I'm never going to lose this weight :'(

Never give up! Never surrender! Strength must be derived from your desire to lose weight. If you lose desire, then you lose your strength to pursue it. Time to get back to basics and remind yourself why you want to lose it.

It gets tough when you have a stressful day and your body sends you craving signals. You can always get the burger and fries, but choose to eat half instead of the whole thing. What is your calorie goal? It's possible you're not eating enough in the first place too. You might need to set your goal to 1lb a week instead of 2 to make it more realistic long-term.

*hugs*

Don't give up!

you can do it. don't beat yourself up about those days you go over. think of it as a positive thing. When you have those days just think of it as an opportunity to prove to yourself that you can enjoy life and lose weight at the same time. as long as most of your week is close to your goal, you'll get there.

i had that problem too, but now when i feel like eating something other than my healthy food, i'll just eat less of the bad food. you feel satisfied and in control.

good luck girlfriend!

I used to be a personal trainer and I never fretted over what my clients ate. I worried about what they 'weren't' eating. Eating a well balanced diet over a period of time will reduce those cravings. Just give it time. It is a process. There are plenty of additives in those fast foods we love to make us love them. That is why it is addictive. Just concentrate on moving (exercise) and eating all the right foods, while you eat the other stuff. See if after you body has every thing it needs, if your cravings don't just fade away. I mean we're always going to love the foods we love. Heaven help you if you try to take my pasta. I just don't want pounds of it every other day anymore. You will get there. If this is a new journey for you don't be impatient with yourself and please don't heap guilt on yourself.

mfp always makes me feel so good because my day is visible to me in stages and I can see victory follow defeat in the same day.

good luck to you!!!!!

Make a commitment. When my friend and I used to work out together and she wanted to skip the gym, I would ask her one question; "Do you want to be fat?"

She always said no and we always went. Ask yourself that. Do you want to be fat or do you want to be healthy and strong?

There are lots of people who are doing this with you and lots of other people who have already done it. If other people can do it, so can you.

Hang on.

Don't give up.I have the same problem. Don't be down on yourself there is always tomorrow this is the first time I have even stuck to a diet for more than a couple days. Just remember we owe it to ourselves to be healthy.

I don't think I can do this anymore. I eat good for a few days, then I go over by 600 or 700 calories other days. I want to eat healthy, but I still make bad decisions. I know the consequences of choosing bad food, but I do it anyway. If I have a stressful day, like today, I eat tons of sugar. If I am craving a burger and fries, I get a burger and fries because nothing else sounds good but that. I can't seem to control myself, and then I put myself down for days!

I don't know what to do. I have been stuck at the same weight for 6 months. I still have 40 more pounds to lose.

I just need help. I feel like giving up.....

Well you are an adult. As such you know the consequences of your actions, but are you educating yourself on the better choices? You can have a burger and fries, but try a turkey burger Jenni o originals has the least amount of sodium and is more like a regular burger. Try arnold's thin buns, sargento natural cheese and mr. dee's sweet potatoe fries.

as for the sugar, i chose fruit. it is the right kind of sugar and if you want something really nice Del monte has natural juice cups that I have fallen in love with. Or frozen grapes those are sweet and delicious.

there are always choices. But a few pieces of chocolate isn't to bad, but like you are posting now you feel worse then when you were just stressed. That isn't good.

If you are stressed alot working out will help relax you. Might look into meditation or yoga also. But vigorous working out is usually the best for both aggression and getting out stress.

Then probably work on your emotional eating because that is what this is if you are eating because you are stressed. If you have to eat it is your choice to do right by your body. Taking responsibility for that is a big step and something we all have to over come at some point. Stress...being happy, being sad are excuses. We sooth, celebrate and reward with food as a society. It's ingrained in us all and over coming that is hard. You can't beat yourself up, but realize the issue and know that ever good choice you make is winning the battle and everyone falls back a couple steps on this journey. Just can't let it derail the progress you've already made. A hand full of bad days can be over come. by using them as learning tools. Why did you make the choices you did? What was stressing you?

From that you can move forward and work on yourself from the inside out.
You just gotta be proud of the little goals, the things you do accomplish and know that having a bad day happens, it's how you handle the next day that matters the most.

There is hope and we are here to help and support you. Don't forget that :-)

I think maybe there's a lot of things that seem to be going on. And I don't know you, but I can share what I learned from my experience, and maybe something about what I learned will resonate with you.

When I started losing weight, I was really gung ho, and went at it with all my energy. Then, I plateau'ed, and just got sick of "dieting." So, I actually found taking a break useful. For a couple of weeks. Or a couple of months. By taking a break, I don't mean going back to old habits, but eating/exercising to maintain whatever weight I was at. I found it really helpful, first, as a psychological break--yes, I could eat a few more cookies and restaurant meals at maintenance than I could when I was trying to lose---but I could also use it as a time to experiment with what maintenance looked like. I mention this as a tactic because sometimes, when we get "tired" of trying to lose weight, or hit a genuine plateau, it sends us into a spiral of overeating, then trying to be "really good" ie--more stringent dieting...which then leads to overeating, and the cycle repeats. Which can be emotionally taxing, as well as counterproductive. This may be where you are now. I found it more emotionally healthy to just acknowledge what I was feeling...which was that I was *tired* of eating at a calorie deficit. (People can talk about how "this isn't a diet, its a lifestyle" all they want...weight loss still requires a calorie deficit which can just get to be...well, tiresome, if you have more than 20 pounds to lose.). And that it was okay to take a break and get my head back in the game.

Its also possible that if you are overeating by 600 or 700 calories (and that on the non-overeating days, you are not overly restricting, which is legitimately making you crave those "extra" calories), that maybe you are struggling less with "cravings" than with emotional eating. A person who craves sweets can substitute lower calorie for higher calories sweets. But a person who has to eat high calorie or high fat food in order to feel emotionally better when under stress...there is no food substitute for that. Grapes aren't going to make you feel better when its really a big mac that your emotions are calling out for. You'll have to figure out non-food coping mechanisms...I know, easier said than done. But possible.

But I think its important to figure out what the problem is that is getting in your way, so that you can figure out the appropriate strategy. Its not simply "lack of motivation" that is getting in your way. Because you've already lost an impressive amount of weight. But you can figure it out. And you can get back on track towards your goals. I know you can do it.