When I hear laughter....
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sure do
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Oh yeah. Totally feel like that all the time.... =/0
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YES!! ALL THE TIME!!0
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I always used to say that when the football team huddled I was sure they were talking about me! LOL
It's Generalized Anxiety Disorder. If it interferes with your work, daily living or self esteem, see a therapist.0 -
Yes I use to feel that way but as I get older I really dont care anymore. I cant stand it when you walk by a group of people and they start laughing...yes it does make you feel like they are laughing at you. I also find it very rude when you go into a nail salon and they speak english but once you sit down they start talking in a different language staring at you. It makes me so uncomfortable that I have walked out before and went somewhere else!!0
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I think we all automatically think that someone is looking at us in a negative way when those things happen....
But honestly when I clicked on this post the first thing I thought about was how pretty you are. Maybe those guys that are looking at you are thinking the same thing. Smile at them and hold your head high.
It might just be a guy that thinks you look good and is too shy to come up and talk to you.....
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Constantly! I hate it when I am working out, and I have my ear buds, it only feeds the paranoia. But, at the same time, I feel if they are laughing/talking about me, I just think they think so less of themselves that they have to pick on others to make themselves happy. And with that thought, it makes me a little more comfortable.
And if they make a point to actually laugh at me, then I have no problem telling them off....but, thats the sassy part of me.
I am sure they aren't laughing at you, and if you do have something on your face, be greatful they let you know
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no, i don't feel like this. i actually have a hard time recognizing when people are laughing at me. half is because i don't care what people think, the other is because i laugh all the time and i know i'm not aiming my laughter at anyone.
maybe some of these things are better looked inward? why would anyone be laughing at you?and even if they were, why would you care? are you walking around judging other people? (i'll assume no, so why would you think anyone was judging you?)0 -
i always do! im always so self conscious about my weight 0
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Don't worry about them... if they are laughing/talking about you, they are leaving someone else alone ! But give them a chance to be nice before you assume this !0
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you just described like 85% of my life. it's an awful habit i wish i could break 0
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I feel that way...but when girls look at me. I check to make sure my fly is zipped or my hair must look stupid. Or it's one more person saying I look like Jack Black.0
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One of the many reasons why I know that I love my boyfriend is because when I'm with him, I finally don't care about what other people do, think, or say. Only when I'm with him do I feel safe.0
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I feel that way...but when girls look at me. I check to make sure my fly is zipped or my hair must look stupid. Or it's one more person saying I look like Jack Black.
You do look like Jack Black!!0 -
One of the many reasons why I know that I love my boyfriend is because when I'm with him, I finally don't care about what other people do, think, or say. Only when I'm with him do I feel safe.
Amen!
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I always used to say that when the football team huddled I was sure they were talking about me! LOL
It's Generalized Anxiety Disorder. If it interferes with your work, daily living or self esteem, see a therapist.
It doesn't exactly interfere with my daily living, except that when I go to class or whatever I feel bad about myself. But its not like I don't go to class because of it. It also doesn't help that I am living on a college campus, surrounded by girls my age who all seem to be prettier/ have more confidence than me.0 -
Yes. I know exactly what you're talking about. I feel the same way.0
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Guilty!0
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It doesn't exactly interfere with my daily living, except that when I go to class or whatever I feel bad about myself. But its not like I don't go to class because of it. It also doesn't help that I am living on a college campus, surrounded by girls my age who all seem to be prettier/ have more confidence than me.
one day you'll realize that everybody feels the same at that age/space in time. at that age, many girls use their sexuality as a means of validation, and they need external validation to feel okay with themselves, which is such a drag.
of course not all young women are like that. and you don't sound like you are. but just remember whatever you are feeling, they are feeling, too, maybe not exactly the same, but in a general sense.
don't ever let anybody's opinion of you shape your opinion of you. it's just foolish.0 -
All you have to do is read these posts to realize that 99% of people aren't even aware of anything past their own noses. It took me 40 years to figure it out, but now I just don't care!0
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I feel that way...but when girls look at me. I check to make sure my fly is zipped or my hair must look stupid. Or it's one more person saying I look like Jack Black.
Hmm, I didn't think Jack Black when I saw your picture. 0 -
All you have to do is read these posts to realize that 99% of people aren't even aware of anything past their own noses. It took me 40 years to figure it out, but now I just don't care!
^^ THIS ^^
You girls are soooooo pretty!!!! Please notice it until you're older and it's too late!
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All you have to do is read these posts to realize that 99% of people aren't even aware of anything past their own noses. It took me 40 years to figure it out, but now I just don't care!
I know that there are people out there dealing with a lot worse things than being self conscious, but isn't this site supposed to be about supporting each other?
Obviously I have confidence issues and I was just looking for other people who have the same issues as me. If you think the people who aren't confident are naive and "aren't aware of anything past their own noses", you should just leave us alone so we can talk to each other and give each other the support we need. We don't need someone telling us that we're stupid and that we shouldn't worry about it. Because when it comes down to it, I am worried about the way I look and the way I feel. Isn't that why we're all here? To look and feel better?
Please don't be hating on me and my insecure friends.0 -
It's all about perception, and a reflection of how you feel placed into the mouths and minds of others, unless they're pointing at you and laughing try to remember that you can't know what other people are thinking, so try to do the thinking for them e.g. "there must be a comedian in that group" or "it's nice to hear people having fun" IT TAKES A LOT OF PRACTICE retraining yourself towards the positive thoughts, instead of the negative, but you get used to it. eventually!
