Skinny Friends

friends that dont understand is never fun. so my suggestion: find a nice girl from the gym who is looking to loss a good deal of weight too. then yall can go and workout together. you can hold her accountable and she can hold you accountable. find peopl who do understand and are willing to support you. your current girlfriends dont have a problem eating a huge candy bar and are not going to understnad why you cant either.

Honestly, it's not worth explaining to them. If they had common sense, they would know that you're trying to lose therefore you need to go more & that you may not have been necessarily blessed with a petit frame & a high metabolism. We're not all built the same, and we aren't all blessed the same. I don't understand why they would question how often you go? Isn't it obvious why? You're putting in the effort. If you want to lose, it takes that effort for you to do so. If they can't figure that out on their own, they obviously aren't thinking about it too hard, therefore explaining it to them is having it fall on deaf ears. Some people are very closed minded and ask questions only to not listen to the answer. Save your breath, give it a simple "because i'm making an effort, and this is what works for me".

It sounds like they're just not open to the idea or any explanation of it. You've already tried and they're being a little obtuse! So don't waste your energy on explanations that fall on deaf ears. Just smile, nod, and quietly go back to doing whatever it is you need to do to stay healthy. (And remind yourself that the second most of them get pregnant and/or turn 30, all of a sudden it will get VERY real and impossible to ignore.)

Hey now! I was once 'that skinny girl' and all my friends were bigger. I was very supportive of any weight loss they wanted to pursue except they didn't and I got teased and picked on by them all the time. I actually said I probably wouldn't befriend another bigger gal (or any gal for that matter) unless she had confidence and didn't take her lack of it out on me. I don't deserve it just like bigger girls or people who are just wanting to drop some pounds deserve someone who will support them. No they may not understand what you're going through so you shouldn't fault them for it. But if they are not being supportive then that's another thing.

Now they're all working out and shedding pounds like crazy. One of them had horrible asthema problems, was always out of breath and one day stood up and her knee went out. She was proud to be large and in charge even though it was unhealthy and it was obvious she wasn't since she always picked on me for being little. The other took metabolism booster shots (got them from Canada) and is now thinner than me lol. My other friend is running marathons
...well they're not really friends any more but you catch my drift.

My naturally skinny friends like the fact that I'm living a healthier lifestyle. We're all into it actually. Tell your friends to gain 60 lbs and see if they're happy with working out just once a week.

Maybe they are a bit jealous that you are trying to improve yourself? I have found it amazing the different reactions I have gotten from people. When I said I would start eating only 1200 calories a day a lot of my skinny-minny friends got all upset about it. I think all you can do is show them that it is helping. When you get down to your goal, they will see how much happier and healthier you are. They might be thin but that doesn't mean they are healthy. And their metabolisms won't last forever. You are building a new you to last a lifetime. Don't let them hold you back! If explaining it doesn't help, try finding some new workout buddies who understand the desire and drive it takes to be fit and maintain it.

Good luck hun! We are here for you

you need to explain to them that this is important to you and you need support.... invite them to the gym with you, or out for a little jog... go to lunch someplace like salad works or get desert at a yogurt bar

I understand COMPLETELY! Most of my friends don't worry about their weight and hardly go to the gym. Sometimes I feel uncomfortable with having to push so much emphasis on my need to go to the gym and eat right. It's hard for other people to understand that don't have any issues with their weight. I used to sometimes feel uncomfortable telling people I'm watching what I eat and counting calories because I always am not in the mood to hear their responses. Just make it your own personal goal and make decisions for YOU You'll get the hang of it

My friends had a really hard time adjusting to my dramatic eating habit change.

I went from snarfing down oreos and cookies with the best of them, to bringing an apple and protein bar to pizza parties so I wouldn't starve.

It took about a year, but now when I say "no" when my friend offers me the other half of their cookie, they just pat me on the shoulder and say, "Our little healthy friend."

One of my friends, who is the skinniest person ever (God bless her heart) pigs out on twix bars and debbie cakes constantly. At the last party however, she had her mom buy a bag of carrots, celery and grapes.

You're friends will get used to the new you eventually, and they will embrace it. (It's become sort of like an inside joke when others see me passing on a complimentary donut).

Just explain to them that you would appreciate their support, because you are really trying hard to gain control of your life. They sound like good people, but if they can't accept that you are trying to be a better person, maybe they just aren't meant to be your best friends anymore.


Good luck

Just tell them how you told us. Be truthful and upfront. If they are true friends they will be supportive. Some people just don't think about things until they are pointed out. Good luck :flowerforyou: