Jealous of others trying to lose weight!

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  • dericcarson
    dericcarson Posts: 78 Member
    Look... the truth is... none of us got fat because we ate right and stayed active. We ALL put more food in our mouths than we should have. We can blame it on anything we want. But the bottom line remains the same. So... we pay the price to take it off... Whether you have jealousy issues or not is something YOU have to deal with... because the person(s) you are jealous OF could care less. I'm not judging... I'm just sayin'. And if it makes you feel better to vent... this is the place to do it. I share MFP with anyone and everyone. Whether they use it or not is their business. I've done my part... I've given them information. It's up to each of us to DO something about our lives and our lifestyles...


    Just my 2 cents! :bigsmile:

    You are so right!! Everyone has a right to choose their own way to take the weight off.....dont judge me for mine.....no one knows my situation and we are 2 be supportive.....this is my place to vent and I am getting nothing but negative tonight :(
  • foodforfuel
    foodforfuel Posts: 569 Member
    Wow. Other than two or so posts on this topic (one being cazzincali's), I have to say I find the whole thread very sad. However, I applaud everyone for being willing to say that that is the kind of person that you are. I wish you all the best and good luck in your journey, but then, that's just the kind of person I am.
  • Mad_Dog_Muscle
    Mad_Dog_Muscle Posts: 1,251 Member
    LOL!! Awesome response!! That was entertaining to read. Why people are so negative instead of positive is beyond me.

    Good luck and I hope you win the $1500!!
  • MMK72
    MMK72 Posts: 35 Member
    I tell everyone but think I'm overzealous about how awesome MFP is but I don't think many will use it. (I also hope I don't fail weight loss AGAIN and have people judge me for failing). I'd love it though if work got healthier and there were healthy snacks lying around everywhere instead of cakes and chips!
  • krisvtx8777
    krisvtx8777 Posts: 163
    I frequently find myself jealous of others who drop weight so quickly. Or lose weight by starving themselves. Or cutting out entire meals. Then I'm exercising my butt off and eating healthy and not losing a pound. It gets frustrating!!!
  • Trjlove
    Trjlove Posts: 28
    You GO GIRL!!!! I am rooting for you. I absolutely hate "office gossip" people. In my eyes they are just people who are not content
    with themselves in the first place. Hence they have to create drama. What is HCG?
  • Trjlove
    Trjlove Posts: 28
    But remember those people who follow that mode are the people that in a year will be heavier then when they started. You on the other hand would have learned healthy habits and strengthen your body to endure and recover faster and better when injured!!!
  • cindy4mica
    cindy4mica Posts: 777 Member
    ok, let's be honest - if we had the physical capability/money to lose weight with little or no effort or "cheat" by using pills/surgery (knowing it would be safe), wouldn't we do it? i know i would...
  • cindy4mica
    cindy4mica Posts: 777 Member
    and i also pimp out mfp to my friends - some have joined, some have joined and remain stagnant, and some clearly don't care. i've done my job.
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,032 Member
    I posted this a few hours ago......talk about jealous!!

    Hi my HCG friends.....hope everyone is doing well! I just need to vent for a few minutes about using HCG in the workplace.

    So....we have the "Biggest Loser" Contest going on at work right now. First place is $1,500. We started 2 weeks ago today. I decided and bought my HCG prior to even knowing about the contest. So I put my money in and joined. I told a couple people about my diet plan and of course I hear nothing but negative comments, thats not enough calories, your going to get sick, your going to gain it all back....blah, blah.......bad idea, so I keep to myself. Mind you, we all work together as Attorneys so you would think the "Highschool" gossip wouldn't exist.....wrong! So first weigh in was today (it started 2 weeks ago with the initial weigh in).....and I lost 10 lbs in 2 weeks! Great right?? Yeah, so I get an e-mail about 10 minutes later from the "office gossip" stating that her and 2 other co-workers are not comfortable with me in the contest because I am using "supplemental diet drops" (lol) to make me lose weight and that I am only eating 500 calories a day (which she said I was starving myself) and that it is not fair to anyone else. Really? Jealous much? Because I lost 10 lbs and I am winning on week 2.........not week 12......week 2!
    So, I take a few minutes to decide what my response is and I e-mail her back. I simply told her how I choose to diet and how I choose to lose my weight is none of her business and this is a contest where we are all suppose to be supportive, not negative. I told her if she wanted to lose 10 lbs in 2 weeks like I did that I would show her the website....:) And I said that I will not quit the biggest loser....because I will be the biggest loser.....but I guess today was "pick on the biggest loser"

    Thank you for listening......I needed to vent!
    Gotta say I agree with your co-workers. They will lose the weight and keep it off because they aren't using drugs to drop the weight. Using drugs for weightloss certainly doesn't seem fair in regards to a contest where everyone should be on a level playing field.

    I highly doubt they are jealous:noway: , simply telling you how they see it. You seem very defensive in your return remarks to others on this thread when they have commented regarding this. Are you sure it's not you that's sensitive about using the diet aid???

    You may win the contest (or maybe not) but it's far more likely the others will KEEP the weight OFF since they will be taking it slow and doing it the healthy way. Losing too quickly may sound exciting in the beginning but when the effect wears off and the drops and shots are no longer being used, the lbs. WILL return with a vengeance. There are people on here in the HCG thread that have gained ALL their weight back when they were boasting to the rest of us how we're the ones that don't know what we're talking about.

    I do understand why they would prefer you not be in the contest, it would be no different than if someone took pills and ate no food at all and lost that way. HCG only allow 500 calories per day and some on here doing it don't even eat that many (HCG people) calories per day (their words, not mine).

