I hate my job...should I quit?

Dreamerlove
Dreamerlove Posts: 441 Member
edited September 25 in Chit-Chat
I absolutely HATE my current job! I have been there 2 years too long. I serve tables and that is my husbands and I "gas/food" money. I want to quit and just not show up tonight. They treat their employees like crap, and I just can't take it anymore. What should I do..If I don't go in we will get behind on all of our bills??? Should I suck it up again even though I have cried at work the last 6 times I have been in? Or be late on our bills and PRAY I can find another job???

NOT to mention, Its making me stressed so now I don't want to workout. AND my husband says he thinks I should suck it up till I find another one..BUT I HATE IT SOOOO MUCH!!! The hostess will purposely not seat me, talk about me, push me till I snap (bc they know I NEVER snap), and the managers will do the same thing...along with doing crappy work....I just want a "big girl" job. come on I am 23!

I have been looking for another job, last night I applied at 17 different places...I am qualified I have 3 years of college exp. I have Dental administering credentials, 5 years of office assisting/sales ..etc

My question is would you go or just not show up...I don't need them for a reference I can say I wasn't working while in school.
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  • JustinTime4Dinner
    JustinTime4Dinner Posts: 13 Member
    Ask yourself this question and wait until you give yourself an honest answer before making your decision: would I rather have the stress of this crappy job, or the stress of looking for work given that the average work search is taking 1 year or more?
  • lisy28
    lisy28 Posts: 156 Member
    I would stick with it till you find another job even though it sucks balls... Kepp appling like crazy or go to a temp agency and get placements...

    Thats just my advice
  • bluiz13
    bluiz13 Posts: 3,550 Member
    go to work....suck it up and wait to hear from the 17 other places....quitting and putting your living and paying of bills on hold cause you are unhappy is not acceptable as a grownup.....make the best of what you have....and be grateful you have a job...
  • samantharae121205
    samantharae121205 Posts: 185
    Ask yourself this question and wait until you give yourself an honest answer before making your decision: would I rather have the stress of this crappy job, or the stress of looking for work given that the average work search is taking 1 year or more?

    just wut i was about to say. lol. id wait till i found a new job then leave em without notice.
  • kimber607
    kimber607 Posts: 7,128 Member
    I hate to say it...but I say suck it up
    always better to look for another job when you are employed (coming from a recruiting stand point)
    Plus it is very tough out there, you have NO idea how long u will be unemployed.....
  • Mindful_Trent
    Mindful_Trent Posts: 3,954 Member
    Not to be rough, but part of being an adult is paying the bills. If quitting your job (without a new one lined up) is going to cause a financial hardship, then you shouldn't do it. If you're not sure if you will get behind on your bills - it sounds like you and your husband need to sit down, look at the finances and decide as a couple if you can get by on just his income for a little while. If so, then it might be an option. If you can't get by on just his income then you're probably best to just wait until you have something else lined up. Sounds like you're actively working toward finding a new job - keep at it and eventually something will work out.
  • ZebraHead
    ZebraHead Posts: 15,207 Member
    I'm with Justin. And it's easier to find a job while you already have a job. :flowerforyou:

