Fatty

It sucks to have a friend say that, but honestly (joking or not) you left yourself open to any comment including the one you recieved. However you can always estimate calories from what you eat and log it in that way at least you are tracking. I wouldn't feel bad about eating/drinking etc even if its a little extra on special occasions as long as you realize that you may not see the scale move or it may move in the wrong direction.

we are only human and we can't avoid events and parties. just make your self accountable and have fun.

My redneck side might of come out!!! Depends on the number of beers!!! I have not done a lot of drinking or partying since I have started this journey...so i am not the best judge!!

I would say....forget her!!! You do what is best for you!!!!

It really depends on how it was said, and how well you know the person, and how in touch she is with your weight loss journey. For ex., I have a good friend, who is right along side me with my journey, and if she said, "Yeah, maybe you should." I wouldn't take it personally at all. I'd know that she has my back, and knows that what I'm putting in my body probably isn't the best for me, and would be saying it out of love and concern, b/c she knows that I would be kicking myself the next day in the gym, "Oh why did I eat/drink all that????" But if my dh said that, I'd be pissed, b/c he'd only say that if he thought I was making myself more of a fat *kitten*. Does that make sense?

Maybe deep down she's jealous of you... forget her! You don't need to waste a second of energy on what SHE thinks. This is your journey. I know, easier said than done. Believe me... there are many times I'd love to crawl inside someone's head to figure out where a comment came from. Short of just out and out asking her, you'll probaly never know. So you can stop torturing yourself wondering how to take it.

That's my two cents!!

Since you were at a party, were there other people in the room when you mentioned it and she responded that way? Not to condone october's theory, but honestly an open comment is usually a target for any kind of response. If your friend is one of those that acts a certain way around certain people, assuming others were in the room or within earshot, she may have tried to be funny, but your reaction might have had her give it a second thought.

Though, since I'm a grade A *kitten*, I roll with it if ever I leave myself open for potshots. I wouldn't take it to heart.

Meh, sounds like she was being catty.

But I don't think she was calling you names. Is she usually like that? If so, she doesn't seem like a very fun person to be around.

She could have meant it to be catty or she could just be a blunt person (that may lack some tact) who wants to see you succeed. Either way, try not to let it get you down. I know that's easier said then done, but really what's the alternative? Getting depressed and fed up over things like this just can just set us back and make us want to give up. Instead use it as motivation. Hurtful comments can make good fuel to the fire.

If you’re asking the wrong question, even the right answer won’t help.

So let’s get objective for a moment. She didn’t call you fat or make fun of your weight loss. Yet, that’s what the ears inside your heart heard.

Your ears were primed to hear something negative about your body and your weight, because deep down you have negative beliefs about your body and your worth. So much so, that you asked out loud for a confirmation that you are overeating and out of control. Even when it hurts, we seek confirmation of our core beliefs, because that confirmation allows us to keep believing them. We want evidence that we’re right (regardless of how damaging the belief is) and we’ll take any opportunity we can to have someone reconfirm what we already believe about ourselves.

There is nothing that anyone here can tell you, that is going to erase your core belief that you’re not good enough.

You are the only one that owns your food choices, good or bad. You do not need approval or confirmation from anyone that what you’re doing is okay.

You are, right now, okay. You’re not going to be a better person when you’re thin. You are perfect, beautiful, and lovable Right Now. And no former co-worker at a St. Patrick’s Day party should be able to take that away from you. So don’t let them.

I would have taken it as an insult and asked her flat-out if she meant it that way. If she's not the sort of friend who you can ask candid questions of, she's not the sort of friend whose opinions matter anyway.