Something I do not like about MFP

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  • elizabethl27
    elizabethl27 Posts: 52 Member
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    Yes definitely! To me it is the beginning of an eating disorder in many cases.
  • ItsMissMuffy
    ItsMissMuffy Posts: 27 Member
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    Bump!

    I agree, I have seen a feel girls on here who are already WAY below what they should be to be healthy and STILL trying to loose weight.
    However at the same time I can't judge there goals, if it makes them feel good and be happy then so be it, but sometimes I wish I could step in or some one would.

    <3Muffin
  • ItsMissMuffy
    ItsMissMuffy Posts: 27 Member
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    Bump!

    I agree, I have seen a feel girls on here who are already WAY below what they should be to be healthy and STILL trying to loose weight.
    However at the same time I can't judge there goals, if it makes them feel good and be happy then so be it, but sometimes I wish I could step in or some one would.

    <3Muffin
  • ItsMissMuffy
    ItsMissMuffy Posts: 27 Member
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    Bump!

    I agree, I have seen a feel girls on here who are already WAY below what they should be to be healthy and STILL trying to loose weight.
    However at the same time I can't judge there goals, if it makes them feel good and be happy then so be it, but sometimes I wish I could step in or some one would.

    <3Muffin
  • ItsMissMuffy
    ItsMissMuffy Posts: 27 Member
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    Bump!

    I agree, I have seen a feel girls on here who are already WAY below what they should be to be healthy and STILL trying to loose weight.
    However at the same time I can't judge there goals, if it makes them feel good and be happy then so be it, but sometimes I wish I could step in or some one would.

    <3Muffin
  • ItsMissMuffy
    ItsMissMuffy Posts: 27 Member
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    Bump!

    I agree, I have seen a feel girls on here who are already WAY below what they should be to be healthy and STILL trying to loose weight.
    However at the same time I can't judge there goals, if it makes them feel good and be happy then so be it, but sometimes I wish I could step in or some one would.

    <3Muffin
  • ItsMissMuffy
    ItsMissMuffy Posts: 27 Member
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    WOAH! Sorry about that, I don't know what happened there!

    :-((
  • mariasheehan
    mariasheehan Posts: 335
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    *agree*
  • Ding724
    Ding724 Posts: 791 Member
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    I definitely agree with you...as much as I LOVE MFP, some people's goal weights have made me question my own at times.

    I am a tall girl [a bit over 5'9] and my original goal was 170 with a healthy BMI, but then I felt like that number was too big compared to other MFP ladies...so I changed my goal to a BMI of 23 & weight of 155. I am very athletic and know that my body won't look great any lower than that, but I've actually had other tall girls tell me that I could "lose alot more" or that I'd look "super hot" if I weighed 130! It's hard sometimes to stick to what I know about my body and not just want to be skinnnnnny. Thanks for posting this. It makes me feel a bit more secure in my goals :flowerforyou:
  • kaylamae90
    kaylamae90 Posts: 26
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    I definitely agree with you...as much as I LOVE MFP, some people's goal weights have made me question my own at times.

    I am a tall girl [a bit over 5'9] and my original goal was 170 with a healthy BMI, but then I felt like that number was too big compared to other MFP ladies...so I changed my goal to a BMI of 23 & weight of 155. I am very athletic and know that my body won't look great any lower than that, but I've actually had other tall girls tell me that I could "lose alot more" or that I'd look "super hot" if I weighed 130! It's hard sometimes to stick to what I know about my body and not just want to be skinnnnnny. Thanks for posting this. It makes me feel a bit more secure in my goals :flowerforyou:

    I am 5'6" and I am aiming at 150... I am built pretty ahletically too so I understand what you mean when people don't think that you should "settle" for that goal. My low end of the BMI chart said I could go to 120something and that is completely unrealistic. As long as you feel good with what you look like thats all that matters! I know with my body build if I want to keep some of the lady lumps and not look like a boy will have to stay at the upper end of the range. I'm ok with that. Plus if you are athletic you know muscle weighs more than fat and you'll be able to whoop any of the ones shooting for ridiculous low goals in any sport! lol :)
  • samrockrocks
    samrockrocks Posts: 251 Member
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    AMEN SISTER!! I've posted a similar topic in the past! I have a MFP friend whose goal is to be 95 pounds!! (She's currently like 105) Her diary is viewable and most days she only eats 500-700 calories a day AND PEOPLE CONGRATULATE HER!! When the feed shows "so-in-so completed her diary and was under her calorie goal" people say "great job!" UMMM HELLO! Are you even looking at the diary?! I will NEVER EVER encourage someone to eat less than 1000 calories a day. NEVER!

