I have the fat girl blues

The biggest issue we face is learning that food is not what we should be living for. Food is simply what keeps us alive. We have to find other things to live for... find the things that make you happy and do them! Get out there and live your life ! We only get one life and do you want to look back when you are old and taking your last breaths and think "wow my entire life revolved around food.. what else did I do?" I know I dont which is why I am getting out there and making the best of the time i have!

I have been there sooooooo many times. The positive thing is you didn't have a full blown pig out sesh like I would have Just remember why you are doing what you are doing, it;s so you won't feel like this anymore, it will get easier and you will accomplish your goals My husband is the same way, in fact tonight he told me, it's okay just have another chicken wing...its only like 10 calories right... he's so clueless!

Hang in there and remember that the past doesn't matter...it's what you do tomorrow that counts. Sorry if I was too direct, I can just totally relate

Well first. You won't be fat for ever. Proof of that is you're posting here and keeping up with what you eat which shows the signs for change to come by making change happen. Second, its unfortunate that he forgot and even more so that you were left to your own cravings. Calling would have been better of him so you had potential to get something sooner, but that's in retrospect. Right now you should do a happy dance of joy that you didn't gave into the pizza and only treated yourself to cookies! Working out daily is a difficult habit to get into and it takes a long time to get motivated, but it doesn't mean that you'll never do it. So tonight was a bad night, look at the progress you've made before this! You're doing so well, keeping that in mind, if you keep it up, you'll be where you want weight wise and be the better for it. Weight loss is a long and tedious process, but the end results are awesome! Hang in there!

Sorry to hear that you are feeling so down tonight. It's so easy to go there when you are tired and hungry. You'll do better tomorrow after you've had some rest.

One thing that I've found helpful is to have some snacks available when plans don't work out. I frequently have to coordinate my schedule and food plans with others and sometimes things change at the last minute. So now I try to have some healthy 100 to 200 calorie things around that I like to eat. If it's looking like things are uncertain and I'm no longer sure when dinner is going to happen, I just have one of those snacks. That way I'm not starving and letting my brain run around the hamster wheel if I end up having to figure out a solo dinner at the last minute. It's really hard to figure things out when all you can hear is your body saying "Food! Now!" but your brain is saying "Wait, how many calories does that have?"

Wishing you a much better day tomorrow.

Girl I'm with you. Last week I ate an 8 pack of entenmanns donuts in 2 days. But.... crap happens, thats why we're here right? Is it possible to set a dinner time and if he's not home, you eat something at that time anyway so it doesn't get out of hand? Not a full meal but something to keep you going. ( I keep hummus around for that... makes carrots taste good and one serving of wheat thins is like 14 crackers) Then if he doesn't bring the food home as planned, you can eat a sensible dinner and get plenty of exercise kicking his butt later? lol...

The biggest problem is your hubby eating your favorite foods in front of you. There are solutions... Can you have 1 piece of pizza and supplement it with a salad? The first few times you have to stop at one piece hurt but after a while its easier. Everytime I step on the scale I am reminded of how good I'm doing. Even if its just one lb. They all count. So if I have something bad... I make sure I double my veggies and make it better the next day. I just stuffed myself with fish and veggies so I can have a cookie later too.

Are there meals you can have prepared (slow cooker stuff maybe) and you can pull it out of the freezer when you need it? My mom sent me a great 3 bean hot dish recipe and I I make it once a month and have 6 very tasty 450 calorie meals when I need it quick. Let me know if you want it.

I hope I've been helpful. I've tried everything and if I think like I'm on a diet, I'll fail. If I think like I want to fit in an airline seat and I'm healthy, I think I can win!

I'm finding a lot of success by planning. I love the endless variety of low calorie meals found on recipe.com. It has great shopping list tools too. So I pick about 3 new recipes each week and may cook them all on the weekend or maybe only some. But I always have dinner that I'm hungry for ready in the fridge. The fresh veggies and unusual ingredients cost a bit more at the store, but we rarely dine-out and even more rarely take-out so overall cost is down.

