"You don't need to lose weight"

I say that I have a number in my head and its a totally healthy bmi.

I know that I don't need to lose weight because I am now a healthy weight but as someone who was overweight I want to hit the all important goal weight and stay there.

i say i'm not happy with my "jiggles" and working out and eating healthy will lose the jiggles....

I've lost almost 50 lbs and am currently working on maintenance and being as fit as possible. I would like to lose a couple more lbs, but that is for my own satisfaction. I know I don't "need" to lose any more.

Rather than say that you're losing weight try a different approach... I usually just smile and nod and tell them that i'm eating healthily and getting fitter. There's not much negative they can say to that!

I get the same thing. Sometimes it comes across as a compliment and other times it comes across kind of mean. Just smile and say, "thank you."

The real question is, why do you feel the need to tell people that you're trying to lose weight in the first place? Do you like it when they tell you that you don't need to lose any weight? I was having a conversation with a co-worker a couple of months ago, and she is probably a good 100-150 pounds overweight, when our other co-worker approached (weighing ~120 pounds) and asked if we would support her in trying to lose five pounds. The obese co-worker of mine just calmly told her to GET OUT OF MY OFFICE. :laugh: . Then she said, "I hate people like that", and I couldn't disagree with her.

IMHO, it gets old hearing people who appear to be in good shape obsess about being overweight; it's like the guy who goes to the gym every night telling me that he needs bigger biceps. Maybe you do, but I don't give a crap. I might not tell you that you don't need to lose weight, but I'd probably give you a good eye roll when you started talking to me about it.

I love how other people feel sooooooo free to comment on someone else's weight. How did it get to where that was socially acceptable? That said, personally, I'd pass out of someone made a comment like that to me, hehe, and I might actually kiss them. Instead, I get the other end of that spectrum. I ran into someone a couple of weeks ago that I hadn't seen in several years. He said, "Wow dude, you really packed on the pounds, what happened?"

I liked it better in days when folks just talked cr*p about you behind your back. This new fangled world where it's Ok to say whatever you want as long as it's to someone's face, really stinks.

How did I respond to his comment and how would I respond to someone telling I didn't need to lose anymore weight. I didn't respond, I just walked away. I didn't politely smile, I didn't say anything snotty, I just turned around and walked away and reminded myself why I hadn't seen him in several years. He's a rude jerk and not someone I wanted actively in my life and he just reminded me of why.

Unless I ask your opinion or advice, don't offer it. I don't care if you're "really concerned" or "just worried about you." Boundaries people, learn to love them again. If you can disrespect me enough to offer your thoughts on my weight unsolicitedly, then I am very comfortable respecting myself enough to move from your presence. I'm done with those kinds of people in my life.

Yeah I get that a lot, actually. The clothes/small frame thing is on point and really the only areas of my body that aren't at least muscular (not toned) are my abs/lovehandles. So of course everyone's like "Oh, you 're going to be like those hungry man commercials and blow away."

I just smile because I know when I leave the gym I feel better than they do all day long.

I get that all the time. I just tell them I am trying to get toned and my weight is just a frame of reference. When I get to the SIZE I want to be (jean/dress size) I will be happy with my body. I may weigh more than my goal weight, but I will know it is muscle and not fat. I also tell them that since I was thin all my life, I can feel the fat. It's heavy and I don't like the feeling and want it gone. And if they can't/don't/won't understand then they are just BFJs and not worth my time trying to explain it any further.

Rather than say that you're losing weight try a different approach... I usually just smile and nod and tell them that i'm eating healthily and getting fitter. There's not much negative they can say to that!

This is what I do as well, I shift the focus away from weight and to health and fitness.

Tell them to lay off the haterade.

I'm in the same boat. I know I don't NEED to lose weight, but i'd like to tone up and look amazing (in my eyes) in a bikini this summer. My daughter just recently found this silly "about me" book that I wrote in when i was 15. I was 123. I am now 35 and weigh 127. I'd just like to lose a little...maybe 10-20 pounds, particularly the booty Just a little toning...but I am soooo bad at getting motivated and I love to eat!

Well looking at you in your profile I'd agree. Not to say we all can't be healthier and change our body composition. You seem to be a healthy weight and BMI but if you feel you can be healthier go for it.



Just remember you can weigh more and have lots of muscle tone and be smaller.

Also some larger people like myself can feel offended because we NEED to lose weight and get the feeling that people are judging us. Not saying it happens now with me but when I was younger I had a size zero friend who always complained she was fat. UMM yeah not buying it was always my thought. But getting fit is always an option if you feel jiggles or trouble zones.

"Unless I ask your opinion or advice, don't offer it. I don't care if you're "really concerned" or "just worried about you." Boundaries people, learn to love them again. If you can disrespect me enough to offer your thoughts on my weight unsolicitedly, then I am very comfortable respecting myself enough to move from your presence. I'm done with those kinds of people in my life."


This needs to be stitched on a pillow, absolutely love it!!!! I'm already hearing it from certain members of my family and I'm not even close to goal weight, except that what I hear is "Oh, I'm so glad that you're losing weight, but don't get any smaller than a size 12/14. You would look funny/skinny/sick any smaller than that." wtf? I'm 5" 5 with a medium build. A 12/14 is NOT going to look "too skinny" a 12 is still going to look like I have some chubbies that need to done away with >:/

How do YOU respond to such comments?

I would say "You're right. What I need to do is lower my body fat level whilst preserving lean body mass and strength. However, i haven't decided if my focus should be myofibrillar or sacroplasmic hypertrophy in my resistance based training. What do you suggest?"

That should shut them up. Most people are clueless.