Perception of Self...I've lost the Weight, but still see a h

it comes with positive self talk and purposefully ignoring negative self talk. i've heard of counselors who make you draw an outline of what you perceive your body to be, and then they trace your body over that outline in a different color to help you see the difference in what you see in the mirror and what's real. going to a counselor for something like this might be a good idea. it's nothing to feel bad about. i finally sucked it up and went to a counselor about my own body image issues and it's helping tremendously. if you're in school, see if there are women's services available to students at a low cost.

I've always wondered the same thing, and I think that is something that has held me back in wanting to get healthy, was the fear of always looking at myself as the fat chick so whats the point of changing....But I do think overtime you will overcome it and realzie all the good you are doing for yourself and how much healthier you are. I would focus on all the positive things you have done to become healthy, rather than focusing on what you once were. Hopefully that helps!

I just put it down to fat days, some days I feel fat and I weigh 140, i know I'm not but I think it's just that negative tape that plays in my head sometimes, fat ugly hopeless but I ignore it now when before I would go to the fridge and eat it away. So now on these days when I look in the mirrror instead of finding things that I don't like I try to name the the parts I do like and slowly I start to look and feel better, at the end of the day it is just a shell.:flowerforyou:

I'm not sure but for me one thing that makes a difference is looking at photos. The mirror is too familiar and my overactive, sabotaging brain gets in the way. Somehow photos are more "third person" and I can notice the difference more.

a long time ago I read somewhere that a lot of what we see in the mirror is a refection of what we believe we are seeing (an image we have already in our minds), this was also used to explain why sometimes we don't see things that are right infront of us until we look at them from a different angle (ever gone crazy looking for your keys only to find them where you had already looked?) so a few years back, I got really tired of always looking at my self in the mirror and not liking what I saw so I decided to MAKE my self stand infront of the mirror every day wearing something pretty, or revealing, or sexy, or sometimes wearing nothing at all... I tried to stand up tall and straight and repeat the words (OUT LOUD) "I am beautiful" "I look great" "I look sexy" over and over. It might sound silly to some, but after a while, my brain got the picture, the NEW picture! Positive self talk can do wonders for our self image!