I have a poor self image, and find it difficult to accept compliments etc. When I was dating a guy whom I would consider a bit of a dish, my perception of why people were looking at me (when I was strutting through town) was completely more positive than my perception of why people were looking at me before and since then, after realising that it was all in my head and not in theirs I don't know, I guess I reconciled with myself and just accepted that unless someone walks up to me and says "you're short" "you're fat" "you're weird looking" I'll just keep thinking positively....
and if someone does walk up to me and say those things, well..... I will probably use my new wii boxing skills to kick *kitten*, rude, obnoxious people shouldn't be allowed to get away with such things!0 -
All you have to do is read these posts to realize that 99% of people aren't even aware of anything past their own noses. It took me 40 years to figure it out, but now I just don't care!
I know that there are people out there dealing with a lot worse things than being self conscious, but isn't this site supposed to be about supporting each other?
Obviously I have confidence issues and I was just looking for other people who have the same issues as me. If you think the people who aren't confident are naive and "aren't aware of anything past their own noses", you should just leave us alone so we can talk to each other and give each other the support we need. We don't need someone telling us that we're stupid and that we shouldn't worry about it. Because when it comes down to it, I am worried about the way I look and the way I feel. Isn't that why we're all here? To look and feel better?
Please don't be hating on me and my insecure friends.
I think with that comment she meant that those people you hear laughing or looking at you are the ones who can't see past their noses, not you or the other people who say they are having the same confidence qualms as you! Like everyone is so wrapped up in themselves they are most likely not hating on others?
idk, but I'm happy to hear you have a boyfriend who makes you feel safe! Best of luck with your journey! 0 -
All you have to do is read these posts to realize that 99% of people aren't even aware of anything past their own noses. It took me 40 years to figure it out, but now I just don't care!
I know that there are people out there dealing with a lot worse things than being self conscious, but isn't this site supposed to be about supporting each other?
Obviously I have confidence issues and I was just looking for other people who have the same issues as me. If you think the people who aren't confident are naive and "aren't aware of anything past their own noses", you should just leave us alone so we can talk to each other and give each other the support we need. We don't need someone telling us that we're stupid and that we shouldn't worry about it. Because when it comes down to it, I am worried about the way I look and the way I feel. Isn't that why we're all here? To look and feel better?
Please don't be hating on me and my insecure friends.
I think with that comment she meant that those people you hear laughing or looking at you are the ones who can't see past their noses, not you or the other people who say they are having the same confidence qualms as you! Like everyone is so wrapped up in themselves they are most likely not hating on others?
idk, but I'm happy to hear you have a boyfriend who makes you feel safe! Best of luck with your journey!
I totally agree with this post. I think she was just saying that even though you might THINK people are talking, laughing, etc at you, that they really aren't aware of anything past their own noses. Certainly it was not meant as a "put down" post at all - I don't believe. Being self-conscious is hard, especially when you're young. As you get older, you get more thick-skinned and, as this poster said "just don't care" so much about what others are thinking! Still, looking for someone who does Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in your area would be good thing. CBT can help you reframe your negative self thoughts and thereby increase your self-esteem substantially. Best of luck!0 -
looking for someone who does Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in your area would be good thing. CBT can help you reframe your negative self thoughts and thereby increase your self-esteem substantially. Best of luck!
so will meditation.0 -
That's a stage in childhood development that we are supposed to outgrow, I forget the exact term but it has to do with self reflection and the belief that everyone is still looking at them, you are the focus wherever you go.
Due to the emphasis on beauty on women in the medial we are more susceptible to it than others but really, it's something we were supposed to get over as a child.
If a certain outfit makes you uncomfortable such as slightly too short, clinging or too much cleavage popping out avoid the outfit but don't avoid the real world, it truly is all in your head.
Ps: carry a thin mirror to check out your smile after dinner to make sure there really is nothing in your teeth, ha ha!0 -
I also find it very rude when you go into a nail salon and they speak english but once you sit down they start talking in a different language staring at you. It makes me so uncomfortable that I have walked out before and went somewhere else!!
I hope you can work on this b/c they really aren't talking about you and you don't want to miss out on life. There are several Chinese nail salons in my area and if they start speaking in Mandarin or Chinese, I don't mind, it's their first language, what if someone told you, you couldn’t speak English in your own store/business anymore b/c the area you were in was dominated by another culture/language? And really, what is the worst they could they possibly be saying about you? You bite your nails how unfeminine? They usually say that to me in English, ha! My experience has also only been with Asian cultures and it has been a very pleasant experience, extremely polite, respect-filled culture.0 -
Yup, I'm with you on this one.
Mainly because I've actually caught people giggling and whispering about me - so I know I'm not being paranoid.
These are people that I don't know - they think it's amusing to see someone who isn't even 30 struggling to walk, having to hold on to a stick and another person for support and they of course put it down to me being overweight.
I've had people not even be that "subtle" about it as well -shrugs- it upsets me, it makes me sad and it makes me angry; but what can you do?
You can't educate these rude individuals to not make judgments about others partly because it's human nature to do so and partly because some people like to slate others to make themselves feel better.0
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