Feeling rude :(

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  • ladyshills
    ladyshills Posts: 58
    It's all about portion control. I had the same issue with my hubby (who is a chef) when I first started Weight Watchers 8 months ago. He would get mad if I didn't want to eat what he had cooked.. We worked through it, he now cooks healthier & I eat whatever he cooks, just alot less of it. Depriving yourself is not the answer. Good luck!
  • Kjarlune
    Kjarlune Posts: 178
    I would say that your best friend does not understand what you are trying to do. It all depends how you said no but from the sounds of it you were entitled to eat or not eat and you chose not to eat. Yes she can eat steak and potatoes but the point here is that she didn't want to eat!....Isn't this a big part of our learning..Not well we could have sat down and ate...One meal isn't going to hurt, pick up the slack. What was wrong with the supper...


    I think you did a great job and you have to have that your BF will get over it. Good job hun...
  • AKFatBoy
    AKFatBoy Posts: 14 Member
    I get a little grrr'd when it upsets the plans I have... If people get mad at me for not doing something else then oh well :)

    Great answer! People for the most part get that. The ones that don't, well, if you have to explain it they wouldn't understand.
  • AKFatBoy
    AKFatBoy Posts: 14 Member
    I would say that your best friend does not understand what you are trying to do. It all depends how you said no but from the sounds of it you were entitled to eat or not eat and you chose not to eat. Yes she can eat steak and potatoes but the point here is that she didn't want to eat!....Isn't this a big part of our learning..Not well we could have sat down and ate...One meal isn't going to hurt, pick up the slack. What was wrong with the supper...


    I think you did a great job and you have to have that your BF will get over it. Good job hun...

    Yep. :glasses:
  • astovey
    astovey Posts: 578 Member
    My husband is one of those meat and potato men that have never even had to weigh themselves. He eats out at least 8 times a week...yeah, I know. This means I eat out with him sometimes. I don't always like watching him and our friends eating all the yummy food, but I order something small and healthy and I can still be social. If we are going to a friends house and they are BBQing, I bring Chicken (sometimes the others want to eat it too) and ask for no sauce, or jsut get smaller portion sizes.
  • NikkiDerrig386
    NikkiDerrig386 Posts: 1,096 Member
    I would say that your best friend does not understand what you are trying to do. It all depends how you said no but from the sounds of it you were entitled to eat or not eat and you chose not to eat. Yes she can eat steak and potatoes but the point here is that she didn't want to eat!....Isn't this a big part of our learning..Not well we could have sat down and ate...One meal isn't going to hurt, pick up the slack. What was wrong with the supper...


    I think you did a great job and you have to have that your BF will get over it. Good job hun...

    Yep. :glasses:

    BF - Boyfriend (though he is my best friend too ;) )
  • myukniewicz
    myukniewicz Posts: 906 Member
    i dont think you were being rude at all! they should be aware of your weight loss goals and it shouldnt offend them/or your boyfriend if you turn down a dinner that you wern't even suppose to attend to begin with lol.

    stand your ground. you go girl! ♥
  • wewon
    wewon Posts: 838 Member
    I don't think that you were rude at all.

    This isn't about weight loss, its about the fact that you didn't want to eat. Would it have been considered rude if you were just coming by after eating yourself? What if you were on your way to meet a friend for dinner?

    Your bf made a mountain out of a molehill. People should be able to hear 'no' without it being a problem.
  • edryer123
    edryer123 Posts: 502 Member
    Don't feel rude. My fiance and I have been together nearly 8years. I love his family dearly, but the love greasy fatty salty foods. They love pizza and pasta. Once in a while its fine, but we go there nearly every weekend or they come here. I have made it known that I'm cutting back on how much food I'm eating and my future mother-in-law has tried to make sure she buys whole wheat instead of white bread and stuff, but sometimes my stomach hurts just looking at the food. She always has salad fixings, so I will have a salad and a tiny bit of whatever meat she's made.

    If you do eat with them, and they want you to eat more. Just tell her that the food was fantastic but that you are full. Drink a lot of water with the meal to help you feel full so its not a lie.
  • That_Girl
    That_Girl Posts: 1,324 Member
    I don't have inlaws. WOOT!

    LMAO!! I can not compain what so ever. I wouldnt trade them for the world!! She never butts in our business and she is the nicest woman I have ever met. His whole family treats me with respect. Also when I am not dieting, her food is amazing!!! I mean I can not even eat cookies anymore bc she has spoiled me so bad with her baking!

    X-mas Cookies + winter = 10 lbs this winter lol

    That's awesome. :smile: I'm still happy I don't have inlaws LOLOL!
  • RoadDog
    RoadDog Posts: 2,946 Member
    You should dump him!! IMMEDIATELY!! THen come over and I'll make you a nice salad and we can cuddle.
  • NikkiDerrig386
    NikkiDerrig386 Posts: 1,096 Member
    You should dump him!! IMMEDIATELY!! THen come over and I'll make you a nice salad and we can cuddle.

    lol ROADDOG!!! ((scolding)) :noway:
  • sexygenius
    sexygenius Posts: 1,078 Member
    I would have eaten it, just be sparing-or go work out after.. no reason you can eat with friends and lose weight- if you dont trust your self to limit you could have just had a plain potato thats only 150 cals...
  • bouldert
    bouldert Posts: 225 Member
    i would just explain your trying to lose weight and tell them you have met your calorie goal for the day ,but you really appreciate the offer ,and throw it back on your b/f that if you had recieved a call from him telling him you could have accounted for the dinner and enjoyed it with them.and i would sit down and show his mom your goals and explain maybe she would understand and maybe even help when she is making dinners ,CAUSE WE ALL KNOW MOMS ARE AWESOME!!!!!1
  • samcee
    samcee Posts: 307
    I say stand your ground! Give in once and than you'll end up giving in again! Maybe he's just hurt that you said no if he was the one who cooked? At least make him understand your case.
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