BDD Support :)

I love this idea! I feel huge, all the time, even though I know I am not that overweight. I hate the way I look, and even though people tell me I look great (I lost a considerable amount of weight after I had my first child) I don't believe them. I look in the mirror and all I see is my fat, round belly. Thanks for bringing this up, I thought I was the only one!

HERE HERE! lol

Fortunately my very loving boyfriend/fiance keeps telling me how skinny I am looking. Also fortunately those pants I bought several months ago without trying on because I just "knew they would fit" actually do now. But when I look in the mirror before my shower (which everyone knows they do so dont deny it lol) it all looks EXACTLY THE SAME to me. :explode: I don't know how to change my mind into thinking "YAY I LOOK SKINNY"-er.... :sad:

I'm right here with you guys. I'm down almost 30 lbs, and I know there is a little bit of a difference, but I haven't seen one since 15 lbs lost. The people around me are all saying I look really skinny (some have gone as far as saying I look emaciated...great friends huh? :frown: ) but I still want to lose more!

I'm so with you!! I've actually had to tell some friends that I need them to keep telling me I look like I've lost weight! not out of pride or looking for the attention, but because I DO NOT SEE IT!

Why is it that when we KNOW we've accomplished so much, we still feel like we haven't done a thing?
I'm terrified that I'm going to reach my healthy goal weight, still see the 213 lb. girl that I was, and not be able to stop...

that is pretty much exactly what has been happening to me. I started with one goal and it just keeps getting lower. And lower. And lower. But I still see weight to lose. I keep telling myself that I'll be smart enough to stop before I reach the underweight BMI, but I'm honestly not sure that that will happen.

I've secretly thought this too! comforting to know I'm not alone.

This is a small and probably pointless thing to write, but it isn't something I can talk to anyone about so I'm posting it on here.

I think I have BDD going in both directions. I'm always feeling like I'm not thin enough and still eat like I am trying to lose weight; at the same time, I am PARANOID of someone mentioning my weight loss because I am afraid they will think that I am too thin. So last night when I was going to hangout with my best friend/on-off kinda boyfriend, the only thing I could think about was how long it would take him to comment on me being too small (he hasn't seen me without a sweatshirt on in five weeks which would cover any weight loss and he frequently would comment on how I looked "pale and frail"). Surprisingly, not one comment all night or all morning For the first time in a while, I was able to relax and not worry about my body being too big or too small. I could just enjoy spending time with him.

I don't know how many songs are written about the lengths that extraordinary men go to for the women they love. What about the extraordinary lengths that women go to every day for the men who refuse to love anyone more than they love themselves? That would be a great music video. I can empathise with where you are. I spent 2 years with a "man-child" right out of high school, and then spent 4 years married to another one. Then, I went through some deep soul searching (paired with a wonderful therapist, and a little help from anti-depressants). I'd like to say that my life is "happily ever after", but let's face it- that only happens when you're animated by Walt Disney. In real life, the struggle continues, but so do we. That's where I am now. I eventually found a wonderful, supportive man (who acts like a man instead of a boy). We have out struggles. We win some and lose some, but at least we're on the same team. I feel genuinely loved and supported, even when he makes stupid comments - he's great, but he's still a guy - not a god. I wish I could give some wise sage advice to fix the problem, but all I can say is, "hang in there", and remember what you're worth. If you don't - then others probably won't either. Even between relationships, you're never really single. Don't take me for a Bible-thumper, but God really is there, and He hurts when you hurt - and He hurts when you hurt yourself. God delivered my husband to me - and me to him. I hope He does the same for you.