NOT so complimentary compliments?
Has anyone given you a "compliment" since you've started losing weight, or just in general, that you're like ummm what? After I lost like 30-35 lbs one of my customers said "oh wow, you've lost weight, *pause* you looked cuter pudgy" ummm what?? And recently people like to tell me I look like Snookie, in my book thats a put down, nothing against her, but that's not really something thats a confidence lifter. IDK.
Anyone else deal w/ this crazy bs?
Anyone else deal w/ this crazy bs?
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No, but I had a good friend of mine lambast me on FB because of this picture. It was really meant to be a joke and in good humor. He went on and on about "Oh look how he's posing in a certain way and all!". It pissed me off pretty bad, to be honest.
Sometimes you just gotta take the high road and remember:
HATERS GONNA HATE!
Plus, you don't look anything like Snookie!0 -
My dad told me I looked great. My mom told me I had "less of a muffin top", which sounded to me like she was just saying I was "less fat" rather than saying I looked good.
People are weird. Don't let it get to you.0 -
No, but I had a good friend of mine lambast me on FB because of this picture. It was really meant to be a joke and in good humor. He went on and on about "Oh look how he's posing in a certain way and all!". It pissed me off pretty bad, to be honest.
Sometimes you just gotta take the high road and remember:
HATERS GONNA HATE!
Plus, you don't look anything like Snookie!
oh FB haters are the best! hah!0 -
When looking at old pictures, I often get... "wow Jennifer, you were so HUGE back then!! LOOK at you!". Lol. But it makes me laugh rather than be insulted because I'm not that girl anymore! I've come a long way, and I'm still going! :laugh:
And Zach, your picture really makes me laugh!! I don't think I've ever worn an apron in my life, and I cook a fair bit. I love the pattern you have happening on it too! Lovely! :bigsmile:0 -
My dad told me I looked great. My mom told me I had "less of a muffin top", which sounded to me like she was just saying I was "less fat" rather than saying I looked good.
People are weird. Don't let it get to you.
thats so crazy, misery sure does love company!0 -
No, but I had a good friend of mine lambast me on FB because of this picture. It was really meant to be a joke and in good humor. He went on and on about "Oh look how he's posing in a certain way and all!". It pissed me off pretty bad, to be honest.
Sometimes you just gotta take the high road and remember:
HATERS GONNA HATE!
Plus, you don't look anything like Snookie!
I agree you look nothing like Snookie, and yes that is not a nice compliment...
Dude, your "friend" is just jealous..that pic is smokin! Own it, bro!0 -
OMG you do not look like snooky and I understand why you would be offended. Not to put her down and all but I get it.. You look great go with it. I agree with ZachyABaby ignore them pay attention to the positive people out there.
Don't read into the compliment just edit it to make it work for you. To many people these days take compliments as Oh he is hitting on me or she is hitting on me (no self esteem issues there LOL) or they hear the bad things.. Push them out and if they are hitting on you enjoy it.
ZachyABaby that is a funny pic i think.. posing or not oh well0 -
No body has said anything. Nothing. not one word.
My mother has said NOTHING and she was always the one with the fat comments.
Oh well. My husband says plenty
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You don't look like Snookie in the slightest.
I have gotten one good compliment since I've lost.
Then I got someone that said: Yeah you've lost weight, congrats, but your still really really fat. Geee thanks...0 -
Has anyone given you a "compliment" since you've started losing weight, or just in general, that you're like ummm what? After I lost like 30-35 lbs one of my customers said "oh wow, you've lost weight, *pause* you looked cuter pudgy" ummm what?? And recently people like to tell me I look like Snookie, in my book thats a put down, nothing against her, but that's not really something thats a confidence lifter. IDK.
Anyone else deal w/ this crazy bs?
You don't look ANYTHING like Snooky! Just had to say that!
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You don't look like Snookie in the slightest.
I have gotten one good compliment since I've lost.
Then I got someone that said: Yeah you've lost weight, congrats, but your still really really fat. Geee thanks...
damn bringin ya up to kick ya back down0 -
So far I've only gotten things along the lines of "I didn't realize you were that big" when looking at pictures and such...0
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oh people, gotta luv 'em i guess.
ps thnx for saying i dont look like snookie, i was getting annoyed w/ that one!0 -
i'm glad you people get the joke. i think most of the people (like that friend of mine) who make ignorant *kitten* statements like that feel bad about themselves and are jealous. it's snuffing out other people's flames in hopes theirs will burn brighter.0
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No, but I had a good friend of mine lambast me on FB because of this picture. It was really meant to be a joke and in good humor. He went on and on about "Oh look how he's posing in a certain way and all!". It pissed me off pretty bad, to be honest.
