Uh-Oh! Here we go again!

I used to have a lot of trouble with this as well. The answer was I stopped dieting. Now I eat whatever I want. I've been doing this for a couple of years combined with changing my negative eating and exercise thoughts and habits. It is a program called "Am I Hungry?" where all foods fit. I've lost 67 pounds and four pants sizes in the past year. This way I don't over eat during special times (weekends, parties, etc) because I don't deprive myself of things I want every day. I focus on balance, variety, and moderation as well as trying to eat only when I am truely hungry rather then just when it sounds good, when I'm bored, when I am upset, etc.

I know how frustrating it can be to go back and forth. I wish you well on your journey.

Well, I still have pizza and chips and a beer now and then, but I limit it. Instead of eating 2-3 slices, have a half a slice and a small salad maybe? And drink 1 beer, then switch to water. Maybe you could ask him to share in some energetic type activities, going for a hike or biking or raquetball. That way you can be together, but still get a workout in.

I know that cheating all weekend completely eliminates my week's deficit. I can't do it and still lose weight. So I keep the party small and keep the exercise fun big . I still have fun though!

You have to get your weekends under control, but you already know that! I suggest you have a quiet word with your boyfriend and see what you can work out together. Try diet coke instead of ordinary drinking, try to walk to places or include an activity in your weekend plans. I eat pizza - will be having some tomorrow but I limit myself to less than half a standard pizza and I choose thin crust. I have low calorie veggies to make up the bulk. You just need to think of ways to overcome the weekend difficulty. Losing weight and keeping it off means a lifestyle change. Wishing you well with the dieting,
Valerie

I've learned in the past year that is about changing your life, not dieting. This has helped me lose 73lbs before joining this site. The reality is, life includes special meals and we have to learn to eat. Something I have done when these meals come up is to drink a big glass of water before hand, sparkling/carbonated will fill you up even more. Make healthy choices at special meals - opt for more veggies and ask for half cheese on the pizza and a thin crust. Alternate alcoholic drinks with water (again sparkling) and something like vodka with slimline tonic limits some of the calories. If you can, sneak in some exercise early in the morning....and drag him out with you. Hopefully he's supportive of what you are trying to achieve and maybe he doesn't realise its being sabatoged! :flowerforyou:

You don't have to cut out the treats and things, just need to keep them in proportion.
I nearly fainted the first time i saw how much a Dominos (or other chains') delivery pizza was in calories- more than a days worth for me!!! :noway:
Undoing all the good you've done in the week though must be pretty soul-destroying, but YOU have the control to ensure this is not the case.
Go for a run, go to the gym, eat sparingly (but healthily) throughout the day to accomodate a treat later on, but losing focus "just because it's the weekend" was my major folly, and basically it's lack of willpower.
You can do it, keep the focus, remain positive
Take care

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I would recommend moving your weigh-in day. And find other "treats" or rewards that aren't food related.
I weigh-in on Sunday mornings. I work Mon-Fri so I have my work week routine of packing healthy lunches and going to the gym after work. By weighing in on Sundays, I find that I stay on track Saturday too. If I met my goal on Sunday, I will relax a bit and maybe have one splurge meal....but not a whole day. And like other suggested, pizza is fine, just watch your portions. Have a slice and a salad. Or make pizza at home, so you have more control over the stats. I make pizza at home with little flat breads that I found at the store. They feel like a splurge and I get to eat the whole thing without the guilt!
When Monday morning comes, my schedule resets as I go back to work and I'm mentally back on track again.
Maybe something like this will work for you too...?

Also, find ways to reward yourself other than food. Save the money you would spend on treats and at the end of the month, go shopping. Or get your nails done or hair trimmed....or whatever kinds of things will make you feel good. Best of luck!

Have you asked him for support? I agree with many of these posts, try to include him in your healthy choices and activities. This is about YOUR life. You are not a party pooper, just starting to take care of yourself. Believe in yourself and you are worth doing this ALL WEEKEND LONG! Good luck.
Barb

i know the feeling, my bf he likes to eat out alot and wants alot of very fattening foods. he loves his sweets too. i know it is very hard to lose weight. he won't support me what so ever and won't workout with me. i'm actually on this on my own, i've lost 66lbs. so far on my own, i still have 34lbs. to go and it's hard. seems like it's eatting out, but when he's not around i watch what i eat and i can get my workouts in, but it's hard for me to get some when he is around, but at home i can workout upstairs. being in a travel trailer it's hard when he is in here at night, that's why i go walking, i take our little dog with me. but i sure can't get him be there for me.

@edithflesh: I think weighing on Sunday mornings is an absolutely FABULOUS idea! Missed it this week, but will definitely start weighing on Sunday mornings for a while. It totally blows the whole idea of splurging on the weekends out of the water. Thank you!!!!!

I had to switch to Sunday mornings, when the temptations of going out on Saturday nights proved to sabotage me. I would have a couple cocktails, which lead to mindless snacking. Or worse...Taco Bell! Knowing that weigh-in is looming helps me keep things in check...because sometimes this weight loss stuff is just as much of a mental challenge as it is a physical one. I hope it goes great for you too!