    But people will do what they want to in the end and find out later it might not have been the healthiest route.:ohwell:

    If someone is defensive about something they are doing there is usually something going on in their own head about doubts.
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,032 Member
    But remember those people who follow that mode are the people that in a year will be heavier then when they started. You on the other hand would have learned healthy habits and strengthen your body to endure and recover faster and better when injured!!!
    Learning healthy habits using HCG diet shots and drops? Losing a lb. a day? How will that teach anyone to keep the weight off long term. Definitely suggest you find out what HCG diet is about before suggesting it's something that a person can keep the weight off with. You do realize HCG people are only allowed to eat 500 calories a day, right? They take drops under their tongue or use a needle to dose themselves. How is that teaching long term health changes? Melba toast? Apple days? Steak days? :noway:

    I think most people would rather learn to eat in a healthy manner and keep the weight off long term than quickly drop the pounds, risk health problems and then gain all the weight back quickly only to have to do it all over again. :noway:
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,032 Member
    Wow. Other than two or so posts on this topic (one being cazzincali's), I have to say I find the whole thread very sad. However, I applaud everyone for being willing to say that that is the kind of person that you are. I wish you all the best and good luck in your journey, but then, that's just the kind of person I am.
    I find it very sad as well. I cheer my friends on when they choose to make healthy lifestyle changes, whether it be at workmates, friends, strangers. I love to hear of others dropping weight in a healthy manner. Why be jealous of another human being do well? I think it says far more about ourselves if we are excited to see others fail than the other person. They are simply trying to drop the weight to be healthy. Maybe it's time for some to look inside and see exactly why we would even want another to fail.:ohwell:

    I do hope you can work through this issue as it WILL effect your journey and how you continue to feel about yourself more so than it will effect those looking to lose weight. This is all inside of your head and has little to nothing to do with others.:frown:
  • dlaplume2
    dlaplume2 Posts: 1,658 Member
    I think people need to realize this is a very personal thing to everybody. People look at this like religion or something. It's like telling someone how to raise thier kids. If you tell people about it they think you are getting something out of it for yourself.

    I love MFP. We all use it a little different. If people ask, you tell them what you are doing, but don't be surprised when they look shocked, like they would never do something like that. Chances are they were looking for a magic pill kind of answer. There are none.

    People that use surgery or pills, have a whole different set of obstacles they have to do to prepare themselves for it. They have to change their whole life to make it work for them.

    I am changing my lifestyle to make this work for me, and, while I would not want to go to those extremes, I will not judge people who do. I really wish them all the successes in their journey.

    It is hard to share stuff that is so personal when you don't want to hear criticism from the other person on why it won't work for them. We just need to keep in mind; "people who have never tried have no right to criticise."

    I don't want to listen and take advise from people who failed I want to listen to those that succeeded.
    Now; don't get me wrong if someone made a mistake and said I did that and I learned this (xxx) II will make my own opinion as to whether person is teaching me something that will help, or just being a nay sayer. I do believe in learning from others mistakes.
  • DianaPowerUp
    DianaPowerUp Posts: 518 Member
    I feel just the opposite. If I see that someone has been successfully losing weight, or (more so for me) has been developing some serious muscle tone, I get excited for them, and ask them their secrets to success. And if anyone were to ask me how I do it, I'd direct them to this site, and also talk about my diet/exercise program. I'm happy to share what works, and I hope others will share that with me too.

    While I did find out about this website from an old friend through FB, I don't broadcast ANYTHING about what I'm doing on FB at all. At my age, many of my peers are waaaaay out of shape, and I don't want them to feel alienated b/c I'm posting that I've "lost another lb" or whatever. Also, b/c I am so close to my goal anyway, I think people would take it badly and be like, "What the h*ll is she losing weight for?" etc.
  • EbonyGemstoneHealth
    EbonyGemstoneHealth Posts: 249 Member
    The only jealous/anger I ever feel is when the other person is like "OMG LOOK AT HOW MUCH WEIGHT I'M LOSING AND SO QUICKLY! I WORKED SO HARD" when they are actually not doing anything except getting surgery, taking diet pills, or messing with their hormones via internet drops. Their eating habits haven't changed. They don't exercise. Therefor I'm not happy for them and a bit pissed off when I hear about how they stall in weight or them proclaim how hard they've worked.

    Ditto this.
  • cindy4mica
    cindy4mica Posts: 777 Member
    I feel just the opposite. If I see that someone has been successfully losing weight, or (more so for me) has been developing some serious muscle tone, I get excited for them, and ask them their secrets to success. And if anyone were to ask me how I do it, I'd direct them to this site, and also talk about my diet/exercise program. I'm happy to share what works, and I hope others will share that with me too.

    While I did find out about this website from an old friend through FB, I don't broadcast ANYTHING about what I'm doing on FB at all. At my age, many of my peers are waaaaay out of shape, and I don't want them to feel alienated b/c I'm posting that I've "lost another lb" or whatever. Also, b/c I am so close to my goal anyway, I think people would take it badly and be like, "What the h*ll is she losing weight for?" etc.

    i agree about fb. instead of getting positive feedback about my weight loss or goal to lose more, i get "oh, well you were breastfeeding so that helped." or "what do you need to lose weight for?" it's *my* body and if i don't feel good about the way i look (without going overboard or getting an eating disorder) it's my preroggative to do something to change that. yes, i got a "jump start" when i was breastfeeding, but i stopped in september so give me *some* due credit for losing the rest and not gaining it back!
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