    But you gotta do what you gotta do. The sun will come up tomorrow either way.
  • TheBlondeGirl
    TheBlondeGirl Posts: 19
    If I were you, I would go in and try to think of a backup plan. I hate my current job too and I'm in college. I was so stressed between working full time and going to school part time that I was failing all of my classes, so I talked to my boss to see if I could reduce my hours, or go part time until the end of the semester. They agreed to let me go part time until May 1st, but during that time they are hiring my replacement. Work sucks, and I want a big girl job too..they're just hard to find. If you can stand it, go in and make what money you can make to keep you from falling behind on your bills, or forcing you to take another crappy job you'll hate just as much to have money. That's my 2 cents anyway! Good luck!
  • amstein18
    amstein18 Posts: 131
    be responsible & just suck it up for the time being. find comfort in knowing that pretty soon you'll never have to step foot in that hellhole again! don't let the environment get the best of you.. just keep reminding yourself that you're just using them til something better comes along. good luck on your job search :)
  • jamielr84
    jamielr84 Posts: 545
    The smart sensible answer would be to go in and keep your job until you find another one. But if you don't, its not the end of the world and you wouldn't have to worry about that place ever again. Just work extra hard to find another one as soon as you can. As long as your husband says its okay. I have quit a job I hated before I had another one. I didn't regret it one bit!
  • catysthename
    catysthename Posts: 278 Member
    You have the experience and finding a job right now on your own is hard. So i recommend going through a temp agency. I found a job within the week and got to pick my pay rate. I'm 18 making 9.50 as a temp and when I'm put on permanent in the next couple of months i move to 12-14 dollars an hour and I'm a scale clerk/admin assistant. It's a pretty good idea if you think about it!
  • possummama
    possummama Posts: 96 Member
    think of the extra stress you'd be putting on your hubby if you quit. I think you should go to work
  • alliecore
    alliecore Posts: 446 Member
    Ugh. I'm sorry it's like that for you. I hope you can find another job, but the market is rough right now. My husband has been looking for a local job for 2 years now with no luck. He continues to drive truck over the road because it puts food on the table. It is ROUGH to have to stay with a job you hate....mixed blessing, because you are kinda blessed to have a job, too...if that makes sense. :) Hope you find another one soon! Good luck:flowerforyou:
  • Beebs33
    Beebs33 Posts: 262
    Definitely keep the job!!! I work two jobs and have two degrees and still haven't found a job in my field. So it could take longer than you think. But keep applying and practicing your interview skills. It will come in time. I have had some great interviews and I know the right job will come along. God has plans for all of us even though we do not know what they are they will be great plans.
  • ajbeans
    ajbeans Posts: 2,857 Member
    Ask yourself this question and wait until you give yourself an honest answer before making your decision: would I rather have the stress of this crappy job, or the stress of looking for work given that the average work search is taking 1 year or more?

    just wut i was about to say. lol. id wait till i found a new job then leave em without notice.

    Yes, because leaving them without notice is something a "grownup" would do. :noway:

    I've had jobs I hated. The only one I ever quit without first giving notice or finding another job was a retail job when the manager told me I could have a holiday off, so I drove all the way to visit my folks (3-hour drive), and then she told me I had to come in after all and if I didn't show I'd get fired. If I'd had notice to give, I would have given it.

    If you and your husband count on that money, stick it out until you find another one. He's telling you he thinks you need to stick it out, and his opinion should count more than anything you might hear from strangers on an online forum. Don't ask US for advice. Talk it through with your husband.
  • kimber607
    kimber607 Posts: 7,128 Member
    I would never leave a job without notice//////
    You never ever know what may happen down the line, who u may need as a reference...don't wnat to burn any bridges
  • marindak
    marindak Posts: 168
    call in sick today, take a break, and get back at it tomorrow. You shouldn't quit without having another job lined up.
  • lutzsher
    lutzsher Posts: 1,153 Member
    Bottom line is you can only do what is in your "comfort" level. If the stress of a job is making you crazy and irritable at home and bothering you that much it isn't worth it. But in saying that you should never just "not show up". Just because people at this workplace don't deserve consideration, you should not lower yourself to their behavior. Give your 2 weeks notice and leave if it is that bad, or do so when you find another job first.
  • 1FitMomof4Girls
    1FitMomof4Girls Posts: 202 Member
    What about finding a simliar job in a better envrionment?
  • amymeenieminymo
    amymeenieminymo Posts: 2,394 Member
    I've only quit one job without having another one lined up and it was a big mistake. I was still living at home thankfully, but it still bit into my finances because I didn't want to totally depend on my parents.

    I looked for two months before I finally got something else.....it was horrible, I only lasted there four days, quit and went back to my old job and had to practically beg for it back (even though they were complete A-holes which is why I quit in the first place).