    I also agree with you that every body type holds weight differently. People tell me ALL the time that I do not need to lose any weight, but I've talked to specialists and they say the healthy weight for ME is 130-135. Right now I'm 5'7'' at 145 pounds. I don't think my goals are unrealistic, but some people's on her definitely are!
  • kelligonzales
    kelligonzales Posts: 391
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    It's a website to get healthy no develope an eating disorder....yikes. Great post though.:happy:
  • believetoachieve
    believetoachieve Posts: 675 Member
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    To be honest, I get MAD when I see someone bragging and being congratulated for terrible food practices. I just read a thread in the forum where the girl was consuming around 200 net calories a day and asking if she should "do more". Seriously?! :grumble:

    I HATE that some people have taken this amazing site and are using it for their unhealthy, dangerous, eating-disorder weight-loss attempts. (I do realize that they're ill, and I do have sympathy.. but it's still annoying!).

    :mad:
  • BlkOnyx488
    BlkOnyx488 Posts: 35
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    My goal is to have one thigh weigh less than 100!

    I always say I want to be as far from 200 as possible without needing a feeding tube.
    Ok kidding sort of mostly kind of.

    I like to think that the people on here with the lofty goal 100 pounds, will look in the mirror at 120 -115 and discover they like the way the look. I use to say my goal weight was 125.

    However when I got down to 145 and looked in the mirrow I was happy with my body. Unfortunately I gained back a few pounds so here I am.
  • CARNAT22
    CARNAT22 Posts: 764 Member
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    I do think there should be some kind of guidelines in place to prevent anyone setting goals that are simply too low for their height.

    I am 5ft 1 and my goal is 117lbs (will see if I want to go down a little more - no less than 110lbs) when I get there.
  • shannon717717
    shannon717717 Posts: 19
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    Maybe who ever this person is typed the wrong number in!!!! Some people have typo's,.I agree with you that it is unhealthy however,If it bothers you so bad then maybe you should step up by messaging her with numbers that are healthy!! Maybe she just don't know any better.Please don't take my suggestions as me being rude,I just know alot of us are still learning healthy ways of living.Thanks for your post.
  • Robin1117
    Robin1117 Posts: 1,768 Member
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    totally agree with this issue of people having ridiculous goals--- but I don't think this is something to not like about MFP. They are providing these great tools for people to succeed and giving the guidelines on how to lose wight safely. There is no way a website can monitor how smartly people use the site. Even if they put more warnings in place when someone is aiming for a goal that's too low, you can't stop a person from doing this if they are bent on making that happen.

    Such a thought-provoking topic though--putting this thought out there may help the "friends" of these people with unrealistic goals and bad eating habits to offer more honest advice.......

    thanks for bringing it up!
  • Dobsaya
    Dobsaya Posts: 235
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    I agree totally. I see myself at 5"8" and a goal of 138-140 which everyone is to skinny but I think is the smallest and healthiest for my height and small frame however I see people the same height saying they are just small framed and are already 120 pounds and trying to get to 110 pounds or less. I was just telling my friend that there were people on here with eating disorders.
  • NotAllWhoWanderAreLost
    NotAllWhoWanderAreLost Posts: 615 Member
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    i really hope the ladies who had goal weights in the 90s and 100 were like 4'11" or 5' tall! ... I agree that maybe there should be a warning/setting that at least gives a warning if the goal weight is set too low. Curious though, are the goal weights entered in our goals or just in our tickers? I honestly can't remember.... Anyhoo..... As far as people saying "good job" and "wtg" when so-and-so finished under their calorie goal, i am sure those ppl arent actually clicking thru to LOOK at the diaries. To be a good and SUPPORTIVE MFP friend, you dont just need to stand by and cheer blindly, please give ACTUAL support to your friends. LOOK at their diaries if they are open. Give them gentle feedback and guidance when appropriate and the "WTG!" when its warranted. Not only can you then have meaningful convos with your friends, you may actually learn more about nutrition and meal ideas yourself. So its not just for them, its for you too. If you don't have time to look thru on everyones diary, thats ok! We dont expect a "hooray" comment every day from every friend anyways :) But please, if you KNOW that a friend or friends are consistently under-eating or under-nourishing (eating crap food) don't go and give them the blind "wtg" because you are doing nothing to educate and actually support them. We are all on a journey and we all need to arrive at our goals in a healthy way, IMO :)

    [climbs back down off soapbox]
  • sexygenius
    sexygenius Posts: 1,078 Member
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    I agree! and im kinda tired of all the skinny girls on here wanting to lose weight and complianing about be soooo fat, it's offense to actually fat people...
    my goal weight is between 125 and 140 (5'5'')

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