Married to an enabler...

Im the same. I cant have that stuff in my house because I will eat it.
Would your husband be upset if you put all his junk food into his car for him? Remove the temptation yourself rather than waiting for him to do it - which he probably wont.

Maybe your husband & mine can move in with each other LOL .. I have the same problem. He "tells" me he wants to help, but then we go to the mall, and he gets Chinese buffet type foods and sits at the table while I have nothing... Even my 8 yr old tries to help by asking if I want her white rice because she thinks its healthier.. UUGGH!! So I walk around the food court collecting nutrition guides, sit at the table while he stuffs his face with 5,000 cals (oh and a large root beer to boot), while I try and figure out what I can have under 400 cals.. Sometimes I think they just don't think.. Stinkin' men

PS - I'd put all this "goodies" in his trunk one day.. or better yet, just toss them in the trash.. I wouldn't be able to control myself for long so it's better to be gone then hoping you don't remember they are there :S

My husband is the type of guy who can eat 5000+ calories a day and maintain a BMI of 18. Not fair, is it? But, if your hubby is snacking on junk all day, it's not healthy, regardless of his weight. He doesn't want diabetes or cardiac disease later on. If he's receptive, sit down and talk to him about making changes in BOTH of your eating habits. My husband eats similarly to me during the day, then has a bedtime snack of whatever he wants. I make a point to be doing something else and not paying attention. This way, we are setting good nutrition habits for our children, but every one is getting the nutrients they need, and he is getting the caloric intake his insane metabolism requires!

I know it's so hard, trust me I do. I was in your position for months. Thing I had to remember that this was MY choice to do this...not his. He should be allowed to make his own choices with food too. I don't think it's necessarily fair for us to as them not to buy treats for themselves.

It sucks, but if he isn't wanting to do this with you right now, you will just have to be extra strong. It's not impossible. You can do it!! Good luck!

He's hiding them. They are in his dresser. I wouldn't throw them away on him.

It is your eating life style, not his. He is doing what he can to be supportive but that doesn't mean he can't have those snacks if he wants them. I am caring for my two young brothers and they are still eating foods they like (but still healthy, they aren't running around on sugar highs) that I don't eat. I love those treats but I'll eat something else. it is the same idea of passing up the extra bread stick at dinner (which I have a hard time doing.)

Sorry but you have to take some control over it (meaning, yourself) and NOT by telling him he can't have it in the house, after all it is his house too.


You can do it.

I do understand the difficulty of living with temptation; even if it wasn't constantly available at home (right now, two boxes of girl scout cookies and four packs of Ghiradelli dark chocolate raspberry squares), I'd have to face it all the time at work. There's an extent to which you have to learn to live with it, and learn to limit yourself. I use my MFP food logging to figure out how much I can eat and/or how much exercise is needed to work off indulgences. That said, I'm not so strict on myself that I'm not allowed to cheat; I allow myself to go over "on occasion" - without bothering to define the occasions.

If we're eating somewhere fattening, there's usually something sensible on the menu, or else I allow myself a very controlled portion. Self-control is not ONE decision - you have it or you don't; it's a lot of little decisions that add up over time.

Examples:
This week, somebody brought a cheesecake into the office - my downfall. I allowed myself a roughly 2-tbsp portion - just enough to enjoy it.
I also had a luncheon where the plate I got tallied 920 calories! I skipped most of the starch on the plate, scraped sauce off the potatoes, and enjoyed the parts I really cared about. I estimate I consumed about 500 calories.
This week, as part of a challenge, I did not have one bite of the aforementioned chocolates, because it was a contest, and I hate losing and refuse to cheat.
My daughter wanted to eat at Panda Express. We agreed to go first to the gym. Once done, I checked my days calories, picked my meal, and then calculated how much of it I could afford to eat. I got the steamed veggies instead of rice or chow mein, and stopped when I was supposed to.

A series of decisions that, taken together, contributed to this week's weight loss. You'll have to find what decisions work for you, but I have learned it's possible to live with candy and other temptations, if you find the right thoughts to keep you sidetracked until they become "normal" parts of your environment. From there, it gets a LOT easier. Good luck - I know it's difficult, especially at first.

Buy him a little lock box, put all his "goodies" in it, slap a padlock on it, and give him the only keys.

That way, you can have insomnia too from spending all night going through his *kitten* looking for them. Just kidding about the last part!

Worth a try, though, until you feel you can resist the temptation. Good luck!

He's hiding them. They are in his dresser. I wouldn't throw them away on him.

It is your eating life style, not his. He is doing what he can to be supportive but that doesn't mean he can't have those snacks if he wants them. I am caring for my two young brothers and they are still eating foods they like (but still healthy, they aren't running around on sugar highs) that I don't eat. I love those treats but I'll eat something else. it is the same idea of passing up the extra bread stick at dinner (which I have a hard time doing.)

Sorry but you have to take some control over it (meaning, yourself) and NOT by telling him he can't have it in the house, after all it is his house too.


You can do it.

Very well put, I agree we all need to accept responsibility in our life changes! Putting it off on someone else will not help us to change!:noway:

My two cents. And recognize that I understand completely about compulsive eating and temptation. Isn't the whole point of being healthy learning to keep your head in spite of temptation? Isn't the goal here to take responsibility for our own healthy lifestyles? At first I asked my wife, also perfect weight, to avoid having goodies in the house. Really, though, that was just me shifting responsibility. Tempation is everywhere. This is America. There are twix bars within five minutes at any given moment. I'm not going to make my wife, friends, children, coworkers all diet because I am. I got myself into this, not them. Therefore its my responsibility to get back out. Everyone is an "enabler" if you think about it. One of my greatest victories in the past three weeks is that my wife has a chocolate stash, my kids have christmas (and even halloween) candy that they haven't eaten. I haven't touched any of it. That's something that transfers to the outside world. And really unless you never leave your house, that's what we are all working to achieve. Sanity in the outside world, twix and all. Don't you think?

Seriously, I'm sure she didn't need a lecture from anyone.. Shouldn't one be able to vent and find a shoulder to cry on instead of someone telling her to "deal" with it.. Maybe I'm out of line, but I would be offended by your response if this was my original post.