Very angry and disappointed with myself.

Don't be so hard on yourself, tomorrow is a new day! Just get back up and continue on. You have done great so far!

It's ok.. don't get too discouraged.. we all have days like this. Tomorrow is a new day, focus on that and stay the course. One meal doesn't undo all your hard work and determination.

I do think that having a talk with your family about your goals is a good idea. I did the same with my circle of friends a week or so ago when I went out to a happy hour. Yes, I had wine but not as much as I normally did and stayed relatively within my calorie limit. But I wish I could have taken a pic of the look on their faces when a) explained I was late because I had to go to the gym first and b) ordered grilled chicken and steamed veggies instead of the rich pasta dishes we normally order.

Bottom line is that it's ok. Adjust your food tomorrow as best you can and work out as much as possible. I guarantee you'll feel better and more on track.

I'd try to talk to the extended family about what you're doing. Don't be surprised if it all falls on deaf ears. Just do what you can and eat what you are comfortable with when you go there. My family is similar. They might get offended or downright indignant that the food isn't "good enough" for you. Mine did. They eventually got over it. Stay strong and just get back to healthy eating in the morning!

Some things can't be helped. Don't let it ruin all of your hard work.

Dude, it's your family. How could they not support you? That said... I know where you come from!

1st things 1st though... don't be hard on yourself. A cheat day is not going to be the end of you. Beating yourself up over this is only going to further discourage yourself from obtaining your goals.

I was only two days into my weight loss program when my 5 year anniversary came up. I went to dinner with family and though I did end up eating more than I wanted, everyone was cool with me keeping track of what I was eating... They thought it was good that I was doing this. Four months later nobody even notices my counting but they do notice the weight loss. And now we laugh at how I've lost weight while eating the same type of food I've always ate just less.

Tomorrow is a new day, just start again and don't let the food you had the day before weigh you down!

Hi,
I know how you feel. I am so angry with myself too. All the watching of what I am eating and the exercising is not helping me too. I have not lost a single pound in two weeks. It is very frustrating. I love to cook and I love to eat. It’s just not easy anymore to go and eat something at your whim. In a way I guess it’s good that you are mad at yourself. I think you will work hard to lose that extra calories. Hang in there, I’m sure will succeed.

One day is not going to kill your progress. Remember it takes 3500 excess calories to add one pound of fat. You may find you have put on a few pounds, but you will find it comes off pretty quick because it is not all fat. For some reason our bodies will generally retain water because of a meal like that. On top of it, it may take a while for the actual food to make its way out of you. Tomorrow is a new day. Back to the diet then.

I hope that writing down what you were feeling helped you to clear your emotions. Family and friends can be supportive or sometimes they can sabatoge. Telling them what you are doing for you may be the best thing to do. That gives them an opportunity to celebrate your positive choices. In my case, I am waiting for a while to tell my family, they live about 40 miles away. I did not want the extra pressure. I did not tell folks at work, until they started to notice that I was losing, or a couple of folks that kept offering me goodies - those I had to tell.

Our bodies, our food, our choices have to be for OURELVES first and foremost. The saying, "It is not how many times you fall down, It is how many times that you get UP, that matters!" is very true on this journey. It is not about being perfect everyday, it is not about what others think, IT is about taking care of yourself. Look for encourgement and that means from yourself too. I am sharing with you, but I am speaking to me.. I have to remind myself of these things too! Self talk can build us up or tear us down. Congrats on writing out your feelings... It lost it's power over you, once you shared it with us.

Best wishes on your journey. Tomorrow is always a new day. Learn from yesterday, prepare for tomorrow and enjoy each new day.

Its okay we all have our special days we go off our diet just jump back the next day and keep going! always stay positive.

I would just like to point something out, outside of what everyone is saying (and I agree with). You are a young male, with a starting weight of 222, and you are only allowing yourself 1620 cal/day before exercise? Wow. I mean, I weigh almost 130 lbs, and my cal. intake before exercise is 1460 cal/day. How much weight are you trying to lose/wk?