Hi blakes mommy, I agree with christie, tomrrow is another day, and i TOTALLY agree with you about your counter-part being able to eat what ever he wants and you making the choice to better your eating habits. We all have our bad days, but as suggested having snacks through out the day works great. I leave food everywhere in my house, in my purse, and even in my car. I keep bags of almonds,and other dry snacks everywhere, those 100 calorie snacks ... I don't know if they are the most healthy items, they sure do give me my sweet fix, and they are "healthy" at the same time. Its also a good idea to have some what a weekly meal plan. Dont have time to make one, you have to make the time. It will eventually become second nature to what you can and can't have. Also I understand about your husband working late. my fiance has WACKY hours, so there are days when I need to fend for myself. I've had those days too when you wait around to late to cook or eat. so set a time for YOU!! I eat dinner no later than 6 or 7.. If my baby comes home and I'm watching him eat I may induldge in a snack, or my new weakness frozen vanilla yogurt. I know its difficult now but IT WILL become second nature to you i promise you just gotta keep up with. Even though my little one is four months old she watching what mommy eats, and how i prep my food, knowing that she will grow up hopefully with options of better eating makes my choices of food intake a lot easier. And as for working out its very rare i get to go, so do things around the house like dishes, laundry, dancing with the baby, burning calories, just remember your food intake is what's really important. Best wishes:) My heart goes out to you!!!

Sorry Russell... "we" as in humans are not overweight by design or bc of any other EXCUSE that you listed. There is no excuse for food abuse! I was fat because I ate more calories than my body burned. I had a high bmi because I did not give my muscles the right fuel to burn or any exercise in order to run efficiently. I was fat because I filled my precious body with chemical filled, processed, high sugar and sodium "food" products manufactured by businesses that don't give two sh*ts whether you live or die tomorrow, as long as you keep throwing the almighty dollar at them for their wonderful "food."
Excuses will get you nowhere but in a pine box 10 feet under.

It's not excuses, it is the truth of how we are designed. Honestly it's this knowledge that gives us power to do something about it.
I strongly disagree with you. Knowing how my body/brain is going to react to a diet gives me the advantage, instead of feeling like I'm banging my head against a wall going no where.
It's the truth, but that doesn't mean we can't do anything about it.
I'm not making excuses, just telling it like it is.

I just take an offense to the general perception that anyone who is overweight is lazy and lacks self-control. Yes we need to take responsibility and make a change, but there is a reason why only 1/100 diets ends in success.

I grew up as the "fat-kid" in school and when I was 12 I went on my first "diet" I didn't know what I was doing and my parents didn't know what to do. I remember eating bowls of lettuce and drinking v8 for most meals. I dieted practically non-stop from that point on in my life. I have belonged to a gym since I was 13. I tried to eat what I though was healthy, what people told me was healthy. I ate a very low fat diet for a long time because I thought fat made you fat, and foods that were labeled low-fat were considered to be healthy. I actually gave up eating pizza for two full years(which totally sucked)

At one point in my life, when I finally topped 300lbs, and I just had enough of the self-torture and dieting. I gave-up and decided this was who I was. My family is over-weight and no matter how hard I tried I was still overweight. I thought if I just accepted it then I could be happy. Once I "gave-in" the weight came on faster than ever, and I quickly hit 330lbs by the time my son was born.
When I was looking at pictures from a family vacation and looking at pictures of myself holding my son the emotions just hit me! I hated my childhood, and if I gave up because my family is over-weight does this mean my son is destined to follow in my foot steps? The last thing I wanted was for him to grow up the way I did. Also I was wrong about myself too, I wasn't happy being over-weight. I was on depression medication and deep down I hated who I was. This was my revelation, this was my moment that I finally said enough is enough.
So I re-joined a gym again and I went back on a diet. All was well for a couple of months when I hit the plateau again. I was stuck for about 3-4 weeks and NOTHING had changed. I logged all of my food. I was disciplined and I was working out 4-5 days every week. Finally I remembered why I gave-up in the first place. My cravings were getting way out of control and I was on the brink of disaster. I literally had a talk with myself, and "we" decided that I was going to lose weight or bust but i had to get rid of these cravings. So I gave myself a day to get all of them out, and I believed I had the will power to go back on my diet the following day. I ate around 5,000 calories in one day, of pizza, ice, cream, donuts, and whatever else I wanted. It was awesome, and even better the next day my cravings were gone. That week I lost 3lbs. This was my second revelation, why when i was perfect for almost a month I didn't have any weight-loss, but after splurging I lost 3lbs?

This is when I began doing my research and realized there is more to dieting than eating less and exercising. My spike day became a staple of my diet and overall I lost 130lbs.

In my opinion knowledge is more important to losing weight than exercise. Knowledge of how our body's work, and how different foods work. What I learned is metabolism is the key to losing weight long term. Us lifelong dieters have damaged our metabolism with excess exercise and crash diets.

I get really angry with the perception that all obese people are lazy, yes some are and some just don't care. OR they were like me and they tried to lose weight and because of a sick metabolism they quit and gave-up.
I've had many clients who spent hours a day working out and were not losing weight, until they learned about food and diet.