random question for the ladies

I like bigger boys. I like them a bit "thick". I appreciate a toned man but I am not attracted to it. Nor am I attracted to the shapeless "average" build and never ever ever ever ever skinny(that looks like a little boy). I always have had a thing for heavier men(not biggest loser big)

Same here...I can't be with a skinny guy, I feel like I'll break him. I don't prefer overly muscular, but i like someone "thick" too, strong and solid. I'd prefer bigger over smaller. But that's just the outside. Who knows, maybe I'll meet a skinny guy and fall madly in lve with him. :laugh:

Well, I'm not attracted to men very often (I'd say 90% of the time I'm attracted to women, and the other 10% of the time to the occasional man), so keeping that in mind, when I *am* attracted to a man, I'm attracted to slim men who are reasonably fit (not a fitness nut, that's actually a turn-off, just some awareness of a healthy body), but slender in a lean, healthy way, not skinny and out of shape, KWIM? Thats's not attractive to me (and I think it's an often neglected fact that being skin and bones and out of shape is just as unhealthy as being overweight and out of shape) and to a slightly lesser degree, I'm also attracted to men who have an "average" body type (as in neither slim nor overweight, somewhere in the middle of their healthy weight range). Truthfully, I have never been physically attracted to an overweight/very out of shape man, and muscular men (the more muscular, the worse) are a huge turn-off for me. That's not to say I'm so shallow that I couldn't look past a man being moderately overweight (by 40ish lbs. or less; if I'm being honest, I don't think I could get past it if he was more overweight than that) if he's awesome and we click, and especially if he's interested in fitness; if I developed an emotional attraction to a guy like that, I think I'd come to find him attractive physically over time. To be brutally honest, though, I don't think I could ever be attracted to a muscular man, no matter how great he was or how emotionally attracted I was to him. I feel bad for saying that, but I'm trying to be totally honest in my answer.

As for women, same thing, *healthy* slim/slender (and again, when I say healthy, I don't mean *obsessed* with working out and fitness, that wouldn't work for me in a relationship) is most attractive to me, but I'm still significantly attracted, albeit a bit less, to women with "average" (and healthy) body types. I hate to say it, but I'm just not attracted to women who are more than 10ish lbs. overweight, or muscular, and no matter the emotional connection, I don't think I'd be able to develop an attraction. I guess I'm pickier about women than men, shallow as it is :embarassed: . I'm most attracted to medium-sized breasts (a C cup is most attractive to me), but I can be (and have been) attracted to women with anything between an A and a D cup.

I'm also most attracted to shorter people, both men and women (perhaps because I'm only 5'2" myself). It's definitely not a deal-breaker by any means, but my ideal for a man is 5'8" or less and 5'5" or less for a woman (but again, I wouldn't discount someone taller and have dated several people who were).

All that said, I've noticed that I'm much fussier about body type than facial features, hair colour/styles, etc. - I think my taste in both men and women as far as that goes leans toward somewhat unconventional standards of attractiveness, actually.

-- Juliet

ETA: I replied about appearance because that was the question you asked, but I absolutely agree with others who have said that with reasonable limitations (I do think one needs to be attracted to their partner, but as I said, I don't think that means a partner needs to be conventionally hot), personality and character are more important in a partner than looks.

I also agree that you should do what makes YOU happy with your body, and the right partner will be attracted to that - a good partner should be someone who thinks you're great for who you are, including your preferences regarding your body type.