The reason I ask is this: for a guy your size, even one that is trying to lose weight, you really probably only ate several hundred cal. over what you needed to eat, even with losing weight. For ex., you are 222 lbs, wanting to go to 150. Even if you're 5' 7", your BMR would be 1569 cal/day. That's the BMR - what you would burn just by staying in bed all day, sleeping. If you get up and walk around, you'll need more. Much more.

I understand your frustration at yourself, and your family, esp. You seriously need to explain to them that you are doing this for your health, and then stick with your plan. Let them get pissed if you don't eat another meatball. You're a grown man and can decide for yourself if you really want a meatball or not. You don't need to explain or apologize to anyone for your behavior, esp. when your health is concerned. But please make sure your goals are realistic too. You will set yourself up for failure if you aren't eating enough. You can do it!!!

i had a look a the diary and i would say that you could easily halve if not more the amount of pasta. 200g of uncooked pasta would almost serve 2 or 3 people once cooked.

that prawn cocktail looks a bit high as well? perhaps do it as individual prawns and then some seafood sauce.

and the good thing about overestimating your calories ( i wasnt at the meal but the pasta alone would be 300 higher) is that when weigh in comes, there are extra calories in your bank

Hmmm. I definitely relate but for different reasons.

When I turned vegan three years ago my family attacked me for not wanting to eat meat anymore. I had been vegetarian for many years prior and ate fish, eggs, dairy. But because I no longer ate even these things they took it personally and thought I hated them as well as meat. Truth is I don't hate meat (or my family for that matter). I just don't digest meat or dairy very well and get quite ill so it only made sense to change. And for as much as I tried in vain to discuss my values, principles, feelings, and reasons, my words fell on deaf ears. After that I discovered certain family members snuck dairy and meat into certain 'vegan' foods they prepared and then lied and told me it was vegan. Of course my stomach told me different. It got so bad that I had to stay away from my family for almost a year. And when I did return it was under the understanding that I would bring all of my own foods to family functions (plus enough for everyone else to share in too). Eventually my family grew to understand my choices, but only after many of them suffered from ill-health and were forced to change their diets. Still, they grew to understand, or at very least have compassion.

I understand your disappointment because your health/fitness and weight loss goals are so important to you. And yet, in fairness, your family did not know beforehand. Hopefully now that you've had this discussion things will 'begin' to improve. Have patience though because these things take time. People always feel challenged whenever those who are closest to them change, especially when it comes to food. Food is a cultural thing - the way we eat, why we eat, how we eat, with whom we eat, etc. I believe the reason other people feel challenged whenever those closest to them change is because they feel as if they are now being judged in their choices. It's a form of projection, they're judging you and think you're now judging them. And maybe you are. Or maybe you're not. To them it doesn't really matter because it's what they believe that is most important to them.

My husband always says, "There are 24 hours in a day, 7 days in a week, anywhere from 28 to 31 days in a month, 52 weeks and 365 days in a year."

What he's trying to convey when he says that is, "Don't let this moment, this hour, this day, this week, this month, this year, or in your case this meal, determine the rest of your life or your goals. And if you do, then find a way to make it a positive influence instead of a negative one, something you can build on instead of being torn down by."

Be patient with yourself, your family, your failures and your successes and everything will be okay.

I don't see the problem myself.

With your stats your maintenance level of calories should be around the 2,800 mark anyway (depending on your activity levels it could be more or less)

Your calorie deficit level seems to be set at about 1000 a day. If you stick to your diet for the next 6 days that is a whopping defcit of 6,000 calories over the entire week, equivalent to about 1.8lbs of fat loss despite yesterday.

Lots of people allow themselves a free meal every week and do very well. Used tactically it can be very beneficial. You need to look at the big picture here.

Listen if you have an adherence rate of 90% and above on your diet (as you seem to do looking from your diary) then one meal a week where you are off diet isn't something to worry about (unless you go to ridiculous extremes that is!)

Enjoy your weekend.

Don't let the one day get you off track- It is a learning experience- You can bounce back from it- The guilt feelings can be overwhelming, but you can get over it..