforyou:

Karen

Thanks:flowerforyou:

Well I def. don't have fears about bridges, I mean, as long as I have my floaties with me! haha.
The main thing is I don't want any meds. That is the absolute last resort, like it was last year. I think dealing with my innerself and talking to myself helps. Basically I think most of my issues are mind over matter, you know?

I really appreciate everybodys thoughts and experiences! I'm glad that I'm not the only nut haha

Yeah, Martini Therapy should be used sparingly, for sure! I have found that boosting my exercise really does help me with relieving stress, and getting into a better place emotionally. :happy:

I heard that wine was also a relaxer? Not that I am quite old enough yet ::cough cough::
haha

I can only say what worked for me. About two years ago I started having sporadic anxiety attacks and what I would call "hamster wheel" syndrome -- where my mind would just spin around, going over the same topics again and again, usually when I was trying to fall asleep. It was like I couldn't get out of my own head. My heart would race and I would get this panicky feeling and wouldn't be able to stop thinking about all the things I was worried about (big and small).

Then one day out of the blue, it was like I realized that there are things that I can control and things that I can't, and I completely stopped worrying about the things that I can't. It sounds too easy, but it really was that simple and it was night and day. Whenever the hamster wheel started spinning, I would ask myself if it was something I could control or not. As it turned out, of course, 99.9% of things I worried about were things I couldn't control.

Phase II of the change was that I would switch my mind over to something mindlessly entertaining. Don't laugh -- for me it was packing my "mental backpack." Sounds crazy, but I've done a lot of backpacking around the world, so it soothes me to imagine perfectly packing what I would need for a new trip. I start with the shoes...then my 3/4 length black skirt...I'm usually asleep by the time I get to the shirts.

When this doesn't work, I imagine that I'm standing in a dead-end alleyway and I'm kicking cans down to the end of the alley. Each can has some word or image on it. It's weirdly satisfying.

I reckon these are my versions of meditation.

Yeah, I do that sometimes when I am about to fall asleep, I will think about stuff and most of the time its like scenarios (sp?) like What if? Usually they are bad ones tho and I think that is part of my problem :ohwell:

I use to think bad things hoping that good things would come out of it...what it stemmed from was I never changed anything, anytime I would change something whether it would be my shampoo, makeup something would always happen with me and my bf, whether it be a fight or he'd leave me for a couple weeks.... so if I changed, I would change right back to what I was using when things were good. Then I finally realized about a year ago, that me changing certain products isn't going to make my bf leave me, so I don't think like that anymore and that has left me a little less stressful...

Thanks! :flowerforyou: