Is it not wanting to insult or something else?

the people i am around everyday don't see the changes like the people i haven't seen in weeks or months .so it might be because they see you everyday .

They could be jealous... Or maybe they just are not comfortable complimenting people. Or its possible that they see you enough that since they witnessed the transformation it doesn't "Seem" like you have lost much because it has been a gradual change that they have seen happen. Does that make sense? If you don't see someone for a while and they lose weight it has a much larger impact than when you see them everyday.

I've had the similar problem with my Mum In Law...when I told her about my Power90 Journey back in Dec 2010. She asked me 'Why, you don't need lose weight'...I showed her my Day 1 & Day 90 progress pictures...She was floored...She told me that it's a new person that I created. She even bought me my new 28" waist jeans that weekend, when I graduate from Power90.

Maybe show them before & after pictures...than maybe your family and friends - will realize what you are doin' in your new lifestyle.

Humans I will never yesterday how they work - Keep your head up, Just shock them this summer in a new HOT BIKINI :happy: & than maybe they will take notice & listen

You have us your MFP family always forever...xo

You know what, I have had the SAME problem! I've lost 15 (gained a few back after a bad week, but I got it under control again) and NO ONE said anything. I swear I could see it when I looked in the mirror, but not a word from anyone, it was SO discouraging! Then last week I spent some time in my hometown with a bunch of long time friends from school who only see me every 6 weeks or even less often... one of them saw me and immediately said "TAMI! You've lost weight, you look amazing!" And my heart soared and I could have walked on water at that point, I was SO excited!
I thought about it and realized that the people here, the ones who see me every day, see me EVERY DAY, and so they probably don't notice it because it's been gradual changes, a half pound here, a centimeter of the waist there, it's happened slowly enough that they just really don't notice it, it took someone who saw me before I lost any, and then didn't see me again since Christmas, to be able to notice it as a drastic change... hope that helps!

I'm having the exact same problem! Everyone knows that I am trying to lose weight. I've lost 25 lbs now, and not one person has said a word about it. I had even mentioned to my brother that I've been working on my weight and had lost 15 lbs (at the time) and he replied something along the lines of "Well that's pretty superficial, don't you think?!" Made me feel pretty bad, like trying to become a healthy weight is wrong!!!!

So, yeah, I sympathize. But at least I feel good about my accomplishments, and you should to! After all, we're becoming healthy (and yes, better looking) for ourselves... not for anyone else, right?
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I know it exactly what you mean. I've lost 17 lbs since 1/17 and only my husband and a co-worker / friend have said one word about it. My mom didn't even say anything and she's usually one of the 1st to notice, especially in my face. I try to stay focused and positive and not let it get to me but I do notice. Keep working hard and do it for YOU!! The compliments will come. :flowerforyou: Congratulations on being more than 1/2 way to your goal!!!!!

Often times people dont say anything because it can be misconstrued so easily. Alot of people, regardless of their weight, are uncomfortable talking about weight. As others noticed, sometimes people see you so often that they dont really notice. I'll give you a high five though, good job

Why look elsewhere for compliments or support? Yes its nice to get that but in the end the only one you have to satisfy is yourself, unfortunately to many women on here do not take the time to reflect and see just how far they have come. Call it whatever you like the bottom line is that you need to be strong mentally to make the changes needed and there are always going to be the negative ppl that will attempt to pull you down, give them the proverbial single digit wave and just keep on trucking.

I wouldn't feel bad about it, we see the little changes but it takes a lot longer before others notice, especially if they see you every day. I didn't start getting compliments on my weight loss until I had lost 30+ lbs.

Congratulations on your loss!! I know exactly how you feel.Why do we crave the affirmation from our friends and family? I tend to believe that they see us all the time and are used to us looking a certain way, so they don't notice a "measly" 19 or 20 pounds. To us, it's a HUGE deal. The same thing is happening to me. I WANT people to ask and notice, but, since I'm not wearing different or new clothes yet, they don't. I remember a co-worker who lost 100 lbs. To me, she looked better every day, but not until she started wearing smaller, more fitting clothes, did the transformation really became obvious. Just wait till you see someone who has not seen you in awhile and you just happen to be wearing your skinny jeans. They WILL notice and you will be flying high. Good luck and continue your downward trek. :flowerforyou:

Mine wasnt very noticeable at 17lbs but i had 99lbs to lose...you, with only 30lbs to lose, it should be very noticeable...green eyed monster coming out maybe?

My sister still hasnt said anything to me at 46lbs down...oh well!

They are a combination of the following; #1 stinkers and #2 vain - just like yourself. Why see success in others especially if it makes you feel bad about yourself. Your family especially parents should notice unless your mom has a bit**y personality but friends may not say anything b/c they don't want to, it's all about them.

I think family are the worst at giving compliments. I feel my wife gets more compliments from people at MFP and her friends than she does from her family, me not included.

Her mom always critiques her on the food that she eats, saying that doesn't sound healthy, yet her mom forgets that Ashley is making vegan alternatives to the high fat/high calorie food that it is derived from. It pisses me off that she has worked extremely hard at getting where she is at and her mom can't say one dam thing other than, "Well you know those last 20 lbs are the hardest"


These comments of course are coming from a person that eats a can of cinnamon rolls and then makes dinner 30 minutes later, who then in turns makes another desert and wonders why she can't lose weight...oh I forgot she has bad knees and a bad back. ~rolls eyes~

I didn't read the other replys yet so I'm sorry if this repeats. Recently my boyfriend and I saw an old friend who has lost close to 50 pounds. The change is wonderful and my boyfriend was so happy for her, but he didn't say anything. I asked him later why he didn't let her know how great she looks. His response was that he doesn't want to offend her by implying that she was overweight before.
It might be the same with your loved ones. My family has a constant struggle with weight and some of my relatives are sensitive about the subject so we don't always bring up the topic. My mom has found that if she lets us know when she reaches a goal we can jump up and celebrate with her.

Speaking from experience, I have discovered that most people don't really notice until you have lost more than 40 pounds. Only two people in my circle of friends noticed when I lost about 15 pounds. I learned later that other people didn't comment because they REALLY did not notice. After I lost 40 pounds, other friends would say to me, "Hey, have you lost a few pounds?" and when I would say, "Yes, that would be 40!" they were flabbergasted that they hadn't noticed. Some people still have not really connected the dots. This just goes to show how people are different in the way they gather information and process it through their own lens. I would NOT assume a negative, jealous, or indifferent aspect to their NOT noticing. What WOULD be negative is if they said, "I notice you lost some weight, you better watch out or you will get too thin." or words to that effect.

Also, I agree with other posters who don't say anything because they don't want to say, gosh you look great (meaning you looked crappy before). I think people closest to us are in this group. My brother to date has still not made one comment about my weight, but I KNOW he is the kind that notices. We are very close and I know he loves the person I am, NOT the weight I am, so he would never make a comment for that reason.