    Suck it up until you find another....knowing the end is near should make it a little more standable.
  • lesley12345
    lesley12345 Posts: 89 Member
    I know you hate your job and I think a lot of people have been in your situation, but if you and your husband rely on that income for food and gas than sometimes you have to make the responsible choice of "sucking it up" and work there until you find another job. Look at it this way, there are a lot of people out there that don't have jobs and don't have money and with the economy not being the best, it's not easy to get a job, appreicate your ability to work and be proud of yourself for not giving your co-workers the reaction they are trying to get out of you.
    If you look at your budget and think you can cut spending in other areas to afford gas and food then maybe you could quit, but it sounds like you and your husband rely on the job to pay for those things.
  • ShellyMacchi
    ShellyMacchi Posts: 975 Member
    jobs are not plentiful or easily found... if it was me i would keep working though (as at least it meant i had a job) and redouble my efforts to find another place to work at the same time and not leave present job until i know i do have another source of income once i leave the job i hate.
  • SeasideOasis
    SeasideOasis Posts: 1,057 Member
    Ive been where you are. Worked for a small family owned and operated shop that I HATED. The one sibling treated me horribly...Not only was I not a family member, I wasnt the correct 'European race', so I was constantly wanting to cry or punch things.

    When I put my two week notice in, I didnt have another job lined up (first time since I was 16...I am currently 25), but my last week at the old job, I had an interview, and was hired because I would start the following week. Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do and pray (or meditate...whatever you do) things will fall into place.

    When I was in your spot, it was affecting my school work, and ruining my relationships (boyfriend, family and friends)...Getting out was the best thing I could do.
  • Liatush
    Liatush Posts: 627 Member
    Not to be rough, but part of being an adult is paying the bills. If quitting your job (without a new one lined up) is going to cause a financial hardship, then you shouldn't do it. If you're not sure if you will get behind on your bills - it sounds like you and your husband need to sit down, look at the finances and decide as a couple if you can get by on just his income for a little while. If so, then it might be an option. If you can't get by on just his income then you're probably best to just wait until you have something else lined up. Sounds like you're actively working toward finding a new job - keep at it and eventually something will work out.

    I agree with this completely. I know it sucks and you need to find an outlet for your frustrations, but if this means being behind on bills, that's more stressful than any stress in a job.
  • 90poundsoflard
    90poundsoflard Posts: 81
    NOT to mention, Its making me stressed so now I don't want to workout.


    One way to deal with stress is to work out. I am unemployed at this time, and there is a lot of stress with looking for a job and worrying about losing my house. I have a much brighter outlook on the days I get some good exercise in.
  • komplexlysimple
    komplexlysimple Posts: 48
    It's easier to find a job, when you have a job.
  • twooliver
    twooliver Posts: 450 Member
    Keep focus on your vision of what you want to be doing and put your energy towards making that happen rather than giving your energy to feeling angry and stressed. These folks are nobody's on your journey to your destiny, so don't let them get you so riled up. Only you can control how you react to the situation. Hang in there and you will soon make your vision happen!
  • pedalingfast
    pedalingfast Posts: 1
    Stick it out until you find another job. Never burn your bridges...it's a small world and who knows where or who you will work for next. People talk and you don't want to be the one they talk about and not get the job you want because word got around that you quit and didn't show up for work. Big girl, means big attitude. Pray for calmness, give your stress/worries to HIM. It really helps.... Many blessings...have patience. Good things come to those who wait.
  • cgipson165
    cgipson165 Posts: 11
    Suck it up.
    Stuck it out.
    Stand up for yourself.

    They only treat you like crap because you let them get away with it. If you hate it that bad... start applying somewhere else and wait for the next opportunity to come.
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,412 Member
    This may be unsolicited or unpopular advice but here it is:

    I am in Human Resources - absolutely do not quit without giving notice. If they let you go after you give notice, fine. If they let you work out your notice time do the best you can while there. Ideally find another job first. No matter what you think, future employers have ways of finding out and it will be even more difficult to get employment. I don't know what part of the country you are in but jobs are still hard to find. I know plenty of folks that have been looking over a year. I have way more applicants than I have positions to fill. Otherwise, put yourself and hubby on a really tight budget. Most states (if not all) if you quit a job you cannot qualify for unemployment. Twenty Three is an adult, and you should behave like a professional, not matter what field you are in. I have been burned and stressed out more than once in my worklife. Things will get better. Keep looking.

    Good luck.


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