When someone says you should stop losing weight....

YES! I have had people say the same thing to me and I still have quite a bit to lose! I think it all boils down to people don't like change and they may not necessarily like to see someone else happy or thin?

Same. I think people are just jealous. Jealous they don't have the same willpower and determination..when i go out to eat with my friends and order grilled chicken/veggies...they get so mad at me. They'll make fun of me and rub in my face how they all got cheeseburgers...fries...etc. I've learned to ignore it...I've changed my life and if they don't accept it that's fine, but I'm not going to put anything in my body that I don't want in it! haha just ignore them. Like i said...jealousy:)

Don't worry about it. You can turn it off from sharing those posts on your facebook. I only ever have the "calories burned" and "weight lost" posts double over there. I can't remember why it was but someone commented on my posts once and it too bugged me. I think it was a "completed her food diary" one and someone said they were eating junk food, like kfc or something. I am not sure what compelled someone who is maybe 1kg "over weight" because their "pants don't sit right" to tell someone who has a whole OTHER PERSON to lose that they were eating crap food because I was under my calorie limit for the day. I ripped her a new one, though, instead of ignoring it. ha. then made it so those posts no longer go to facebook

The people that know about my hard work don't tell me comments like that - BUT, if people just meet me for first time or even family members who I haven't seen in a while - THEY will tell me I'm too small... I'm 5'4" and currently weigh 122#. I don't look 'skinny' I look fit and healthy!

I also think that when reach our goals or look like we're on our way to achieve them, people have a hard time looking at themselves because they see our shining attitude and the love for life because of our happiness with ourselves. They have to ask serious questions about themselves and their life goals and sometimes that's not easy to do... So what better way to no turn to self-reflection than can make us change and work hard at something than to sabotage one of my friends' success? "Ya ya, take the focus off me and my problems" says the friend that hasn't done anything of value to herself/himself in a long while...

I say GOOD job and keep it up - this will probably drive you even more in the end! :drinker:

well, this post is making me feel like a fat cow. I am also 5'4" and was told by my Dr that I shouldn't try to get under 145 for my height and bone structure - but most of you already weigh less than me and want to lose way more.

But re: the original topic. I am sure they are just trying to be roundabout supportive.

Hi All,

I just have a few things to add to this discussion, as I can see it as a problem with society as a whole.

It seems that society is contradicting itself in many ways. Celebrities are shown to us looking slim and fit, magazines are constantly trying to get us to try out the new diet fads or to try this one quick technique every night for 7 days to lose the belly fat quick! Our entire culture centres around body image, and tells us to stop eating all of the processed foods because we are clogging our arteries. But then everyone turns around and sees ads for McDonalds, greasy burgers, french fries, ice cream, etc. Basically all of the foods that we should be avoiding are the easiest for us to get! Not only that, but it continues from there. We are told by people that we should be slim and fit, but then we also target the people that are in the 120 ranges. We hear comments that they look anorexic, should get some meat on them, look sick, weak, etc, and this is mostly due to the fact that the people making the comments are the ones that are not happy with their body image, hear the pressure from the media to lose weight, but can't control their eating habits because of the easily available fatty fast foods! They get jealous that other people can control themselves and then lash out at those that have achieved their goals. They get a small amount of self-satisfaction, but it could really affect the self-esteem of the person who has reached their weight loss goals.

Just try to remember that you are doing this for YOURSELF. Don't fall into the trap, don't be like the rest of the sheep. Work towards being happy with your body so that you can care for it properly.

I haven't actually read the other replies but my grandmother recently said the same thing to me and I was happy...LOL. In my opinion it was her way of saying "wow you lost a lot of weight...slow down" I think if this person is a friend they may not have meant it as an insult. When someone loses quite a bit of weight and are down around average they just look skinny, compare to the way they were. Hope that makes sense.

When I started I was 170 and she called me fat quite a bit. When I was around 145 she told me to stop losing weight and start eating. I think she sees the results not the work, progress or goal.

I experienced the same thing a lot when I lost a bunch of weight (before re-gaining it, heh.) I think some people really just don't like to see others succeed because it makes them feel insecure. I'm the same height as you, and my goal weight is around 130-135, but have been as low as 120. It totally depends on the person/body type/everything. Don't let it bother you girl, the progress you've made is amazing. She should be patting you on the back, not putting you down.