Coworkers...seriously?

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UNCTarHeelGirl
UNCTarHeelGirl Posts: 13
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Hey! I've read some postings from people who have had less-than-supportive experiences with friends, family, or coworkers, and I'm always shocked by some of the inappropriate comments people think they're entitled to say to someone. I always wonder, "Where do you find these people who say things to make others feel uncomfortable?" This morning, I realized they're in my own office.

I just started my weight loss work on Monday. I've been eating well, playing soccer, going on long walks with my dog, and last night, I jogged 4 miles in under 36 minutes, which is pretty good for me. I've lost 3 lbs. so far and I'm so excited...or at least, I was.

I'm very sensitive about my weight and others watching me eat, or rather, what I eat. It's silly to be self-conscious about it, but I'm just not confident yet. This morning, a coworker walked over to my desk and saw my breakfast; "Oh my God, is that 3 bagels?!"

I just blinked at her..."I'm sorry?...Um...well, they're mini bagels."

She continued to stare at my food as if it was some grotesque piece of artwork. "Oh, they're mini bagels. I didn't see that. (continues staring)..oh, well, I guess that's ok. That means you don't have to eat anything until lunch."

I was dumbfounded and responded, "Well, they're only 330 calories total." As my coworker smiled and went about her day, I plopped down in my seat, completely dejected, and immediately thought about what a glutton I am for eating a 330 cal. breakfast. Seriously?! Who does that? I'd never have the audacity to comment on what someone else is eating. I know it's just a little thing, but isn't it amazing how easily self-perception can be affected by someone's offhand comment? I'm getting over it now as I chomp on my banana and Lean Cuisine, but I just wanted to give a shoutout to others who have been a little derailed by someone else's insensitivity. I think many of us have been there and would tell you to keep going, you're doing great, and when you reach your goal, you're going to look and feel fabulous...as you enjoy a large slice of celebratory cheesecake. :tongue:
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  • kwardklinck
    kwardklinck Posts: 1,601
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    You just keep going hun. I know people look at my food and wonder how I lose while eating so much. We know the trick my friend! :)
  • That_Girl
    That_Girl Posts: 1,324 Member
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    I would have just told her to stop staring at my food and to go away.

    I can't stand people commenting on ANYTHING I eat, even if it's to say it looks good. Go.Away.

    Screw her. lol 330 calories for breakfast is a GOOD thing. I usually range in there...or more. It's the most important meal of the day anyway.

    Eat a really big lunch (within your goals) and then prove to her that you CAN EAT and still lose weight.

    Forget what she said. She's dumb.
  • poisongirl6485
    poisongirl6485 Posts: 1,487 Member
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    Yeah I don't deal well with people like that. I probably would have told her to mind her own damn business.
  • Smokenmirrors
    Smokenmirrors Posts: 71 Member
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    People are insensitive meatheads sometimes. You should have looked at her and asked her if she ever considered dying those gray hairs...

    Stick to it. MFP is always here...
  • SabrinaJL
    SabrinaJL Posts: 1,579 Member
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    I don't have the inappropriate commenters, I have the saboteurs. A friend and I go out to lunch 2-3 times a month. We always go to Applebee's. I've started having the under 550 cal meals and water. We NEVER order appetizers or dessert. We went to lunch the first day I had started working out. I could barely move. So what does she suggest? Going for ice cream afterward. Edited to add that we're actually going to lunch in an hour. We'll see if she suggests ice cream again.

    My kid will have things like Coke and Toaster Strudel and offer some to me.
  • emiliewright
    emiliewright Posts: 148 Member
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    Punch her in the face....I would.
  • kbray003
    kbray003 Posts: 52
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    It always irritates me when people make comments on what I'm eating. Even when I weighed 120 lbs, it got on my nerves. My goal right now is to lose 25 lbs and my coworkers aren't jerks about it, but the comments still aggrevate me. For example, eveyone wanted to go eat chinese food one day, but I already had my lunch planned for the day so I told them I wouldn't be joining them (it wasn't a special occasion or anything). This one guy asked "So, what are you going to stay here and eat your rabbit food?" It didn't have a condensending tone but still... My response was sinply "yep".

