Food diary hiders....Why?
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Mine is open, I don't care what ppl see, I eat what I eat. yes some are good days and like today well a not so great day. But my weight is coming off and in this for the long haul, not just a quick fix. So yes there are temptation's that I will have.
For me it is learning self control over these things. Not ever having them or having them and then feeling guilty b/c I ate a "bad" food.0 -
I expect full reports on your food intake. All of you. Daily.0
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Simple....It's none of your business!0
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Generally speaking, there is a great deal of emotional baggage related to eating habits, so food and dieting can be an intensely emotional issue for many people; it doesn't surprise me they would choose to keep their diaries private.
Other people just like their privacy.
Totally agree.0 -
I just found out, that you had to activate this, to open my diary. So maybe some people don't even know, that their diary is not public.0
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Well I can think of 3 seperate times someones "friend" posted their food diary on the boards just to bash them.So that may have alot to do with it.
My diary is open to freinds only I do not need to be held accountable by anyone but myself.
I am losing weight just fine.
When my diary was open to everyone I got so many downright rude messages from the so called experts around here I got sick of it.0 -
Mine's private because I want it to be
I don't have to justify that.0 -
Oh, here we go again. :grumble:
I second that.0 -
Some people on this site are rude, and extremely holier-than-thou. I got sick of all of the unsolicited comments and "advice" from randoms.
Several posters in this thread itself prove this point quite well.
....Really? I'm not seeing it.
As for being vulnerable, I have one friend I respect a whole lot who goes over her goal every day and eats fast food. She's in college and very stressed out, but damnit, she logs and publishes daily. Everyone, including me, encourages her and she's already making positive changes. I've had some holier-than-thou's but I take it with a grain of salt, and some of them have lost a lot of weight, so they're worth hearing from. I'm not threatened by criticism from successful MFPer's, I welcome it. Some, on the other hand, lose 1 pound and act like they know everything! Haha.
thats what im talking about,one person sent me a message if I let my kids eat the proccesed food i eat i should have them taken away.im sick of it.and you know what ive lost almost 50 pounds so i must be doing something right0 -
I don't think it's anyone else's business...but mine is hidden because I eat junk sometimes and sometimes I don't eat very much at all and don't want people griping at me ;-)0
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Can't really see the problem, then again i've no rude people offering me 'advice'.
Anyone can see my diary, i quite glad that i have supportive friends. When i started out i thought i was eating well but was'nt really losing. By opening my diary a few of my friends were able to give me advice on changes i could make. Now if i see one of my new friends struggling with the start of their journey i ask if i can read their diary so that i can pass on the advice i was given. I would'nt get upset if they did'nt want me too. A few of my friends have closed diaries & thats up to them. But if your going to put up a forum post requesting help, you really do need to poen it so people can help. You can always close it again.
At the end of the day it's down to personal choice, if it bothers you that a friends diary is 'nt open send them a message. If they don't want to open you've just gotta respect that0 -
For some reason I've noticed that there is a lot of entitlement on this site and this post shows one of them. My dairy is open but if I chose to have it set to private that would be my choice. My journey isn't about pleasing others. Its all about me so my choices are my own and I only take myself in to consideration. So I really think its selfish of others to try to dictate what people should or should not do when it comes to their MFP account.
Yanno, people join this site for many reasons and everyone's reasons do not have to mirror your own. I didn't join this site for accountability...not from others anyway. I joined because the database was larger than fitdays so I can log my food quicker without having to create a lot. My accountability is to myself and myself only. In the end I don't need anyone telling me a job well done. I am my own cheerleader, motivator and disciplinarian. The support here is a plus but when I'm alone I have to be able to support myself.
Anyway to those of you that are private people...do you. Don't allow others to control you through their selfishness.0 -
I hide my diary because I think it is personal and is not any one's business.0
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My diary is open now, although it was hidden for the first week I was here because I didn't know how to unhide it. LOL!
It doesn't bother me that other people don't show their diary, thats their perogative. It doesn't hurt me or take anything away from what I do if I can't see their diary.
I don't understand why the first thought to a hidden diary is something negative like eating 15 oreos a day. Projection maybe? Watch me like a hawk or I'll jerk you around?
Maybe this is a lesson in respecting boundaries 101.0 -
Oh please! It doesnt mean a person isnt logging or eating badly. I blog and I post status' and give my opinion on various things but because I dont open my diary for all to see I should be shunned and thought of as doing something wrong? Thats completely close minded and makes no sense. I know for myself I keep my diary closed because I dont feel the need to let everyone know what I'm putting in my mouth everyday every single meal. I am transparent enough on my blog and why cant people navigate their weight loss journey on their own terms? They should take you off their friends list for not being respectful of their choices. The key word in this post fyi is THEIR.
