Little Motivation and even less support

Is your wife overweight too? I know a common theme amongst couples when one person is trying to lose weight the spouse will be negative b/c they fear you're going to change your life for a good and they might get left behind. I think you should sit down with her and explain to her that you need her support.

The biggest thing is to realize you are making a huge stride in improving your life and LITERALLY adding years to your life. If you ever need some motivation youtube some "Biggest Loser" clips or even watch the show b/c that gets me motivated. And if all else fails man you have to buck up and thicken your skin. Don't let someone's negativity impact your goals of losing weight. If they don't like it they can get the hell out!

I feel you have to be doing this because YOU want to do it. One will never succeed with weight loss without a deep desire to reach a personal goal. It's a game of ones and twos, slowly chipping away at your former self. Your two pound loss is great, and you just have to keep doing what you're doing.Great job!

She may be thinking that 2 pounds is insignificant, not realizing that the overall goal takes time to achieve. Maybe get her more involved with menu planning or exercise with you, and let her see how you are sacrificing. Once she realizes how hard you are working, and what the end result will be (a stud she can't keep her hands off of) she might be more positive and supportive.

Either way, good luck, and don't let her get you down.

mate you should be so proud of yourself, I think you have done awesome to lose that in a month, i'm sure the moods could be down to a change of diet, maybe your diet change is affecting your mood but i'm sure she must appreciate the effort you are putting in,I feel very lucky that my misses has jumped onboard along with the children for a better life... and a longer one

keep up the BRILLIANT work Mike


Stu

Even if you only lose .5lbs that is still an accomplishment to be proud of. It's unfortunate that your wife isn't as excited as you are or as supportive. You have a whole family here that will cheer you on and please don't be discouraged by other people. My goal is to lose about 1 lb per week. If you lose a lot quick, I think that you are more likely to gain some, if not all, of it back. Keep it at a good, steady pace and keep your head up. Congrats on the 2lbs lost!

Maybe you should have a heart to heart talk with your wife and tell her how her lack of support and negative comments make you feel. I would hope that she is not being unsupportive on purpose.

No matter what though you should be proud of yourself, you've worked very hard to lose weight and to become a better/healthier person. Don't depend on any one else's approval to motivate you or let their negativity get you down.

Don't be discouraged. You are doing this for yourself and your health. For now seek motivation and support for MFP friends. Be aware of any sabotaging by your wife ie: cooking favorite recipes that are loaded with calories, stocking the kitchen with food you don't want to eat. You are on a journey for yourself. Look within yourself and be proud of yourself for the daily positive choices your are making. Success is not a number. 17 yrs ago I hit my goal weight and became a lifetime member of Weight Watcher's. In sharing my success, my husband was ecsatic but made the comment that WOW another 5 lbs you would be so Hot! At the time he had no idea how devastating that was. I had lost over 50 lbs to get there. (Eventually he did realize and apologized profusely. He didn't intend for it to hurt.) The comment stayed with me for years. 12 months later I gained all my weight back and then some. I have never been that weight again. It has taken me years to figure out my body and my health is important for me. I need to be happy in my own skin. Today we are supporting each other as we are both members of MFP. It is fun and we have come a long way. My goal is actually 7 lbs heavier than my WW goal of 17 years ago. When I get there we will both be celebrating.

The first thing is Binsy, why are you moody?? Are you eating enough?? Are you feeling deprived?? Are you eating enough carbs?? If you're hungry you need to up your food intake. If you're not smiling, you need to up your exercise! If you're feeling deprived, you need to eat some carbs!!! I'm not saying stuff yourself with chocolate, but carbs are very important to brain and mood function. If I am low on carbs, I feel sooooo moody!!

I am never in a better mood than when I'm eating healthy and exercising. SO please dont make the mistake that eating 'healthy' is eating little as possible and dropping weight as fast as possible. It's a long term process requireing patience and consistency.

As for Mrs Binsy, you need to have a serious talk with her and tell her how you feel about her crass comment. Tell her you NEED her support. Perhaps she doesnt realise what you're going through??

But as for like-minded support and empathy, you have US!!!! :bigsmile: Come on hun, we can do this!!!

I know exactly how you feel. I've battled against my unsupportive husband since I started my journey less than a year ago. I've lost 3 stone and he's not happy about it - mostly down to his own insecurities. Still being encouraged to eat crap and gain weight. It's not nice but you sound just as determined as me so just use this sight and all these great people to get that extra support you are lacking. You are probably being defensive rather than moody if she's being unsupportive! You will achieve your goal x

That is hard. Maybe other people in your family can boost you up. My husband is pretty disinterested, but I can always count on my mom to give me kudos. We support each other at work too, since most of us are working on losing weight. Hopefully you can find someone else to help you stay motivated

If you've lost almost 14 pounds in a month you are doing super! I think that spouses sometimes suffer a fear of the unknown. . . "what will happen when my husband becomes a hottie?"

Keep up the good work!

lovin that bit about becomin' a hottie i can hope