    Don't let these people get to you. They will never go away so just keep your focus!! You're doing great!!
  • pkgirrl
    pkgirrl Posts: 587
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    Be happy about it. She's probably starving herself in ATTEMPT to accomplish what you're doing. Once everyone starts to see results, they're all going to be your best friends and want to know exactly what you're doing. Just hang in there, it's your life and you're in control =D
  • hroush
    hroush Posts: 2,073 Member
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    You should have said, "Hmm, 320 calories does seem a little much, maybe I'll shove one of these up your tail pipe. " :laugh:

    You can't let these people bother you, they don't know you. They aren't your dietician. It may be blunt, but you may have to learn to say (or something similar), "when I want your ideas on how to lose weight, I'll ask."

    It was only last week with a change in my breakfast I was consuming over 500 cal. :noway: I have recently changed it again (cut it down), so now it's only 350 ish.
  • MelissaL582
    MelissaL582 Posts: 1,422 Member
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    Aww...I'm sorry. People like that..make me sick! Every morning I eat around 400 calories and it does keep me full until lunch..but to say that to someone. Ugh... It's hard enough losing the weight and to heard comments like that from other people, just makes you want to slap them in the face!
  • SabrinaJL
    SabrinaJL Posts: 1,579 Member
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    pkgirrl, I LOVE your sig. That quote about being thin annoys me. I always think, "Hmmm, I've seen some really thin junkies and cancer patients. I bet they don't feel very good."
  • Jaessa
    Jaessa Posts: 122 Member
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    I, along with many others, have had to suffer rude and insensitive comments from others on not only my weight, but anything else some people feel they have the right to say something about. It still hurts my feelings, but rather than go home and stew about it, I look them in the eye and say, "What ever would possess you to say something so hurtful?" It usually shuts them up in a hurry.
  • lurtle
    lurtle Posts: 9
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    I just LOVE the diet police.

    I recently had a co-worker give me a lecture on healthy eating, as he pointed out that I could "lose at least 100 pounds".
    I couldn't believe that ANYONE would have the nerve to stand there, someone that I don't even know that well, or ever open up to about anything, and he says that to me.
    For the record, I do need to lose a large amount of weight, but he said it almost as if I wasn't aware that I was overweight.
    Every time I eat something, this man goes into his spiel about why I shouldn't be eating it.
    I've started just walking away in the middle of his yapping.
    What's really sad is that my reaction is to NOT eat healthy in front of him, because I don't want him thinking that he is the reason I'm eating healthy food.

    I honestly don't think that these people are giving this advice to help, I believe they are seeing their own flaws and they don't want you to succeed. It's a form of sabotage.

    I won't even go into the issues with my mother and eating healthy!
  • mikeylikesit1177
    mikeylikesit1177 Posts: 79
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    screw her. sounds like she is jealous to me. use that as motivation and shove it down her throat
  • jojowink
    jojowink Posts: 189 Member
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    just keep working hard...lose that weight and that'll shut her up!! People are strange- everyone is wired differently...

    take a deep breathe and keep on keeping on:)
  • Jenn728
    Jenn728 Posts: 683 Member
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    Keep doing what you're doing!
  • MeaganAnn84
    MeaganAnn84 Posts: 95
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    I cannot stand it when someone calls a salad "rabbit food"...ugh! I love salads with tons of veggies on them. I've always loved salads. Rabbit food, I think not. Go home and eat your really-bad-for-you whatever. I'm good here. With my rabbit food.
  • Newmammaluv
    Newmammaluv Posts: 379 Member
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    Punch her in the face....I would.

    LOL this made me laugh!! Totally what my hubby would suggest!
  • Serenifly
    Serenifly Posts: 669 Member
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    My name is danielle - and I work in a shop full of 12 men . ... My husband included, he calls me Danielleeee (Danielly) Then one calls me Smelly Danielly ... and one called me Jelly-Belly Danielly

    :(

    I hear ya sister. I told him to f*** off ... but I work in a shop, so it's totally ok.

    Hard not to get down some - But what you could have said (hindsight is SO 20/20) "I've lost three lbs this week, me and my mini bagles sleep fine at night than you'

    BEEEYOTCH!
  • tawny7
    tawny7 Posts: 276 Member
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    Some people are just jealous. Try not to let her words upset you, though I know how hard that is to do!
    330 calories is NOT a lot for any meal so don't worry about it!!

    It amazes me at times what people think is acceptable to say!!!

    I constantly have coworkers asking me what size I now wear....just when did that become anyone else's business???? lol!!!

    Take care of yourself!!

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