Friend Betrayal

I'd be very direct about it. I'd print a screen-image of what you saw on a public basis, and ask your friend directly why they wrote the things they did.

Even if you don't use that network, but you saw it, that's what I would do, depending on the nature of the friendship and how you value it. It sounds like a friend you don't really need anyway if they're going to say things like that about you behind your back.

I would not address it with your other friends, unless they commented on it that you can also see.

I'd probably call her out, say that someone linked you to it (if she's going to make you paranoid about your friendships then return the favour). Once it's in the open if anyone is following her down that route then they will.

Or be super nice to her and then take her down.

I'm vengeful though lol.

Sounds like you are better off without her.

I agree. Confront her. She should not have posted that about you unless she is willing to say it to your face. Sorry for your pain.

Why cant you reveal that you saw her post? She posted it there for all the world to see.... Confront her about seeing it, or reply to the post in a tactful way and then find yourself a true friend. Dont waste your time with someone like that.

If this was me with a friend, I would confront them and move on. She obviously wasn't a friend at all..What a shame..You take care..

Joy, listen to me....let it go. To confront her will only make the situation worse. If she is trashing you, she will likely deny it. Either that, or she will say more things to make you feel even worse. If she says everyone else feels the same way, she may just be deluding herself. You will know who your true friends are without making a mess of things. You cannot allow other people to dictate how you feel. If you ask me, if you cut her off completely now, you'll be that much better off. I know how you feel. Friend me if you like.

The only way you'll know is if you ask. You've already deleted her phone number and don't plan on continuing the friendship. Shouldn't you find out what's going on before you go through with that? Perhaps she has a reason for it, perhaps not. But, you won't know until you face her and ask. And if it is a misunderstanding, is it worth losing a friend over?

I'm so sorry to hear that your "friend" is being such a b!tch - WOW, I'm offended and I'm not even involved.

That said, I would recommend not doing a dang thing about it -- if you see that woman again, treat her with courtesy, like you would treat any other person, but keep things formal and uninvolved. Then, with your other friends, just continue being yourself, as you always have. If what the woman posted is true, and you do notice them "dropping" you, then clearly they aren't worth your time anyway (because again WOW what kind of b!tchy move is that *kitten*?!). If what she posted is false, you running around obsessing over it and asking everyone about it will only cause drama.

I know it's hard, but if you can forget about it and go about your business as usual, things WILL work out, I promise.

And while you're at it, looks like your social calendar just opened up for finding a new, FAR MORE AWESOME friend. These things have a way of working out - believe in yourself, be a good person, and don't let the poisonous people of the world get you down.

Sending warm thoughts your way,

Kate

Confront her. You'll feel better. Who care if you saw it on her social page. If she didn't want you to see it she wouldn't have posted it. I would also tactfully confront your other girlfriends. It won't hurt it will only help. Sometimes, peoples true colors are a blurry mess. Don't worry about it. People will like you for you or they don't deserve to have you as a friend!!!! Good luck! Make sure you update!

Absolutley call her on it!!! I've gone through this so I know a bit of what you're feeling. A "friend" posted a bunch of comments about me being too fat and she's only friends with me because she feels sorry for me on a social network. I was livid!! and hurt but i found for me the best way to deal with it is to confront her on it. World war 3 broke out but in the end i was happy i stood up for myself. Remember the only person who can let someone else make you feel bad about yourself is you! She obviously isn't a real friend so you shouldn't let what she says hurt you....

Good luck!

I would honestly wait until she contacts you for something (if she's still treating you like a friend) and then calmly tell her that you're aware of her two-facing and that you really don't want anything to do with people who do that. Not everyone talks behind somebody's back. I'm a very straight-forward person and wouldn't say anything that I wouldn't say straight to that person's face. You definitely have control on how you react (like the other MFP user stated). Just keep your class about you and treat her as somebody you simply don't have time for.

I have recently lost a couple good friends too. Different reasons and a long story, but I know that shaky anxious feeling you're going through. I'm still trying to work things out in my heart and my head with my situation. The best thing I've been doing to help my situation is keep reminding myself that if ANY friends leave your side and aren't loyal then screw 'em! Move on to make new friends that are caring and positive.

Good luck with everything!

You need to nip this in the bud.. Confronting someone is hard to do. Usually, the thoughts of how it will go are worse than what the reality will be. There is nothing wrong with standing up for yourself.

You SHOULD confront her. Not in a threatening manner....but simply ask, "Is there something you want to discuss with me?" If she says no, then mention you saw her post.

I would even go as far as bringing it up to my other friends to get their take on the situation. You can look them in the eye, and get a clear response to the issue that texting or social networking can't give you.

I would definately confront her...but not attack her with words...let her dig herself a hole and let her feel how wrong it was to write those things about you. She wrote them on a public site because she wanted SOMEONE to see it, just so happened karma was working against her and her harsh words and you were the one that saw it. I would definately have to say something but dont say it out of anger just confront her as one adult talking to another adult. Luck to you! What ever you decide to do dont let her words get you down...its pretty obvious that she is threatened by you and is trying to make herself feel better by trashing you.