frustrated.....

pickle41 · February 2011

I started MFP the beginning of the year, counting every calorie, every bit of excercise, drinking double the amount of water I should be and in 2 months only lost "4" pounds... Then last week my mother passed away. Now I just can't seem to care enough to figure out what is wrong with me. Why can't I get the weight off? Why don't the scales go down? When is it going to be my turn? I am soo very frustrated and just about ready to give up, I need help and don't know what to do at this point. I know if I gite up now,,,, its just going to set me back more but when there's no good result its very hard to keep trying. I haven't been on but once since my mother passed but I am gonna make a nxw start tomorrow.. It has been the most difficult week I've had since my dad passed. Prayers please.

Warmbloodwear · February 2011

Big "hugs" to you!!!
Not easy at all....It has been 1 year the 25th since my dad passed and I know how it feels....Chin-up you can do this!!! I know for me it was time and I have needed it for so long... I feel my dad cheers me on everytime and everyday....

Kiwijay · February 2011

so much has happened for you. Don't give up though!!!! Keep your goal insight and just take it day by day. Many symapthies for your loss too. Big hugs

EDBENAGLIO · February 2011

MY MOM PASSED ABOUT 2 YEARS AGO AND SHE WAS THE ONE PERSON IN MY LIKE THAT I BELIVE WOULD REALY STAND BY ME. SO I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. NOW WE CAN NOT SEE YOU FOOD SO IF YOU OPEN THAT UP WE COULD TALK ABOUT THAT. HAVE YOU LOST ANY SINCE YOU STARTED? YOU COULD BE BULKING UP SO KEEP WITH IT AND GO OFF HOW STUFF FITS AND HOW YOU FEEL FOR A LITTLE BIT BEFORE JUMPING BACK ON THE SCALE.

princess4mimi · February 2011

I'm no expertise but.....what was your normal routine...or what is your current routine? Maybe I can see something in them that would help, often times I've had to rely on someone else for an objective idea. In any case if you choose not to go into the details right now, I would just like to say perhaps don't focus on this too much right now because you have something really Big going on right now. Losing your mother means that you will be very involved in emotional, mental, physical and preparatory (making or assisting with her final arrangements) Stresses. Take a time out from focusing on losing weight, log every time you can but just to keep up with your new habit and receive some moral support from your MFP buddies. And when the time is right you will slowly begin to re-emerge into your FULL MFP life again. Then we can re-evaluate your strategy some more. You have my sincere condolences, may you find strength in this moment of sadness and sorrow. :flowerforyou:

SeaShell33 · February 2011

so sorry about your loss

But just remember to watch the kinds of food you are eating. I just keep telling myself if I wasnt doing this, who knows how much more I would have gained. I know the scale will go down, maybe not as fast as we want...dont give up:flowerforyou:

sandradickie · February 2011

Sending you prayers for peace and comfort during this most difficult time!!! You have every reason to feel frustrated especially now, but try to be kind to yourself. You will probably feel better about your weight loss when you have the oppurtunity to get back to tracking your food and exercise.

tati111 · February 2011

I am sorry to hear about your loss. Losing a parent is devastating and I will pray that you find the strength to get through this. It is important to take good care of yourself during this time especially. It will be very easy to forget yourself and put your health in danger. Don't give up on your healthy eating and continue to keep up the good work and it will pay off in the long run. Don't beat yourself up especially during this time of grieving but do continue to be aware of your eating habits. Reach out to your friends and family for support and make a meal plan that you can stick to in advance. Good luck and I would love to keep in touch with you and be a witness to your success!!

jllipson · February 2011

Sorry to hear of your loss.

MFP has me to consume 1440 calories per day, I change the numbers up and set my goal of 1200-1500 calories. The "Get Fit" program my husband joined actually recommended to do that. They also made lifestyle change #1 for them to drink minimum 80 ounces water per day. I struggle to reach that some days, but at least get 64 ounces in each day. They then add on weekly to lifestyle changes goal #2 to get 8 hours sleep per night. #3 eat 5 fruits/veggies per day, #4 walk 10,000 steps per day, and this week is daily meditation. They maintain all previous weeks goals throughout the program for 16 weeks. As these are to be "Lifestyle changes" for life. Maybe this will help you in your struggles.

Also, change around the exercise routines - I was doing just 1 mainly then started adding/subtracting to that this past week and actually came down 3 pounds - I surprised myself on that. But now I think the systematic routine wasn't all too good for me, because that was the only big change I did differently this week.

flaquitadelafrontera · February 2011

My deepest condolences. I bet your parent were lovely people and I bet they would want to see you happy. Look at a healthy life style as one step towards your happiness. Let them be your silent cheerleaders from above:) Best of luck! Warm thoughts and prayers headed your way.

MissAllison · February 2011

I'm sure this is so hard for you right now - I will be praying for you and your family during this rough time.

As for the weight loss - try not to focus on the number on the scale too much (easier said than done, I know...). Look for other positive changes related to your lifestyle like increased energy & clothes that fit differently. Be sure to take your measurements as well - your measurements may be changing even when the scale is not (especially if you are working out, since muscle weighs more than fat...). Hang in there!

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