Bullying -- Just a thought x

What kind of bully? I never been bullied but maybe if it's a girl are you scared of her? Get someone to beat her up or something lol sorry I have no advice for you.

I was made fun of in high school...I was over weight. But it has made me the person I am today. I don't let others bring me down because their opinions don't matter to me. What helps is when you surround yourself with people who love you no matter what you look like, sound like, do, etc. I am blessed to have the most amazing family who loves me for me and a boyfriend who constantly tells me I don't need to lose weight and I should eat a big juicy burger! You have to surround yourself with positivity. Get rid of the negative people and things in your life no matter how much they mean to you. Their attitudes will transfer to you. Don't let other peoples moods be taking over yours. I have a lot to say about positivity, loving yourself, and surrounding yourself with the right people...I could go on and on but it is truly something that has changed me for the best!

"People cannot make you feel anything you don't allow them too." ~not an exact quote I think~

Granted though, I'd rather have sticks and stones thrown at me than name calling, cuz it does hurt. So keep those people away from you and as my wise little girl said, "Stay away from people who empty your cup; stay around those who fill it."

I got called "old" the other day. Ouch! However, I'm a pretty good old and we are working at our health and wellness and fitness regardless of what anyone says. Hang in, hang out, and be proud.

I agree! If there's one thing i've been really learning recently is that it is just as important, well more important, to let the work begin on the inside first: or you'll always look in the mirror with disatisfaction, and let what other people say affect how you view yourself.
I was bullied in junior high, it wasn't about my weight, but it certainly affected my self esteem. I struggle to this day with fearing judgement (real or in my mind).
And I always find that the easiest word for a bully to use is the word "FAT" because our society is so obssessed over physical attributes that we are fatphobic. The next word on the chopping block when attempting to degrade or belittle or shatter self esteem? Slut.
It's ridiculous... unhealthy....
We need to love and prioritize who we are on the INSIDE most of all, and maybe if more of us learned to love ourselves, no matter if we are short, tall, fat, thin, black, white..... perfection is BORING and IMPOSSIBLE! It is a grand illusion, gives us false hopes, dreams, goals and ensures that we will always fail! We must embrace our differences, love our selves and our bodies the way we ARE: right NOW!
You're so right about bullies: they are reflecting their own insecurities.
If a person is secure and confident with themselves, they do not need to degrade, belittle, harrass, or bully others!

For sure: Nelson Mandela said in his inaugural speech "let your own light shine" we all have our special gifts, and we need to be the best we can be - and to do that we need to love ourselves!

I was bullied a lot as a kid, too. For being too skinny, having no boobs, having crooked teeth, having thick glasses, not wearing the right clothes, etc.

Mean people will be mean. That's because the suck. :laugh: They get off on hurting others. You can't (easier said than done, I know) let people like that get to you. Just tell yourself how happy you are that you're not a miserable person like that.

I totally agree with that, if its not your weight than its your height, skin, abilities etc. I've been ridiculed by my dad for years and its made me a really insecure person. I don't care what other says but if your own family mocks you than it hurts a ton lot more.

My ex's family use to mock me for being heavy. I thought I was a good person at least and I wasn't trying to win Miss World or something! Now I'm lighter than the majority of them and they have nothing to say to me.

Just goes to show who really does care.