I think some people just wanna see you fail.
A_shelton316
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So last Friday I was feeling good I had a good weigh in and when I got off work I was ready to work out like normal, but as I was pulling in to my drive way my aunt pulled in right next to me (she was coming over to watch the basketball game KU that started at 6:30) she said "hey I brought dinner." I had planned on cooking dinner after working out while everyone was watching the game. I knew when she said she brought dinner that it was nothing good for me. Pizza in fact!!! I was really upset that she brought that over because I have hard time with self control I can't have that stuff in my house or I will eat it! So not only was there pizza being cooked in my kitchen but my husband forgot to tell me that he was having like 5 other people over to watch the game. So there went my work out because there is no where else in the house I can do my work out we only have one DVD player. I was so upset not so much with my husband but with my aunt she knows that I'm trying really hard to lose this weight and live a healthy life style but she don't think that I need to lose any weight (she is heavy herself). Ugh I just needed to vent a little. Thanks for reading
Alicia
Alicia
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then what more motivation do you need.......0
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I completely understand. The only person supporting you is you! My family will be like, take the day off from the gym you look exhausted, or hey come over for dinner we are having take out.
You just have to realize that ultimately the only person watching out for you is you, when you are feeling pressured to make stupid decisions just think about how it will effect you the next day.
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No problem, girl...... vent away!!!!!!!! Sometimes you just need someplace to let it all out. I feel your pain. It sucks when your carefully constructed plans fall apart on you. Tomorrow is another day!!! Good luck!!!
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Yah, sometimes it feels like all the forces are working against you. But if you can get through it, you'll be stronger in the end and proud of yourself! Hang in there, don't let people who work against your efforts weaken you!0
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I'm lucky because my wife and I joined MFP together and we are both changing our lifestyle. I don't blame you for being upset support from those around you makes a huge difference. Don't forget you always have support from your MFP friends and family. Stay strong and keep up the good work.0
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You can do it!!!!0
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This is the exact motivation that makes me kill it in the gym everyday....Use this as fuel for the fire!0
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You are the only one in charge of yourself. If you don't want to eat pizza, don't eat it.
I know it's hard, my husband has beer in the house and chips......I don't indulge. The thing is, I can't control traffic, or the weather, I can't control the mood other people around me are in, the economy, the war, I can't control most of the things in my life - but what I can control, what I have ULTIMATE power over is.......what I put in my mouth - and how often I can and do exercise.
I"m sorry.....but you should have gone on a walk - put on those headphones and gone out the door - you could have made a nice healthy dinner for you......even if it is just a salad - watch other people eat pizza? Yea, kinda sucks - but you are the only one who has the power to make changes in yourself.
Hope I didn't sound too harsh - just sayin' how I feel.0 -
Yes, some people have a hard time w/other's success. Hold fast to your goal. I hope you found the willpower to avoid overeating and could find satisfaction in that. You will succeed!0
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That's tough. It's also bang out of order for your aunt to do that. Even more so if she mocks you for trying to lose weight.
Can you go out for a run/walk or something instead? Sometimes downing a ton of water helps as well. Also, as you know, eating soup is usually pretty awesome (fills you up without the calories).
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I swear my boyfriend is making me fat. He encourages me to go the gym but then feeds me cookies and popcorn. Litterly, feeds me. What the heck!0
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When I go out to dinner with my friends, they always always always try to get me to "cheat" on my diet. "Come'on, just one piece of pizza" or "Just one bread stick won't hurt!" or " Are you sure you don't want this yummy chili cheese fries?" Ugh of COURSE I do. I love food! Stop it!
I think people who know they should be eating better but don't want to try to bring you down to their level so they don't feel as bad. You just have to keep thinking about your ultimate goal!!
Oh and when they say things to me about what I eat, I just think to myself "You just wait till I'm all skinny and hott! Then you'll be jealous!"
