bullied at the gym
gracemtn
Posts: 33 Member
This evening I was jogging when a couple came into the gym. The lady jumped on to the treadmill next to me (with 6 open to the left and 3 to the right) and was wearing a turtleneck and black jeans. She literally spent the whole time starring at me of course making me super self conscious. I was at my cool down when a friend who has been having a hard time (partly my fault) called. Instinctively answered only to have the guy of the couple come up to me and scold me for being on the phone. He was so harsh and made comments about my age. I do what I always do: froze and scampered away, calling my husband from the car. I know I look very young but really did he have to talk to me like that? And why does my "age" have anything to do with it?
My DH who has logged A LOT of gym hours informed me that this is common at all gyms and to not take it personally. Still I cam horrible at confrontation and am afraid this is going to effect my gym time negatively. Any words of wisdom?
My DH who has logged A LOT of gym hours informed me that this is common at all gyms and to not take it personally. Still I cam horrible at confrontation and am afraid this is going to effect my gym time negatively. Any words of wisdom?
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so rude! dumb a$$es :grumble:0
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Thank you. Wish I was such a sissy.1
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I would have told the couple to **** OFF!2
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It sounds like they were just being rude and mean. Keep going and go with confidence, but do try to keep calls to a minimum1
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Personally? This crap is why I avoid the gym (although, for me it's because I am naturally confrontational and the gym just makes me cranky). But if you are going to keep going all you really can do is grow a thicker skin and tell the next one to go to the manager or an employee if he's got a problem.4
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Anyone wearing a turtleneck and black jeans to work out is a joke anyway. Ignore them. You are there to better yourself and if you want to talk on the phone, talk on the phone. Just tell them to mind their own business next time. They aren't worth stressing out about.7
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or tell them to go to the manager if they have a problem.......I'm not confrontational either -- my problem is I get so shocked at rude people like that, that I can't immediately think of anything to quip back.
PLUS, WHO THE HELL RUNS ON A TREADMILL IN JEANS???????????? What a Loser!2 -
I know this would be hard, but if there ever is a next time....tell them that if they don't like working out next to others they should perhaps invest in a home gym, or not choose equipment next to the only other patron in the gym. Or ask him if his 'roid dose is making him all ragey....
This too shall pass...if it's really uncomfortable for you, try to make your gym time a different time of day for a while before you go back, and some gyms have a women's only section where you wouldn't have to run into someone's rude, arrogant, self-important husband in the gym.
Good luck! I'm sure you won't have to deal with that garbage again, but if you do, I would talk to personel from the gym, I don't think they'd like the idea of patrons bullying other patrons in their gyms, bad business.3 -
Ok. I go to the gym and no where does it say no cellphones in workout area. It says that on the bathroom door. Plus you pay to workout there and it is YOUR workout not theirs. Sounds to me that they need to mind their own business and if they dont want to listen to people talk on the phone then they should wear and ipod. Sorry but I think they where very rude. But stand up for yourself cause they will just keep doing it to you if you allow them to. And no your age doesnt have anything to do with anything. They just seem to me like they think they own the place..... RUDE!6
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one word...TAZER.1
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I would have told the couple to **** OFF!1
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I have a million and half things I *should have said*3
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If she was wearing jeans and a sweater then it sounds like they were trolling and single you out (after watching youu a bit) as the cell as a single. Go to the manager next time. I learned the hard way....you can't be shy when it comes to your rights!3
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@MobiusMan........lol...Love it!0
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That's so rude of them to come up and do that. Even though i would like to think i would confront them i know i would do the same as what you did. What people think they can do that to someone else and not feel bad about it.2
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one word...TAZER.
YES!1 -
At my gym everyone is wearing earbuds for music so who would care if I'm on the phone? and sometimes I am. That sucks they totally sound like jerks.1
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THIS just irritates me to NO end! Bullies, young or old, need to be put in their place...I would have LOVED to have done it FOR you!!
Understanding that you're a non-confrontational type of person, I would have told him, show me the sign and I will be happy to end my call. I have never been to a gym where it's said no cell phones or cell phone calls. Nor have I ever heard of anyone having an issue with people using a cell or making a call. Who cares!?!?! It sound to me this couple ARRIVED just LOOKING for trouble!
Hang in there girl...unless there's a sign saying no cell phones....they were in the wrong. Not you. I would avoid them if you see them again, but if there are ANY issues....take it to the manager. DEFINITELY do NOT let this deter you from going to the gym....do you....that'll be payback enough!2 -
Should've told that woman her turtleneck was cutting off the blood flow to her brain.2
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I wouldn't let it get to you, for all he knew it could have been a true emergency with kids or something! I would have told him to mind his own business! There is ALWAYS going to be one a**hole in the bunch.. Just forget about it and don't worry about him, he was the jerk not you. Some people have such nerve and can be so rude! He must be unhappy with himself or his life?!1
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