Who are you to judge my goal?

I've lost a lot of weight in the past 2 years...more than what my ticker here says. I'm constantly being asked if I'm at my weight goal and when I say no I want to lose another 20-30 pounds people flip out! They go on and on about how I've lost enough weight and if I lose more I'll look sickly...they are just use to me being 150 pounds overweight!!

We each have our own goals and it's no one else's business!! I do agree that your friends are just concerned, but you aren't alone in getting frustrated!! I'd go by how you feel, that's what I'm going to do.

Take care!!!

:flowerforyou:

got to say this a one stage I lost a lot of weight and thought I was ok but was still unhappy with my tummy area, recently I looked at some pictures of me on holiday and the sun had caught me and to tell you the truth I was so freaked out I was a bag of bones and where the sun had caught me well it made me feel sick. Take phots as you go and remember to refer and scrutinise them as you would a stranger if it looks good ok but if it makes you feel that it's too far change your goals, good luck to you.

Ok so here's the deal. Some people are being critical of the goal I have. I am 5 foot 6 inches tall and I currently weigh 130.2lbs. My goal is to be 115lbs. I have been told several times by many different friends that this is too small or too skinny.. HELLO in high school I was the same height and I barely weighed 100lbs and had the nickname bones!

I don’t think that 115 is too skinny. I want muscle on my body too not just bones!

Does this sound unrealistic to you? OR are my critics just being jerks?

It sounds as though it would be on the very low end of healthy, depending on your body type, and well below healthy for many of your height (though not all). I'm an inch taller than you are and if I get under 130, people invariably ask me if I am tired, ill, etc.

I've gone there when I was younger and had a 'number' fixated in my head. But I'll tell you that for me it was not good. I was wan and pale for the first time in my life and I was eating very poorly and insufficiently while working out like a maniac. Again, that's me. For my build, 132-142 while eating well and being active keeps me in a size 4-6. Below that I look and feel unwell. However, I have some freinds who are healthy and active at higher and lower weights for the same height.

I guess the real question comes down to WHY do you want to be 115? What's the reasoning behind that? It may be good or it may be flawed.

I spoke to my doctor about this goal and she said that a healthy lowest weight for my size is 118 I would be happy with that. She has also been my Dr, since I was a child so for her to see me at this weight she even began to worry about gaining too much weight. I have a very small frame so I do not carry this extra 10-15 very well. Even though my BMI is in the healthy range right now I know just by looking at my body that I am not healthy!

So my reasoning behind it is not really the number it is the FAT on my body that I am thinking weighs that extra 10-15! The flubber on my tummy and the extra thighs Im carrying around....

If you are more concerned about your shape and level of toning than a number on the scale (which I do agree is a better motivation than a number), there are a few ways you can go here.

One, up the exercise. More cardio and do some weight training (trust, it will not bulk you up).

Two, try to eat healthier. And by healthier, I don't necessarily mean 'less'. Fewer processed foods, more foods in their natural state, more attention to simple carbs (which you'd want to cut down).

It sounds as though with your slight frame, you'd be likely to still be healthy in the 118-125 range. But you may find that working on your overall fitness, rather than fighting with the scale, would produce better results for your ultimate goal of being firmer and more shapely. Simply losing weight without any training will not get you the result you seek.

Should have mentioned this before, but your friends are not necessarily trying to be 'jerks'. They may be genuinely concerned for you and your well-being. Try not to assume that their motivation is bad.

to Chryssy;

I think we all have critics in our lives. Some are just that way, unhappy people who criticize others to make themselves feel better, others are family/friends who think they have the right to express their opinions to us just because they are family/friend. I suggest smile while they offer, or brush them off, you and your goals are important to only you.

Even though you are starting at 130 # just remember, when you start working out to slim down or tone down, the type of exercise is what will determine the final outlook. Keeping an ideal weight number in your head is great, because it clarifies your goals. But if all you want to do is tone up or build muscle, remember that muscle tissue weighs more than fat. Keep that in mind, decide what YOU want to look like when you are done. You may weigh 115 or you may weigh 120, or somewhere in between. You have to decide what is right and best for you.

With all my support and respect;

cat:flowerforyou: :bigsmile:

:bigsmile: When you are teenager you're body has not fully matured yet. It's never good to base your goal weight based on weight as a teenager. So if at 100 you were called bones, maybe 115 is a good weight for you. 15lbs is a good size difference. See how your body feels, you skin looks and if you are healthy. If so then that's a good weight for you!!

:-)

im 5'6 and shooting for 140 but thats the ideal of where I want to be,the lowest ive ever been was 115 it wasent for me my boobs are to big I looked like i was going to topple over lol
if it works for you and your healthy screw what everyone else thinks

Whatever you do with your body is up to you.

That said, judging by your pictures, you don't have 15 more pounds to lose. Ribs poking out is not healthy.

About same height and weight, you're fine. If you want it go for it. It's a pretty realistic goal(:

Hello -
Not judging you, but just pointing out that people often set the initial goal of attaining a BMI that is considered to be 'NORMAL,' then set BODY FAT% goals from there. It looks like you started out at a weight that is already considered healthy, so you might want to make sure to document measurements and body fat % from here on out to track your progress.
My goal BF% is admittedly vague and arbitrary - it's more of a quality of life thing: I want to be able to wear corduroy pants w/o hearing that awful zoot-zoot sound from my flabby thighs, go to the beach w/o sucking in my spare tire, trim down the bingo wings so they aren't still flapping when I'm done waving hello :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

The number doesn't really matter so much to me!!