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I think every person who is trying to lose weight has that one person in their life who always tries to ruin it for them. However, here is my question... Did you eat the pizza or did you cook what you were planning on eating, because if you ate the pizza than you let her win. You are going to come up against obstacles all the time, you just had to learn how to say NO. Good Luck with your weight loss quest.0
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Just remember you are responsible for what you put in your mouth and no one else0
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Sometimes I think the same thing. I think that if you fail then the people who want you to feel justified in their lifestyle. Prove them wrong : ) Show your aunt how it's done!0
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That is why I don't share what i am doing with too many people and focus on those who truly help and support! Next time just get out and run or blast your radio and dance.... that way you will truly earn that pizza and can eat it without a bother in the world!! Also it will help not to solely depend on a dvd player... I know i get agitated when I plan to workout with the dvd and don't get the chance!0
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Stick with it... so many want to see you succeed and unfortunately, some don't. I haven't been in that situation, but my thoughts were, take your workout outside for a walk and do some stepping where you can and then get take out from a place that has foods you like. My favorite go to is Gator's Dockside - Sea Breeze Salad. Keep it up the great progress and even if you do fail one night, get back to your successful journey!0
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some people don't think about it but you can usually play dvd's on your computer too or search for workouts online, unless of course you only use your phone to log in or your computer is also in your living room lol. I have a t.v. in my room and that is where my computer is so I don't have to worry about people seeing me workout or being interrupted!!!!0
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Pizza doesn't have to be bad for you. Check out this page.
http://www.tourdepizza.com/0 -
Its ok to vent!!
I def understand the self control thing, its hard for me to resist eating bad foods in the house, especially PIZZA!!!
Maybe next time someone seems to want to make you fail use that frustration to fuel you! Put on your fav work out clothes and go take a walk or jog outside. Not only will you get a work out in, but you will remove yourself from the food and look great doing it!
You are in control, don't let anyone get in the way of your goals!0 -
The sad fact is that it's true--there are people who don't want you to change.
But it's not really about you, but rather about them.
You know the drill. Just think of the million and one excuses you told yourself over the years while gaining the weight. I'm tired. I'm busy. I'm naturally fat. I don't have time. It's too expensive to eat well. I'll start tomorrow. Men like curves (yes they do, but curves ain't what we're discussing here, right? ) I won't list all the excuses, but you know what they are.
When YOU take the reins and get back in control of your life, it threatens everyone else because their excuses suddenly look very flimsy. They abruptly and unwelcomely have to face that they are lying to themselves every minute of every day. People tend not to like that. So they fight back. They'd rather do anything (including ultimately die) than to face a truth they don't want to face.
So even though you may not be running around preaching the 'better living' gospel, the simple fact of your success makes them uneasy. Some will just avoid you, some will try to sabotage you, and some will get angry. But keep in mind, that's not about YOU. It's about them and what they aren't ready to face.0 -
You have every right to be upset (don't let your husband off the hook that easily either, because he should have told you about the friends coming over and maybe you could have planned better). I'm not sure it's so much that people want to see you fail as much as it's not their reality, therefore it's inconsequential to them. This is YOUR journey, not theirs so you have to own it. Ultimately, you're the only one that can control what you eat, regardless of the temptations around you. There will always be temptations, you just need to learn and develop positive skills to deal with them. You could have gone for a walk to both cool off and get in some exercise. Just use this as more motivation to reach your goals, and surround yourself with positive folks that are supportive of what you're trying to do. That will help you to not be brought down by the others. Good luck!0
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I know exactly what you're talking about! I've had to put up with this for years! My fella will be going to the shops after work for a sugary snack and before he goes i get the usual: "do you want anything? no? you sure? Im getting a twix, you sure you dont want one? last chance! Now are you sure!"
I've told him not to aks loads of times! I say to him - "you're a feeder!, stop trying to feed me when you know how much effort im putting into a diet!"
Anyways, 20 minutes later he'll be back from the shop with two chocolate bars saying "I know you'd want one once you saw mine so i got you one anyway!' WTF!!