I totally agree with this post...... also so people have food issues and are using this sight to help with over coming that... so in saying they are doing something wrong , becuase they don't want everyone to see them trying to over come this issues to horriable..... its like asking a trauma victim to post the healing process to everyone.. so unfair....0 -
Oh please! It doesnt mean a person isnt logging or eating badly. I blog and I post status' and give my opinion on various things but because I dont open my diary for all to see I should be shunned and thought of as doing something wrong? Thats completely close minded and makes no sense. I know for myself I keep my diary closed because I dont feel the need to let everyone know what I'm putting in my mouth everyday every single meal. I am transparent enough on my blog and why cant people navigate their weight loss journey on their own terms? They should take you off their friends list for not being respectful of their choices. The key word in this post fyi is THEIR.
I totally agree with this post...... also so people have food issues and are using this sight to help with over coming that... so in saying they are doing something wrong , becuase they don't want everyone to see them trying to over come this issues to horriable..... its like asking a trauma victim to post the healing process to everyone.. so unfair....0 -
Oh please! It doesnt mean a person isnt logging or eating badly. I blog and I post status' and give my opinion on various things but because I dont open my diary for all to see I should be shunned and thought of as doing something wrong? Thats completely close minded and makes no sense. I know for myself I keep my diary closed because I dont feel the need to let everyone know what I'm putting in my mouth everyday every single meal. I am transparent enough on my blog and why cant people navigate their weight loss journey on their own terms? They should take you off their friends list for not being respectful of their choices. The key word in this post fyi is THEIR.
I totally agree with this post...... also so people have food issues and are using this sight to help with over coming that... so in saying they are doing something wrong , becuase they don't want everyone to see them trying to over come this issues to horriable..... its like asking a trauma victim to post the healing process to everyone.. so unfair....0 -
My diary is open to my friends only. Why? Because they are my friends. I don't even know others, so why would they need to see what I eat? Besides, this is my journey that I am choosing to take. Only I can make decisions for myself. I don't need someone else giving me unwanted personal opinions on what I should or shouldn't eat/drink. I call them opinions because unless you are my doctor, thats all they are to me. Do I have something to hide from others? No, I just have seen how some "experts" on this site can be controlling, misguided, and downright rude to others. My friends are supportive. What these other people do is NOT what I would call supportive!0
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It really surprises me that so many people say they have private diaries because they were tired of beng judged or criticized. My diary has always been public, and in no way is it perfect by any stretch, but I haven't had a single stranger send me a message about the atrocities of my food diary, and only one friend has reached out to me via private message and she actually gave really helpful advice and I truly appreciated it. I haven't had a single negative experience by keeping my diary open for the world to see. Hmm.
But, I do agree that it's a personal decision, and to each their own. I would never delete a friend because they had a private diary. The only time it bugs me is when someone is specifically asking for advice and they don't open their diary - it's really hard to give someone good advice if you can't see their food and exercise.0 -
So judgmental.
My diary is private. I faithfully log all my calories and I faithfully log all my exercise. I can't believe that you are making assumptions about other posters' integrity based on whether or not they decide to share their food diary.
Why do you even care what other people are eating?
If there are people who are happy and having success, than I'm happy for them. I don't try to find out every single exercise they do on a daily basis so why would I need to find out everything they eat?
Don't be such a nosy parker and let people do things their own way. It isn't hurting you. Sheesh. Take up rug hooking or something and mind your own business, mister!0 -
My diary is open now, although it was hidden for the first week I was here because I didn't know how to unhide it. LOL!
It doesn't bother me that other people don't show their diary, thats their perogative. It doesn't hurt me or take anything away from what I do if I can't see their diary.
I don't understand why the first thought to a hidden diary is something negative like eating 15 oreos a day. Projection maybe? Watch me like a hawk or I'll jerk you around?
Maybe this is a lesson in respecting boundaries 101.
Oh you are so right...I agree totally.:drinker:0 -
Oh please! It doesnt mean a person isnt logging or eating badly. I blog and I post status' and give my opinion on various things but because I dont open my diary for all to see I should be shunned and thought of as doing something wrong? Thats completely close minded and makes no sense. I know for myself I keep my diary closed because I dont feel the need to let everyone know what I'm putting in my mouth everyday every single meal. I am transparent enough on my blog and why cant people navigate their weight loss journey on their own terms? They should take you off their friends list for not being respectful of their choices. The key word in this post fyi is THEIR.
