Sabotage by Spouse?!?

I would just tell my husband, Thank you for thinking of me, I really enjoyed it, maybe next time you can bring home some fresh fruit, or something. I would also tell him before the next time it happens.

I hope you and your son are 100% now. Just eat a serving of it and count it. Eat slowly so he doesnt notice that you're not eating thewhole thing. If he does notice tell him its so good you want to savesome for another time. If you do eat the whole thing don't beat yourself up about it just move on knowing you make good choices most of the time.

Be Thankful! This is how husbands show there love for there wife. We only know one way to do this is by doing & giving things for you! Your truely blessed! The ball is really in your court,do you have to eat all at once?

just don't eat it. haha. I have a crazy good sense of will power and if I put my mind to it, even if my favorie chocolate is sitting right in front of me, I won't eat it if I say no to myself. Don't think about it. try to just forget that those things are there. but it is good to indulge once in a while within reason.

That was thoughtful of him.

Next time just have a small serving if you really want it. Then I just put it under hot water, and its gone. And the temptations goes down the drain with it.

Why can't you just smile, and say "No thanks darling, I'm watching what I eat". I'd do that to my husband..in fact I described your situation and he said he wouldn't be hurt in the least.
I think you'll find that people aren't going to be quite as upset with you for saying no thanks to certain foods provided you are polite and upbeat about it.

I had the exact same problem every other time I have tried to loose weight. This time I told DH that I was VERY serious about wanting to loose the weight. I told him that I needed him to support me & that meant not bringing me home junk all the time. Also it meant that some of the junk he loves, but that I also love, would need to be kept out of the house for awhile untill I got to a better place with my eating habits. I was not mean to him, I just was flat out honest with him about it.

He has been SO good this time. He eats donuts, but not where I am, so I usually do not see them. He also is more willing to try new foods & eat a little better himself.

I hope that you're feeling better & that your son is better. I really think that talking to your DH is important. I know mine NEEDED to "see" that I was really serious this time around to understand that I wanted this to work.

Its hard to do that. In the case of your husband I would tell him it was sweet but maybe next time could you get me something like (insert healthy yummy stuff here). In the case of other people, I just accept it and don't eat it. We had a kris kringle at my old job a couple years ago and this very nice lady got my name. Depsite knowing that I was starting to make this change and watching what I was eating, she got me chocolates. They weren't just any chocolates though, I had never heard of them before but it was a way ridiculous number for a small piece of it.. like 200-300 calories or something. So I gave them to my now husband to eat when we got home lol. And oddly, this lady had gotten lap band surgery, so she was also trying to lose weight.. so I don't understand the choice to give me this, but it was a sweet thought and I didn't want to hurt her feelings.

ur hubby needs to be more suportive he gave you lots of bad sugar

Casually mention how much you love fresh strawberries, oranges, grapes, etc. And next time he may bring yo a healthy treat instead.

My Wife bought 10 boxes of GS cookies! Im staying strong

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In my opinion you did the right thing. You ate it! :bigsmile:

I am sure he meant well. When someone reaches out the only way they know how to lift us up sometimes they know better than we do. With all that you were / are going through he was a sweetie. So snuggle him and girl go burn some of those calories!! :blushing:

If anything try to look past the calories and see the love, the calcium, the relief of just letting go for the moment, and that you have a loving family.

Today is a new day! Wishing you and yours a wealth of happiness and health! :drinker:

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I was was writing when you posted your previous clarification, so I didn't see it before my post. I do apologize if I offended you. However, you did use the word sabotage, and that is a strong accusation. I felt the need to point out that he was making a kind gesture and doing something that you have obviously appreciated in the past.