I have the worst will power EVER! and im addicted to chocolate like a hooker is to crack! He knows that if its in the room, it will haunt me for a solid 2 hours, playing on my mind until ive consumed it, and the guilt lasts longer than the time spent eating!
YOU ARE SO TRUE that some people just want to see you fail
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A lot of people want you to fail because you are getting results and they aren't. It's a lame psychological way of keeping you on their level. You get enjoyment out of different things now; healthy eating and exercise and they still enjoy greasy food, not exercising and not working toward goals. People do not understand how much work you are putting in, how much you are sacrificing, how much you are changing because they are not doing it with you. You have to wear your heart on your sleeve in these situations and tell them that you haven't been working hard just to slack off when THEY feel like chowing down on some pizza. Be assertive, just like you are with your diet and exercise. They may not understand the physical grind, but if you put your foot down they may understand the mental grind you are putting yourself through.
Just wait until people tell you that you look too skinny and try to make you feel self-conscious about how good you look. Those are coming next.0 -
The sad fact is that it's true--there are people who don't want you to change.
But it's not really about you, but rather about them.
You know the drill. Just think of the million and one excuses you told yourself over the years while gaining the weight. I'm tired. I'm busy. I'm naturally fat. I don't have time. It's too expensive to eat well. I'll start tomorrow. Men like curves (yes they do, but curves ain't what we're discussing here, right? ) I won't list all the excuses, but you know what they are.
When YOU take the reins and get back in control of your life, it threatens everyone else because their excuses suddenly look very flimsy. They suddenly and unwelcomely have to face that they are lying to themselves every minute of every day. People tend not to like that. So they fight back. They'd rather do anything (including ultimately die) than to face a truth they don't want to face.
So even though you may not be running around preaching the 'better living' gospel, the simple fact of your success makes them uneasy. Some will just avoid you, some will try to sabotage you, and some will get angry. But keep in mind, that's not about YOU. It's about them and what they aren't ready to face.
couldn't be any further from the truth right there!! x0 -
I think every person who is trying to lose weight has that one person in their life who always tries to ruin it for them. However, here is my question... Did you eat the pizza or did you cook what you were planning on eating, because if you ate the pizza than you let her win. You are going to come up against obstacles all the time, you just had to learn how to say NO. Good Luck with your weight loss quest.
Yes I did eat the pizza. I really need to over come my self control problems thats why I cant have that stuff in my house!0 -
The sad fact is that it's true--there are people who don't want you to change.
But it's not really about you, but rather about them.
You know the drill. Just think of the million and one excuses you told yourself over the years while gaining the weight. I'm tired. I'm busy. I'm naturally fat. I don't have time. It's too expensive to eat well. I'll start tomorrow. Men like curves (yes they do, but curves ain't what we're discussing here, right? ) I won't list all the excuses, but you know what they are.
When YOU take the reins and get back in control of your life, it threatens everyone else because their excuses suddenly look very flimsy. They suddenly and unwelcomely have to face that they are lying to themselves every minute of every day. People tend not to like that. So they fight back. They'd rather do anything (including ultimately die) than to face a truth they don't want to face.
So even though you may not be running around preaching the 'better living' gospel, the simple fact of your success makes them uneasy. Some will just avoid you, some will try to sabotage you, and some will get angry. But keep in mind, that's not about YOU. It's about them and what they aren't ready to face.
couldn't be any further from the truth right there!! x
With what did you disagree so strenuously that you felt the need to lob an attack with no specifics?0 -
Thank you all for your kind words and your motivation. Today is a new day! I will start planning better and working really hard on myself control. :flowerforyou:0
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I know the feeling, and it sucks!! You got through that one - hope occasions like that are few and far between for you (and that they end up being victories, no matter how tough they are to get through!)0
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couldn't be any further from the truth right there!! x
With what did you disagree so strenuously that you felt the need to lob an attack with no specifics?
Pipe down! I accidently said further instead of closer! But WOW! what an "attack" that 9 word sentence was, ouchy ouchy :laugh:0
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