You point to a side of MFP that I haven't seen. Everyone I encounter is helpful and constructive, with the exception of a very few quacks. My friends see and comment on my food, and I theirs. To me it's like trying to be a nudist and not taking your clothes off. This journey is about weight loss. If someone plateaus for 2 months and won't publish their diary, where they're eating 15 Oreo's a day, then others gets a false representation about whether MFP works. Same with the one who loses 5 pounds a week and doesn't publish. I do see your point that it's people's right not to share, and it's also my right not to have friends who won't show their cards. =o]
DUDE, IF U DON'T WANT THEM TO B YOUR FRIEND, THEN DO YOU AND DELETE THEM. THAT'S YOUR ISSUE IF YOU CAN'T GET OVER THE FACT OR RESPECT OTHERS PRIVACY! DO WHAT FLOATS YOUR BOAT AND MAKE YOU HAPPY AND STOP TALKING ABOUT IT ALREADY! HAVE A GREAT DAY AND WEIGHT LOSS JOURNEY!! :-D0 -
I keep mine open since people are often curious about what vegans eat, here and elsewhere. It's handy to be able to go, well, here's what I eat *link*.
I'm lucky enough to have never received unsolicited comments or advice about my eating habits.0 -
Oh, here we go again. :grumble:
i very much agree. it is a personal choice. yes, people could be lying, but they could also just be very private. have you tried asking those friends why they choose to? maybe delete them based on their reasons or if they seem suspicious. not just for that one fact without knowing or trying to find out why. i have mine open to my friends now, but at first i needed that time to gain confidence without people seeing how bad my diary was.0 -
Mine is open and on weekends, I don't always log. That's me.
Why is it open? Eh, no biggie. After all, it's MY account, MY choice, MY settings. See a trend? If someone chooses to have it private, let them. If you're so curious, perhaps ask them.
I've seen some people get some pretty nasty comments about their choices. God help the person who thinks they're going to tell me anything about mine, unless they care to pay my grocery bill, cook my meals and such!
To each their own...it's their account, not yours. Also, if they're not eating enough, is it harming you? No.
If you have questions concerning my diary or choices, you may ask. Suggestions are welcome, too. That's where I draw the line with mine. Unless I ask for criticism, it's not welcome with me.
Completely agree... I'd ask them, I am sure they'd tell you. Mine is set to private... I am extremely careful about logging everything maticulously but because it takes so much determination, I don't want negativity from others. I have been consistently been losing weight according to the limits set to this program. If I was struggling and needed advice from others I would ask and make my diary public. I think like so many others we come on here for support and for some people that is not about being told off for food choices.0 -
I have logged every calorie I have put in my mouth since starting MFP and my diary is private. I am sorry some of you are so nosey and judgemental that you presume people must be lying to themselves because you don't have access to their diaries. I am a private person. My photo isn't on MFP, I don't post my exact location...not all of us want all of our business out there. If someone wanted to delete me as a friend for that, I would say go right ahead...it is clear you aren't the kind I'd want to associate with anyway.0
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I didn't think my diary would be any help because I don't list the food I eat. I am a numbers person so I do the numbers on my own and enter as quick add calories only. So pretty much my diary will show only the number calories I eat at each meal and snacks.0
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My food diary is private and always will be. There are a few people who have asked for more information about "Am I Hungry" and I have willingly shared my diary with them for a quick view. I don't need or want the food police in my life. I do not believe in dieting and for the most part I think counting calories is a waste of time. I have learned/am learning to rely on my body to tell me what it wants and needs and it works for me.
Someone made a comment about saying "good job" to someone who is under their calorie goal and that they aren't comfortable saying that if they don't know what the person ate. I never tell my friends "good job" for being under their calorie goal. Not because I don't know what they ate but because I don't necessarily see that as an accomplishment. I don't see the "calorie goal" as a true goal. Some days you may need more and some days you may need less. Did you honor your bodies needs today? THAT deserves a "good job" and the only one who can say whether or not that happened is the individual person, not a random number on a computer.
I also never say "good job" on weight loss accomplishments. No matter what you do you cannot control the number on the scale. Your body will let go when it is ready and when you have done what you can to take care of it. I say "Congratulations" because it feels great to lose when you need to but it seems to me that saying "good job" when the scale goes down is the same as saying "you failed" if it doesn't and that isn't the truth.
Food and calorie counting is not the center of my life and never will be again. You don't need to compare what I eat to what you eat. Our bodies and needs are different. Do what is right for you and don't worry about what I am eating.0 -
I opened my diary. A lot of people have a sense of shame about what they eat and how much they exercise. I am trying to overcome that. I am trying to be open with myself and unashamed. I could probably get a lot of comments about things like my vodka intake or my chip levels. ;-> I haven't and if I do it's the other person's problem not mine. I've lost weight in the past living on unrealistic diets and here I am again with weight to lose. I'm eating this time like I hope I can continue for life. I'm losing slow, but not complaining.
We recently started a weight loss challenge at work. There were some heightened emotions about it and some of our perpetual dieters decided not to join in. You cannot underestimate the emotions involved in eating and weight. What might seem an innocent comment you made on someone's food choice could trigger an unhealthy response in them.0
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