I love this picture!!! I like a guy with a sense of humor! People often reflect their own shortcomings or sense of guilt when they deliver a back handed compliment. Grain of salt over the shoulder.0 -
Recently had a co worker congratulate me on my 70 lb weight loss,then turns around and says "of course when your that big its easy to drop big numbers.All i could say was thanks lol. im new so i dont know how some pple put their numbers on here but here goes. SW= 363 CW=290 GW 2200
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Some people get a real charge from taking the wind out of the sails of others. They won't change. It's sad, but true.0
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Hmm...I try to think about the person intent and if it was not meant to be harmful I try not to take it that way. I've had people say funny things to me.
One guy I dated told me that I had "great fat distribution". Some other guy I met at the gym started chatting me up about fitness asking me how much I work out, then asked if i'm still trying to lose weight (because i told him i've been trying to lose weight...) and then said, "yeah, another 10lbs and you'd be (wink, thumbs up)" LOL!!! And that conversation happened while sitting in the steam room. IDK. hope you enjoyed my stories, at least.0 -
i'm glad you people get the joke. i think most of the people (like that friend of mine) who make ignorant *kitten* statements like that feel bad about themselves and are jealous. it's snuffing out other people's flames in hopes theirs will burn brighter.
My husbands cousin refers to people like that as lobsters because he says when you take a lobster out of the tank, the other ones will grab on and try to pull them down. He says people like that are the same way. When you try to make yourself better they try to grab on and pull you back down to their level.0 -
One guy I dated told me that I had "great fat distribution".
*face palm* I think if someone had told me that I may have busted out laughing from the absurdity .... lol oh my god, what do you say to that? Thanks?0 -
Someone told me I looked less "rotund". LOL. I didn't ask but whatever.
I try not to talk about losing weight with others, but I'm prepared if they want to try. I'll just ignore them.
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One guy I dated told me that I had "great fat distribution".
*face palm* I think if someone had told me that I may have busted out laughing from the absurdity .... lol oh my god, what do you say to that? Thanks?
I didnt' know what to say! It could have been his way of saying that he liked where by fat is located (but & boobs maybe? I don't know!?) LOL!!!! totally absurd...but I got the feeling he meant no harm. who knows?! But it makes for good story-telling!0 -
I had a guy tell me he was showing off my before and after picture to a friend. He said, and I quote:
"I showed him your before picture and he was like, "Ew! Ugh!", then I said, "Wait!".
Then I showed him your after picture and he said, "Ah, I approve!"
But the guy kept saying the "Ugh" part of the story over and over as if I'm soooo much less gross now then I was before. It's like,
"Hey! I used to look like that 24-7, thanks for agreeing that I was once "repugnant"!"...Ouch. What an a**hole.0 -
I haven't had any comments so far - it's almost as if people are scared in case they say the wrong thing maybe? I don't know - I can tell that I look better so surely other people must be able to?0
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Me: "OMG Brandy I've lost 16lbs"
My best friend: "Don't jinx yourself"
Me "*****! don't be mad because you found them"
Lol... You can tell we are BEST FRIENDS!
If you dont understand it must be a gay thing... lol.0 -
My friends jokingly called me "Skinny B****" lol... it made me laugh... My response was "Hopefully soon enough"0
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My grandmother "I see you have lost a little weight, how much have you lost now?" Me "20lbs" and she replies "oh, you're doing great dear, it's a shame you have such a long way to go!'0
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My grandmother "I see you have lost a little weight, how much have you lost now?" Me "20lbs" and she replies "oh, you're doing great dear, it's a shame you have such a long way to go!'
Oh wow...my Dad is like that! "Capt. No Filter" is his name. 0 -
My grandmother "I see you have lost a little weight, how much have you lost now?" Me "20lbs" and she replies "oh, you're doing great dear, it's a shame you have such a long way to go!'
Your grandmother and my mom would be the best of friends.0 -
And recently people like to tell me I look like Snookie, in my book thats a put down, nothing against her, but that's not really something thats a confidence lifter. IDK.
Anyone else deal w/ this crazy bs?
SNOOKY? I certainly don't see it. Natalie Portman maybe. There's actually another actress, less famous, that you totally resemble, but I can't think of her name at the moment or anywhere that I've seen her so that I can imdb it. 
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